The birds and the bees

[PnutProtector]

I was listening to the radio this morning and this topic came up. They had a mom on the show who talks openly with her 13 year old daughter about sex and it got me thinking about how my mom talked to me and how I felt about talking to her about sex when I was growing up.

I remeber my mom sitting me down when I was about 7 or 8 but I don't remember anything she said. I was never comfortable talking about sex with her because I was afraid she would freak out. I learned all I know from friends, tv/movies, and my own experiences.
My relationship with my mom is much more open now that i am older and I love that I can got to her now with problems and concerns.

When and how did you learn about sex?

 

[morri]

My mother has this awesome book 'a live is created' which has great pictures too by the way.

Also the library has a lot of books too. which I read . Can't rememebr any vital 'talk though xD, btu being the youngestI guess I also learnt it form my sibs? I have really no idea I can only remember reading all the books about it as I was a very avid reader as a kid anyway

 

[Webbykinskt]

I heard it all from my mum from about 10 years old (age-relative information). She was very open and didn't mind me going to her with any questions. Because she was like this, I very rarely get embarrassed when talking to her about sex and things like that.

 

[morri]

Related to that a little joke

Schoolgirl 1 :" I know how to get kids"
schoolgirl 2 ' hah thats nothing . I know how not to get them'

 

[Webbykinskt]

Related to that a little joke

Schoolgirl 1 :" I know how to get kids"
schoolgirl 2 ' hah thats nothing . I know how not to get them'

hahahaha clever

 

[fuffyburra]

My mum made my dad tell us what it was when we asked, and it's THE MOST awkward topic in our household lol. I wish I could talk to her about it properly now I'm older, and talk about the funny stuff that inevitably happens when you do have sex XD
I intend to just make a joke about it, you don't want them to take it too seriously and they'll be more likely to talk to you about it if it's a relaxing topic of conversation.
Really interesting thread actually! xx

 

[PnutProtector]

Related to that a little joke

Schoolgirl 1 :" I know how to get kids"
schoolgirl 2 ' hah thats nothing . I know how not to get them'

clever

 

[Strawberries]

I think I heard it in the playground at school and went home and asked my mum and she told me everything. We're all really close and I can talk to her about anything like that, infact I can talk to my gran and auntie aswell I hope I manage to do this with my daughter when she's older.

 

[thompsonic]

My mum told me the theory aged 7ish because I was moving schools and didn't want me finding out stuff there... it was very basic, sperm and egg etc, she has never ever spoken to me about sex. I wish she would becuase I'd like to have an open relationship with her but neither of us have ever brought it up. So actual sex stuff I learnt in sex education at school (which I remember) and from very grown up friends (who had sex aged 13)

 

[PeanutBean]

Interesting thread! I honestly don't know when I didn't know what sex was. As the youngest of 4 and my oldest brother being 8 years older than me I guess I just absorbed the info by osmosis. I never held any weird ideas about what it was. I think it's important kids understand early and as a biologist I reckon I've got what it takes to explain it to Byron without it being too uncomfortable. I've talked about eggs and sperm from other animals with A LOT of kids!

 

[morri]

lol I did actually too xD

 

[lozzy21]

I got the sciancy bit when i was 8 or 9. Sperm meets egg ect I can go to my mam and ask her anything.

 

[lovehearts]

I cant remember how i learnt about sex. I am very close to my mom so i guess she would have just told me although i have an older sister and she has bought up a book that mom and dad gave her about the birds and the bees, perhaps she told me all after she read it Its interesting though - kids know from a very younge age about babies being in 'mommys tummy'.

 

[plutosblue]

It all started in yr 6 for me (I would have been 10) we had a very good and thorough sex education, including books, videos and anything else (They passed around sanitary towels etc etc). When I went to secondary school we had sex education every other year with many talks on the risks, diseases/STI's etc etc.

I didn't speak openly to my mum about much of anything, sometimes if I was really concerned I would brave it but our relationship when I was a teenager was tenious at best. Now I am older I ask her/tell her everything since I am more mature and she is much calmer and a different person since being split from my dad so we are very open with one another (ok so perhaps I am a little too open!) Me and my nan have had conversations about it as well (I lived with her for 6 months when I was in my teens), which was a little odd at first but well.. we are all human!

 

[mommyB]

I remember going to my mom and asking her what a BJ is....lol. I was in grade 7 and the grade 8 girls were asking us if we knew. So we pretended we did, then I had to ask my mom when I got home from school. All three of us kids have always been extremely open with our mom. I can ask her anything and not feel uncomfortable. And I knew anything I told her was between us only.

 

[allisonreally]

My mum bought me a book when I was about ... 5 or 6, I think. It covered the basics of the sperm and egg, and the cells dividing, and it had flaps and pop up bits, and included the memorable line "When a man and a woman love each other very much, they go to bed and have a special hug".
Untill I was about 12 I was incredibly open with my mum, I could ask her anything. Then for some reason I never figured out, to do with being a teenager, that stopped. But I preferred books for my education.

 

[amber1533]

tbh, I have no idea.

People on this thread say they have very open relationship with their mom-I can't imagine having a good one with my mom.

Things are very open between us. But she always treats me like her best friend (y'know go into juicy details) and I really, REALLY don't wanna know, my moms a bit of a freak. So I can tell her things I just have to be prepared for her to share. A lot.

But I don't ever remember not knowing. I definitely knew more than anyone else my age, even about af and things.

 

[dizzyisacow]

my mum told me everything when i was like 12 i think. i didnt even know women had a hole down there. and she told me i even asked her what a bj was! i wish she didnt tell me though! i still feel akward about it now!

 

[Dimbo]

Hahaha! I just asked DH if he remembers how he found out about the birds and the bees. Here was his reply:

Me: do you remember...
Him:Yup (with a smirk on his face)
Me: What, at school, your mum and dad?
Him: Nope. magazines!
Me: What? How old?
Him: 10, a friends mag.
Me: What?! Who and why did a 10 yr old have a magazine?
Him: His mum and dad gave it to him. He was a year younger.
Me: WHAT?! lol! Did you really learn a lot about the birds and the bees though, from a magazine??
Him:Yup! Learnt pretty quickly actually!
Me: Oh My God! (Thinking I will be taking charge of any sex ed in our family!)

Oh, I was about 6 or 7 when my Mum gave me the first talk. With a 10 yr old brother I think she thought I was going to find out anyways and so best get facts that hearsay.

 

[PnutProtector]

Dimbo: wow!! i would definitely take over the sex ed too!