Taking a step back. Am I crazy?

[Jessa]

Hubby and I started TTC in June 2008. We've been pregnant three times, all of which have ended in miscarriage. I've been charting for about a year -- temping, checking CM, OPKs, CBFM, etc, etc. I think I hit a wall tonight.

I had been okay, however, I just feel like I'm extremely overwhelmed and need to take a step back. I'm on my third cycle of letrozole (similar to clomid) and had been tracking my temp which was showing that I haven't been ovulating on it. If I stop, I guess I won't know what's going on anymore.

Hubby and I agreed that we'd have sex when we felt like it, but no less than every 2 or 3 days.

Am I crazy? I don't want to take this step back and go back to basics, only to ACTUALLY take a step back in my TTC journey. Is this going to be of a significant detriment to me? I'm so confused about what to do, but I feel like I need to listen to my head. What do you think? I need your input!

 

[grneyednurse]

I don't think taking this step back will hurt anything...it feels great not to have all that crap to do...if you just have sex every 2 days and thats it...you will be just fine and will get knocked up wether you take your temp or use OPKs or not...all the monitoring actually makes you more tense and stressed out...it is hard to step back...but I have been forced to now...but I wlll tell you...it is so freeing!

 

[Crypto1976]

I got pregnant after I had a date to go and get sterilised! I got to the point I thought whats the point and went back to good old normal sex for fun. This might be a odd thing to confess however when we were ttc I didnt have an orgasm once, when we gave up trying I went back to having them, not all the time, however when I was about 4 weeks pregnant my mum (who used to be a midwife) mentioned a clinical paper about the role of orgasms in conception and it would appear the spasms can be useful in sucking the sperm up.

Anyway my point is the minute we relaxed and threw caution to the wind I got my bfp with only 11 weeks to spare until my only fallopian tube was removed. I dont think what you are suggesting is a step back but rather a change of tactics!

Very best of luck hun. You deserve this. XXX

 

[cazhd]

Hi jessa i agree with the ladies i really don't think a step back, i've been MIA for a while from BNB just needed some time out. But a good few months ago i stopped the whole temping, opk's and checking cm cos i was turning into a control freak. TTC was completely taking over my life and felt it was adding to the stress of it all. I tend to know when i'm ovulating anyway but me and dh have been having sex when we feel like it and things feels so much better and alot less mechanical!!! I've not got my but i am more relaxed and my emotional/mental health feels a hell of alot healthier.

 

[grneyednurse]

Oh it is so much easier...as long as you hvae sex every other day or 2 (if you don't know when you O without all the gadgets) it is so much simpler...I know when I O so we just have sex daily or every other now (last 2 months) and still don't think we will get that BFP, but it doesn't hurt while we wait for IVF

 

[Blue12]

I am with you Jessa, F*** it all. Take a break, after all this time a few weeks/months isn't a big deal. Take care of you. I know I feel like it is more than I can handle on the best of days.

giant

 

[Deeni]

Jess, definitely listen to what your body is telling you to do. If you need a break, then give yourself a few months of maybe just letrozole and old fashioned BDing. Your chances for BFP may be better because you will be more relaxed. I guess I'm really not one to give advice because we are going on month 15 of no BFPs!! Haha.

I am so sorry you are going through this.

 

[HoneyWright]

ive just come back from a 6 month TTC break and it was fab, im now back ttc with a renewed optimism. I think it saved my sanity.