TCC Over 6 years, 6 miscarriages, 1 stillbirth

[Slottie]

Hello Ladies,

I just wanted to introduce myself and chat with anyone who's reproductive history is as grim as mine. I have no l/c and lost my little boy at 28 weeks in Dec 2009 after suffering 5 losses before him due to a blood clotting disorder ( and one since I had him)

My miscarriages and stillbirth are not connected (just 'bad luck' to have suffered both) and I have been ttc since Jan 2004.

Please don't reply if you've been 'ttc forever' at 2 years or less, it's too upsetting.

Thanks for listening xx

 

[cheerios]

Hey Slottie
I didn't want to read and run. But I have a friend who has a blood clotting disorder too and she had to take daily injections of Heparin to ensure her blood didn't clot. Have you tried that? My friend has a baby now...don't know if you have a similar situation.

 

[Slottie]

Hello Cheerios, thank you so much for replying and great news about your friend!

Yes I injected heparin/ took aspirin with my last pregnancy. My little boy died of something else unrelated. If I ever get pregnant again I will always need to use heparin/aspirin.

Thanks xx

 

[MariaF]

Slottie, I haven't been ttc all that long compared to you and I know you said not to reply but I just wanted to say my heart goes out to you.

Because I cannot even bring myself to imagine what you must have gone through....and still going through.

I wish you all the luck in the world and really hope 2011 will bring you a healthy baby you so deserve.

In terms of similar situations to your - I only know if one girl who lost multiple (5+) pregnancies due to "killer cells" in her body. Next time she gets pregnant she has to take lots of drugs....but trouble is she can't seem to get pregnant now...

 

[Slottie]

Thanks so much for your reply Maria, that's really kind. So it seems there really is no-one else here. I was wondering if I might find similar people on a different board, any recommendations?

Thanks again ladies for your replies x

 

[JaniceT]

Hi, my heart goes out to you. Didn't want to read and run also.

My OH and I TTC more than 3 years. Our stories are different though. My OH suffered low sperm motility from a vasectomy he had more than 25 years ago. He had to go under the knife a few times for the reversal and sperm extraction and suffered a lot of physical pain. I went through 3 ICSI's, all with horrible daily hormone injections. By my 2nd ICSI, it was really difficult to poke the needle through my skin as the scaring has toughened up my belly. Sometimes, had to poke more than 5 places to get the needle to go through.

Also, ICSI is no fun. Each time I down regulated, I went through a simulated menopause. At least now I can say I've been through menopause 3 times and don't look forward to the next.

Do keep your chin up and have a ray of hope. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. *hugs*

 

[Blue12]

There is a section here - TTC after a loss - probably many there hun who could understand better. So sorry that you have had these experiences. I wish you all the best in your journey forward.

https://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-after-loss/

 

[bellybump09]

Hey,
I have a 3 yr old miracle and have had 6 losses, ranging from 5 to 12 weeks. I have Factor V Leiden and Antiphospholipd Syndrome. I too take Heparin and Asprin. It doesnt seem to work though. My doctor has said all I can do is keep trying. I have had EVERY work up done and they cannot find anything wrong, other than those disorders which they are treating me for. He says I have bad luck. It is heart wrenching though and I cannot stand another loss, but part of me knows I can handle it should my hubby and I be that unlucky again. We have been trying for our second for 2 and a half years now and it has been a hard road, lots of tears and lots of pain. My daughter was born early (I was induced because of hypertension, cause by factor V). She was a healthy 6lbs at the end of my 35th week! Miracle baby I just dont know what I can do differently to carry a baby again and have no clue how I even managed to have my daughter, it really seems like my body can't handle pregnancy. UGHHH. So, I feel your pain. It is hard to feel the emotional AND physical pain of miscarriages...and 6 is just not fair. I am so sorry you are going through this....ever wanna chat, I am here. I'd love to talk to someone I can relate to with this...

 

[bellybump09]

I just wanted to clarify that I know it is a bit different, as I have a daughter already and I dont want to upset you...
I know it is a little different of a situation, but just want you to know that I am going through the same unexplained miscarriages (when being treated for what is supposedly causing them). Infertility of any kind at anytime is so frustrating and heartbreaking...
So sorry again for all your losses and the loss of your son, I cannot imagine....

 

[dan-o]

Hi Slottie, I know you said don't reply if you've been TTC 2+ yrs (my bracket) but I have been lurking on a infertility and fertility support forum which you may find interesting.

Let me know if you want the address

 

[lola74]

Hi Slottie,
I can empathise with your situation. I've been trying for 6 years. Original diagnosis for infertility was blocked tubes and sent for IVF. After IVF treatments and 3 miscarriages been diagnosed with APS in March. Miscarried before the hospital told me to start taking aspirin. Unfortunately haven't managed to conceive since.
It's difficult, we're going to start the adoption process.
Thinking of you

 

[Zipp]

Slottie, I am so sorry that you are having such a tough time.

We've been TTC for about five years now and have never had a BFP.
The ladies here though are lovely and so supportive.

x

 

[sparkle83]

I've been at it just shy of 11 years, with 3 early m/c.