This is long, sorry. I was a stay at home mom for a year and a half and have always have a very close bond with my daughter, who is now 21 months. My husband and I separated 5 months ago and have been sharing 50/50 custody. It’s been hard for me, but I feel like it is really hard for my daughter.
In the very beginning, she seemed okay. It seems to be getting worse the past 4 months and just recently this last month. My daughter only wants me.
She’s so excited to see me, even if it has only been two days since we have been apart. One time I went to pick her up over there and I went to the trash can to throw something away, she had a fit because she couldn’t see me. If the 3 of us go out to eat, she only wants to sit on my lap. My husband is currently living at his mom’s and I am at my mom’s. I have reason to believe he is not the one waking up with her and being the primary caretaker. I think he lets his mom totally take over (she’s like that).
So anyway, when my daughter stays with me I can’t be out of her sight for a second without her running around the house crying and saying “Mommy? Mommyyyy?” She won’t even let me go to the bathroom without banging on the door and crying. She wants me to hold her all the time. A couple times I have gone to leave to the store, she will hold onto my leg or grab my hand and pull me away from the door. When I put her to bed, she will wrap her arms around my neck like she never wants to let go. Lately, when she goes to sleep she will wake up randomly and yell out “Mommy!” over and over throughout the night. It breaks my heart.
I don’t know what to do. I get scared that she thinks I am going to abandon her or something. She’s always so terrified of me leaving. What do you ladies think the reason is and what can I do to help her?
In the very beginning, she seemed okay. It seems to be getting worse the past 4 months and just recently this last month. My daughter only wants me.
She’s so excited to see me, even if it has only been two days since we have been apart. One time I went to pick her up over there and I went to the trash can to throw something away, she had a fit because she couldn’t see me. If the 3 of us go out to eat, she only wants to sit on my lap. My husband is currently living at his mom’s and I am at my mom’s. I have reason to believe he is not the one waking up with her and being the primary caretaker. I think he lets his mom totally take over (she’s like that).
So anyway, when my daughter stays with me I can’t be out of her sight for a second without her running around the house crying and saying “Mommy? Mommyyyy?” She won’t even let me go to the bathroom without banging on the door and crying. She wants me to hold her all the time. A couple times I have gone to leave to the store, she will hold onto my leg or grab my hand and pull me away from the door. When I put her to bed, she will wrap her arms around my neck like she never wants to let go. Lately, when she goes to sleep she will wake up randomly and yell out “Mommy!” over and over throughout the night. It breaks my heart.
I don’t know what to do. I get scared that she thinks I am going to abandon her or something. She’s always so terrified of me leaving. What do you ladies think the reason is and what can I do to help her?