telling your parents?

[mumj18]

I'm terrified about telling my parents! Fay your Mum seemed to take it really well. Had you already moved out?
I'm 18 and currently 10 weeks pregnant and can't even begin to think about my Mum and Dad taking it well and being excited. It is just NOT going to happen. We plan to tell OH parents first, let it sink in for them and ask them if I can move in there and then tell mine and move straight in. If they say I can't move in I am very much screwed because I can't afford to live on my own and my parents will definitely kick me out when I tell them.

 

[lb]

I went to my parents calmly and told them that I needed their support and that I was (still am) scared out of my mind. They were mad at first, and there were some not-so-nice words exchanged about my lack of birth control, but they eventually calmed down and my mom goes with me to all my appointments. They've now accepted my fiance into the family and are very very supportive. To them, it's not about their daughter who messed up, it's about having a healthy grandchild and knowing that I can grow up and make sound decisions. I think the key was telling them as soon as I found out, and not waiting. I was 5 weeks then, and am almost 17 weeks now.

Everyone has their own opinion on how and when a pregnancy should arise, but not everything goes as planned.

 

[17thy]

I called my mom the day before I tested, and told her that I thought I was pregnant for sure. Then I tested the next day and told her that I was. She didn't make a big deal out of it, just said that she was kind of disappointed and upset. That was when I was like 5 weeks 5 days or so? Now I'm 30 weeks, my mother has bought all kinds of things for the baby, been to ultrasounds with me and OH...

My dad, I was living with him, and I packed my bags, left him a note on the kitchen counter, and left with my OH (bf at the time). He was super pissed off, but then again, he came around to it a couple months later. He's still a bit...off...about it, but I can tell he's excited too, he asks about how the baby is doing and moving around and comments on my big tummy

 

[AriannasMama]

I told my parents the day after I found out, and I just blurted it out. It really wasn't that bad, she wasn't mad at me and came around within a few days.

 

[FayDanielle]

I'm terrified about telling my parents! Fay your Mum seemed to take it really well. Had you already moved out?
I'm 18 and currently 10 weeks pregnant and can't even begin to think about my Mum and Dad taking it well and being excited. It is just NOT going to happen. We plan to tell OH parents first, let it sink in for them and ask them if I can move in there and then tell mine and move straight in. If they say I can't move in I am very much screwed because I can't afford to live on my own and my parents will definitely kick me out when I tell them.

She did, she was really fantastic about it! But no, I still live at home Shes even helped me do up her 'laundry' room as the babies nursery as Im staying here until baby is at least 1.

Hun, your 18, your very much capable of making your own decisions now and your parents need to accept that.

You say you're screwed if your OH parents dont let you move in, that may not be the case, they might take it much better than you expect and may accept the fact your going to become a mum, so dont stress out about that too much, until you know for sure what situation your in with your own parents xx

 

[Sentiment]

I'm still too afraid to tell

 

[libbymarks198]

aw hun good luck to you when are you going to tell her?

my mum would be fine if it was with my ex boyfriend she loves him to pieces just hates Harley, we would of been together for 3 years once bubs is here so he is not just some random guy. i said to her a few weeks ago that she needs to grwo up and be civil to him because one day he will be my husband and her grandchilrens dad she didnt take that to well lol

 

[libbymarks198]

I'm still too afraid to tell

wow do they not know?

 

[mumj18]

I'm terrified about telling my parents! Fay your Mum seemed to take it really well. Had you already moved out?
I'm 18 and currently 10 weeks pregnant and can't even begin to think about my Mum and Dad taking it well and being excited. It is just NOT going to happen. We plan to tell OH parents first, let it sink in for them and ask them if I can move in there and then tell mine and move straight in. If they say I can't move in I am very much screwed because I can't afford to live on my own and my parents will definitely kick me out when I tell them.

She did, she was really fantastic about it! But no, I still live at home Shes even helped me do up her 'laundry' room as the babies nursery as Im staying here until baby is at least 1.

Hun, your 18, your very much capable of making your own decisions now and your parents need to accept that.

You say you're screwed if your OH parents dont let you move in, that may not be the case, they might take it much better than you expect and may accept the fact your going to become a mum, so dont stress out about that too much, until you know for sure what situation your in with your own parents xx

I hope my parents are like that. I would love if they got all excited. I don't want them to miss out on stuff that they wouldn't be missing out on if I was ten years older you know?

Yea maybe I'll tell my parents first and see if they will still let me live here. I would save a lot of money and stuff as I would have to pay my way at OH's parents xx

 

[Sentiment]

I'm still too afraid to tell

wow do they not know?

No, I'm preparing everything alone right now

the father told me he wishes I die during labor, so he's not going to help me either

 

[libbymarks198]

I'm still too afraid to tell

wow do they not know?

No, I'm preparing everything alone right now

the father told me he wishes I die during labor, so he's not going to help me either

thats awful hun what a loser! i cant believe someone would say that!

you really should tell someone hun it must be hard not having anyone to support you, im lucky i have OH's family who are very happy and excited so if my family disown me i have them still

 

[Sentiment]

I'm not sure why he hates me so much, i've supported him through everything. He says I victimize myself and he hates me a lot for that, but I think he is guilty and trying to put the blame on me.

I don't really trust my mom that much, and I never met my father.

 

[libbymarks198]

are your friends supportive?

 

[Sentiment]

I have one friend, she seemed supportive but I asked her to help me get to appointments and she pretty much ignored it.

My other friends are very strict christian girls, they don't want anything to do with me anymore

 

[libbymarks198]

aw hun i feel so sorry for you, it must be so hard! please PM me if you ever need to talk.

xx

 

[Sentiment]

I know everything is going to be fine although everything is looking so, bad.

Thank you, I'll take you up on your offer I really need people to talk to.

Good luck to you and your new baby

 

[libbymarks198]

where are you going to live with your mum?

 

[Sentiment]

hopefully, i'm trying to get funds together incase she kicks me out.

I mean i doubt it, but I want to be extra cautious

 

[libbymarks198]

i think you just go and tell her she will be more mad that you have waited this long