The Chatterboxes

[pinkclaire]

Congrats on 27 weeks and moving up a box random! Anyone know when we move onto the last one? Scary stuff!

I'm feeling awful, got a terrible cold and my pelvis is so sore, it's been clicking now as well as hurting I can barely walk. I'm meant to be sorting out wedding things today but I didn't get to sleep properly until about 9am and feel rubbish so think I might just have a lazy day, although it means more to do tomorrow. Hmmm what to do.

Who was saying about food shopping? That's the worst I hate doing it I always think I've done enough for a couple of weeks, then OH comes home for the weekend and it's all gone! He's back Friday for 2 whole weeks yey but going to cost us a fortune to feed him!

Jimmys movements have reduced a lot, can tell baby's a lot bigger, there still there but different to before. I have had a few BH but I didn't think that they tell you anything about labour? Last night I was Reading the third tri posts and accidentally went on the december stars thread and there babies started from 6 weeks early, omg that means not long until feb love bugs start!

My friend just found out she is pregnant and is due start of sept WTF!! Surely we can't have September babies already?!!

 

[nervouspains]

I think Max is head down as well, I always (at some point in the day lol) get a really heavy feeling on my pelvis, and all the movement I feel is mainly under my ribs- like kicks, where as the only way i can describe the pain on my pelvis, is a heavy feeling, sometimes as if he is moving his head side to side lol sorry its the only way I can think to put it!

Im counting down until xmas now, then the new year and then my scan on the 7th, it cant come quick enough!
At my 28 wk appointment, my mw menchioned the consultant may wish to induce me earlier depending on how big Max is and due to my history- which tbh, I dont see what that has to do with this pregnancy... But anyhoo I am going to menchion to her, that if he is still measuring big, tbh I would rather like to be induced earlier rather then have a c-section as I want to avoid that as much as poss, so im sooo hoping she will give me an induction date. Oh well, only 3 weeks & 4 days to wait! Yay xx

 

[pinkclaire]

I think anyone wanting an induction is really brave, after what I learnt about it at my antenatel I will be avoiding one at all costs!

 

[AimeeM]

I had an induction last time and got to 7.5cm on my own with only codeine i don't think it was that painful considering. If it is meant to be worse than normal labour i think normal labour must not be as bad as i would have imagined.
I am defo asking to be induced at my due date if nothing has happened, i was just on about this on another post. Kayden was too big for me so i think they might induce me if i ask.

 

[AimeeM]

What did they tell you about it at your anti natal class?

 

[pinkclaire]

Well I don't want to scare anyone! I just want a natural birth so any interventions scare me, I hate taking paracetomol let alone anything else!

It depends how ur induced, if it's from sweeps or the gel it's just like normal birth, but if your put on the hormone then your body doesn't control the contractions the midwife does. Plus you haven't had ur natural build up of endorphins so hurts more. Plus you have to be monitored the whole time so you are restricted in your movements and makes you more likely to have other interventions such as epidural, forceps delivery etc. Just scared the life out of me really! Xx

 

[AimeeM]

Lol, i had it all that is probably why i am relaxed about labour as it was so bad last time i figure surely it can't be as bad with a second baby, well i sure hope not.
I had a sweep that didn't work, that hurt.
I was induced, had an epidural through fear, was on drips, had and 2nd degree episiotomy and the midwife snapped the cord off while trying to pull the placenta out so i had to give birth to it after pushing out K for an hour! I was monitored and so was kayden they put a little clamp on to his scalp Bless him.
I got over it though and forgot about the pain once i was home with him.

Oh yeah they were trying to brake my waters which had already gone too. It was common at Huddersfield hospital. It was notorious for having a bad maternity ward and nasty midwifes though. They have scrapped their maternity ward now and it is all done over at Halifax which is a new hospital.

 

[AimeeM]

Callie, i just got a friend request on facebook, no way here it bloody goes.

