Terrified of being a single mum :(

[xxkayla89xx]

Hi ladies hope u are all doing well.. So here's my story... I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first child and found out today that my boyfriend has been sleeping with one of my friends.. So obviously we've broken up, he's says he's sorry and still wants us to be together but I can't bare him to touch me after he's been with her.. I was brought up by my mum and I know how hard it was for her to do that by herself and I'm terrified incase I can't bring my baby up on my own. How do u ladies manage on your own?? Any advice will be much appreciated.

 

[whatwillbe]

Oh god, thats terrible hun, im sorry, but you are better off with out him, you could take him back and he could do it again and you dont want that for you or your baby, i can understand your scared, im about to become a single mom for the second time and its just starting to sink in, thinking will i be able to cope with the 3 kids i already have and a newborne, but i'll manage because i have to, and so will you hun, men!! X

 

[jenfirstbaby]

awww can't believe he has done that to you! Cheating is bad enough but i just can't get my head round someone cheating on their pregnant girlfriend... unforgiveable if you ask me.

I'm so sorry but think you are definitely better off. Of course it will be tough but only for a little while., then it will be all worth while. Your new baby deserves to have a happy mummy, and you will be happier in the long run ! xx

 

[Dezireey]

I'm sorry your partner cheated on you, thats unforgivable. Don't be scared about being alone with a baby. So many women do it and even women with partners spend a great deal of their time alone with their babies while the men are at work. Sure there will be obstacles and hardships but it will only make you stronger as I am sure your mum is a strong lady. it's mind over matter, the more you see being a single mummy as a terrible thing, it will be. Make the best of every situation, accept that there are hard times Nd deal with them and above all enjoy your child/ children as that goes by quickly too and you may regret any time you spent being miserable when they were young. Sometimes people are just victims of circumstance and by no fault of their own, find themselves bringing up children alone. It doesn't make you any less of a person, it makes you admirable, efficient, strong and able to get on with life.

Big hugs, you can do it xx

 

[Jennifurball]

Well TBH I did it all myself anyway so it wasn't much of a shock but I do find it hard when I am having a bad day mulling over the split and Scarlett plays up.

Sorry to hear what happened though.

 

[xxkayla89xx]

Thanks ladies

 

[daneuse27]

I am so sorry that you've had to go through this It must be one of the hardest things to find out two people you should be able to trust betrayed you in such an awful way. Whatever you do, stay strong for your little one. Be a strong woman and that alone will teach them a lot. Dont go back to your ex out of fear as that will hurt you more. And remove that so called female friend from your life. You'll be very busy from now on and will only have room in your life for people who are helpful and supportive. I have a 2 week old daughter and am doing it alone as well. The dad is in the picture, but we're not a couple. We also dont believe in forcing it to work for the child. Divorce does a lot of emotional damage on young children so I wont be serious with him or anyone else again until/unless I'm 100% sure.

You can do this. Reach out to friends, family and the wonderful ladies here. Everyone wants to see you do well, and you will.

 

[linley]

Men, eh? Sorry to hear what you're going through, unbelievable that it's happening so much!

I was terrified when I became a single mum. You really do feel alone. But I'll be honest, I wouldn't have it any other way now. Build a circle of people you really, really trust and want to have in you and your baby's lifes and just drop the dead weights. It's times like these when you realise who's worth your time and who isn't. My baby boy gets me through every single day, all the stress and worry and fatigue is completely worth it if he has a good life and when you see that gorgeous little face looking up at you, you'll feel it too. Anyone and anything that prevents you being everything to your little baby is not worth your time. Someone told me a while ago, "You don't realise how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." That's become my motto and it's getting me through.

I hope you find happiness. And if it takes a bit of time and a bit more pain to get there, it'll feel so much better when it comes along.

 

[daneuse27]

Men, eh? Sorry to hear what you're going through, unbelievable that it's happening so much!

I was terrified when I became a single mum. You really do feel alone. But I'll be honest, I wouldn't have it any other way now. Build a circle of people you really, really trust and want to have in you and your baby's lifes and just drop the dead weights. It's times like these when you realise who's worth your time and who isn't. My baby boy gets me through every single day, all the stress and worry and fatigue is completely worth it if he has a good life and when you see that gorgeous little face looking up at you, you'll feel it too. Anyone and anything that prevents you being everything to your little baby is not worth your time. Someone told me a while ago, "You don't realise how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." That's become my motto and it's getting me through.

I hope you find happiness. And if it takes a bit of time and a bit more pain to get there, it'll feel so much better when it comes along.

soo well said thanks xx

 

[teal]

Massive hugs I'm so sorry, you deserve so much better xx

 

[gracexxx]

I'm really sorry to hear about what you've been through, well done for being strong and leaving him. Many people have said to me that they would never be able to do it and to be honest I never thought I would ( I'd actually considered adoption when I found out I was gonna be a single parent because I was so convinced I'd never do it) but you just cope , it's not easy but remember parenting isn't for anyone single or not. My daughters now 6 Months old and I'd never change anything that's happened. Her dad is not involved in her life at all and were both better off that way. You'll be able to do this cause you have to and you're far stronger than you think.

 

[bee1724]

I am in the exact same situation I am 36 weeks preg and me and the father broke up 2 months ago I been a emotional wreck found out he was cheating and he said he wants to be with me and make our family for when our little when comes and I kept giving him chances after chances to always find out he still was cheationg and probably will never change its been so hard but im just trying to stay focused on my little one
they will regret leaving us worthy ones for just a good time keep ur head up u r not alone