Tantrums when going in pram.....

[lisa9999]

How do you deal with tantrums in public?
Sophie is 15, nearly 16 months, walks very confidently, and now, more often than not refuses to go in her pram.

Went to bounce and rhyme at library this morn, I let her have a good run round for over half an hour after, looking through books etc, and when it came to going back in her pram she went apeshit. Major meltdown. I was trying to get her in, she was arching her back, flipping over, and shrieking at the top of her voice and everyone was staring at me

She does have a trike, but I find with carrying shopping etc, its a bit more difficult than the pram.

Would a buggy board work? Is she old enough?
I've got reins but find it hard to manage the pram with one hand/ her with the other.

xx

 

[jaybee]

Tobias is just the same. He walks incredibly well, and hates being in his pram. To be honest, most of the time I allow a bit extra time and let him walk everywhere with his reins on.
However if he needs to go in his pushchair, then I go down to his level and explain what is going to happen and then put him in it. I let him tantrum if that is what happens. I am in charge, not Tobias and he is not going to hurt himself when he strapped in.
If people look, let them. I know Tobi is fine and I don't care what other people 'think' might be happening.

 

[smelly07]

I let my LO walk but there are time she needs to sit in her stroller.....i will explain that she needs to go in her stroller for a little while and then would put her in ....to begin with she would throw a mega tantrum but i ignored her and would finally manage to get her strapped in.....after a few minutes she would stop and now she rarely does it....... i dont give a monkeys if we are in public and people are watching.....children throw tantrums now and again x

 

[aliss]

I find that putting him in the sling works far better, it's more interesting. He hates the stroller.

 

[Jchihuahua]

I don't drive so often we have to walk quite a long way to get home from where ever we've been so the pushchair is necessary and Daisy often has meltdowns when she has to get into the pushchair after doing something she enjoys like the park or her groups. I find distracting her with her water or a snack or a book works best.

 

[vanessayogini]

Explain, and then if tantrum, ignore and follow through. my LO has always haaaaated the stroller so I carry her usually, or let her walk/carry her to and from wherever we are going.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

Ruby has taken a renewed liking to being worn so if possible I try and do that instead. The pushchair is a pain for all the same reasons you and others have described! I so often can only get her into it with a breadstick or some raisins or something.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

wouldn't a buggy board make the buggy tip backwards without a second child in the seat? I don't know how they work! If it wasn't for that, it'd be something I'd bought yonks ago.

 

[RJsMum]

Ryan does this as well and yes, people stare. I agree with others...let them. If they have children, they should understand. I'm not making him tantrum, nor does he tantrum because he's spoiled. He does it because he's expressing his frustration in me stopping him from doing what he wants to do.

So...he throws his wobbler. I might comment that he's being noisy, but I get him strapped in and 9 times out of ten he knocks it off as soon as the pushchair gets moving.

I never thought, before becoming a parent, that I would be able to stay as calm...and yes, I feel a bit embarrassed when I see the stares...but he's a toddler. He has no other form of communication and no control yet over his emotions. I know I'm not hurting him and he's not hurting and if it's time to go, it's time to go. Giving in to his tantrums just to keep him quiet isn't showing him that he needs to do as Mommy says...it shows him if he fits enough, Mommy will cave.

The buggy board might work in your case if you're confident she will stay on. Ryan would at first, but I'd also have to keep reins on him as well because he'd decide halfway up our hill to jump down and try to run off.

My little busy-body.

 

[katy1310]

Oh I feel your pain! It could have been MY Sophie you were writing about there! One day recently it took me 35 minutes to get her into her pram outside our house, and then I took her into Cafe Nero to feed her, and when it came time to put her back in the pram we had the same performance, but this time with everyone staring! It made me so stressed out. She just wants to be walking but obviously she can't walk all the time! Normally if I let her have a run around before we go out, she's glad to get into her pram but that doesn't seem to have worked with your LO yesterday. I have had to occasionally resort to bribery with a snack just to distract her while I get her in but I don't really want to make a habit of that. I often get one strap on then before I get the other one clipped in, she arches her back and flips onto her tummy - and she is so strong! Plus I don't want to hurt her!

xxx

 

[Pink Flowers]

LO does this when we put him in the car seat. we tell him that he has to go in it, then put him in it even if he is screaming, then when he as calmed i will tell him again that he needs to go in it to get to places. they seeem to be getting less now