Telling parents

[vickyandchick]

Hi all:wave:

I probably shouldn't post here as I'm 21 and definitely not a teenager anymore

But I was wondering how some of you guys told your parents and how they reacted, have a feeling mine may hit the roof

Thanks in advance

 

[hunni12]

dont feel bad a lot of in the younger 20s hang out here, but i told my mom like as soon as i found out at the doctors she was upset a bit then she accepted it because i was honest

 

[MummyMana]

I think most people here are late teens/early 20s when I found out I wait to my mum "we've got a bit of news for you" and she said "your pregnant! Congratulations! "

 

[x__amour]

I'm 22 and still here.

I was 18 with my first and just told them straight out. My mom took it well but my dad was kind of a cow at first but came around quickly. With my second I was 21 and we made them a cake that said, "Pink or blue, either will do! Ready to be grandparents of TWO!?" They were very excited then.

 

[Ashleii15]

Awee ): I'd hope your parents wouldn't "hit the roof" you are old enough and "legal" lol and can do things on your own now!
DON"T DO THIS! But I hid my pregnancy for 7 months and went out crying to my mom and made her guess why I was crying. With this second pregnancy she knew we were trying and I just told her I wish you luck!!
I just suggest sitting down and talking with them.

 

[Chunkycupcake]

When I told my mom I was already placed in a foster home so it was at one of our visits. She brought me and my sister lunch and I waited for her to finish chewing and said "happy Halloween I'm pregnant!!!" And she cried more than I did when I found out. But she's been supportive since day 1. Congratulations though!!!!

 

[ClairAye]

Plenty of people in their early twenties post in here!

I told my mum over text first time which was a stupid mistake! I wish I had just told her outright. My parents really weren't happy but I was only about to turn 17. Second time I did it in person, my mum wasn't too happy but that lasted all of a day or two when she started saying I better let her knit for his baby and my dad was fine too

 

[Megloves]

I just told my parents outright.My parents were disappointed at first, and my dad didnt talk to me for like a week. My mom was a touch better, but still disappointed. They have come around though! The scary part was actually telling OH's parents, cause they've never really approved of us. But they were actually pretty cool about it, and his mom said "Well, I guess this means Welcome to the family". It was a combination of sweet and completely snarky (i know it just sounds snarky, but if you knew her, for this woman thats almost a compliment.)

 

[Caitie44]

My mom didn't find out for certain until I was nearly 20 weeks. I didn't even tell her, she asked me outright if I was pregnant, and I said no! Then she asked, "If you were pregnant, would you tell me?" and I said "Nope." So she finally asked me like ten minutes later if I was, and after a few minutes I was finally able to say yes. I felt like I was gonna vomit though, let me tell you! Her reaction wasn't nearly as bad as I'd thought. She was mad at first, and didn't speak... Then she cried a little, as she'd just lost a baby not too long before that. But after about ten minutes of her emotions being all over the place, she was completely calm and fine. I was really surprised she didn't yell lol. She just asked how far along I was, if I'd been to the doctor, what my plans were, etc. She was incredibly supportive the entire pregnancy and I really wish I'd told her sooner. Now she loves Zoe to death!

As for my dad, I didn't really beat around the bush. It was about a week after my gender ultrasound, so I knocked on his office door, opened it, and said "So I have something to tell you. You're going to be a grandpa to a little girl." And he said "Okay." Lol. He's never been one to really have much emotion at all... x) But he adores Zoe.

We told OH's twin next. He was stationed in Bahrain, so we sent him a message with a picture of the ultrasound saying "Here's your niece!" He was really excited.I wasn't there when OH told his mom. He just walked up to her with an ultrasound and said "here's your granddaughter". She didn't say anything negative (to us at least) but just gave us some facts. Neither of us told his dad, OH's twin did with a phone call. I never really got along with his dad before Zoe, but now we're at least on speaking terms. We let them tell everyone else.

 

[KBCupcake]

I haven't had a child yet but I did have a positive FRER last year. I honestly think it was a CP but DH thinks it was a faulty test ;/

Anyway, we weren't ready yet but I was happy/scared/excited coz of the positive FRER. I told my mom and her first reaction was "don't tell your dad." FUCKS SAKE! It made me so angry. 22 years old (still am), with a job, stable relationship and marriage. We're selling DH's house so we can get one in the US, so we WILL have our own home within the next year or two. My mother treated me like I was 15 and pregnant and that absolutely infuriated me. Honestly it still does

I guess my mom still sees me as a teenager. I'm barely in my 20s so I guess I can understand that, I'm only a few years past it. But my DH and I are perfectly financially capable of having a child so it shouldn't be treated as a secret or a burden

aaand I just ranted my bum off. Sorry about that

 

[vickyandchick]

Thank you for all your replies girls, OH and I have decided to tell them tonight

 

[Caitie44]

Good luck! x

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Good luck hun!
My parents were really easy going about it.
My mom seemed disappointed each time, but my dad was great!

 

[ClairAye]

Good luck!

 

[Michellelove]

i got married at 17 because i loved my dh lol and i was stupid i guess... i was 18 when i got pregnant... and i was scared to tell my mom i told her when i got my gender scan (and i found out my dh had a gf) (probably i was scared because he cheated alot during my first and second trimester... and she knew about it.. and i kinda felt fucking stupid... but then again he cheated after i got pregnant so i'm not that stupid i think lol) so i called her since she lives in colorado... and i told her ''mom i'm going to tell you something ok so don't freak out... i am pregnant! and she was sooooo mad!! and she still is but she has been sending me baby stuff and buying everything my baby will need (my dh is a dumbass that hasnt bought shit cuz he doesnt care about the baby needs)

 

[vickyandchick]

Well we told them.

They took it so unbelievably well
My OH asked them to sit down and he told them and they just said "right okay, what are you going to do?"

I burst out laughing from shock

Then they both gave me a hug, told me they loved me and they'd support us whatever decision we made.
Such a relief!

 

[ClairAye]

Glad it went well!

 

[Caitie44]

That's awesome! Glad they took it so well.

 

[JJKCB]

glad it went well, as to how did I do it:

I didnt

my mam kicked me out during an argument when I was 8 weeks pregnant (after she hit me in the stomach) so I left and never went back

this shows how old I am but I changed the little tag on myspace from 'no children' to 'expecting' at 12 weeks and my mam was snooping (she always spies on me) and found my myspace and just worked it out - we got back in touch at 6 months when she tried to help us find a house to move into (as I was homeless and sleeping on a sofa since leaving as both me and OH lost our jobs in the recession) and we have stayed in touch since, its a odd thing to say but SHE'S really grown up since I got pregnant lol

she keeps telling me not to have any more because shes not ready but I dont give a crap anymore, Ive been completely independent since DS was born and have been with OH for nearly well over 6 years so its up to us what we do now

 

[SarahMUMMY]

My mum actually told me i was pregnant with my first baby so i guess im lucky i never had to tell her, she just knew apparently. But she was so angry, actually it was my dad that took it surprisingly well, he put his foot down with everyone else and told them it was completely my decision and that he would support me I was very surprised because i was only 16!
This time round i just rung my mum and said "how do you fancy being a grandma again?" we were all very shocked because i was told i couldnt have more kids so we were all very happy! theyve supported me all the way through both pregnancys at 16 and 18..
I think in these situations you tend to get a better reaction than you think you will