 

[pinkclaire]

See Aimee I was hoping you were going to tell me it's not as bad as they make out lol. The NCT are very for natural births so sometimes I am wary about what they tell us, but this was terrible. I am telling you there is no way my hoohaa is being cut down there! My friend who I said just found out she's pregnant tore so badly she said she's no way having a natural birth again, but I didn't think you can just 'chose' to have a section?

 

[AimeeM]

You can't choose to have one! Believe me my fear of giving birth was bad i was trying to get a c-sect for weeks but my doctor at the time wouldn't have it.
I was just unlucky that kayden was so big and i was so small. They are going to check the size of this baby though to make sure he is not 'too big' for me after the trauma of last time.
I do think though that as i was so scared it made me tense which made the labour bad. The funny (well not funny but you know lol) thing was that i was fine up until i got the epidural in then labour just basically stopped for hours.
Contractions weren't even that bad though up until then. I just got it out of fear. But a good job though with him being very big and basically getting stuck and having to be cut, i don't know if or how i would have coped with the pain and i would have been to far gone for the epi.

That is why i have ordered the hypnobirthing CD and i am a lot more relaxed this time, i just hope it goes better than last time. I was so fooked after having Kayden that i couldn't even hold him until a few hours after, i cried as i felt so guilty when i was looking at him but couldn't even lift my arms
It was i think just being young and totally unprepared for what i was going to go through that is why i can't recommend birth plans enough.

I am a very unlucky person though so it was just typical for me, i think it is rare for births to be so bad.

 

[Beautywithin]

Aimee was it you who said you have got a HypnoBirthing CD? i have just ordered one, but my friend has now put me off and said she listended to hers from 29 weeks till the day she gave birth, and the CD didnt help at all, but guess everyone is different

 

[AimeeM]

Yeah i ordered one, i have read some really good stuff. My problem is that i forget to relax so i am hoping this cd will remiend me to!
You meant to listen to it while falling asleep, did she do that?

Did you get a reply from max? I text her the other day but no reply, i am worried cos her mood says sad and she has been on but not made a post. I know she said she thought Noah was small and she was ill but that is the last i heard?

 

[Beautywithin]

im willing to give the CD ago at least!

i textd max aswell, and never got a reply, but i no she dont always have cred, so gunna send her a message on FB, hope she is ok x

 

[pinkclaire]

That is one thing she said, the more scared and stressed about it the worse your labour is, as adrenalin works against the other hormones. The more relaxed you feel the easier your labour. I thought she was being a but niave, she said she's just going to tell them at her booking in apointment of the problems she had and she'll get one but I was sat there thinking they don't count as problems lol.

They did say in my class when the head is crowning pretend to blow out candles on your fingers it's meant to help you stop pushing x

 

[AimeeM]

No, it is a little naive i think she will get a shock when they say no... I think if there are and have been serious problems in the past, the placenta is too low, baby is too big, certain medical conditions like severe asthma etc.
I looked at private ones last time but they were like £10,000 so that was a no-no lol but now i think if not necessary then that is better because it is major surgery at the end of the day and takes so long to recover from. I don't know what i would do to get Kayden to and from school, your not supposed to even walk much fro 6 weeks after!

Bw- i sent her a friend request when i opened my new FB account but she still hasn't accepted and that was a few weeks ago, it is still pending.

 

[nervouspains]

Yes Aimee its so annoying! Whoever tries to add me- I had ignored and then blocked lol.

Oh PC! Lol I thought it would be easy and simple and just bring on labor lol little naiive me lol.

Oh gosh I am deffo going to tell my consultant how terrified I am now of havign a large baby, esp with tearing as I dont want an epi!

xxx

 

[twiggy56]

its interesting hearing your experience Aimee...im really undecided now on how i want my labour/birth. I was dead set on epi and that was that, maybe g&a at the start...but now i really dont know.

I think because i dont have any idea what the pain is guna be like i cant judge it iykwim?

Maybe i will try for as long as poss without epi and if i can make it- great! But my mum keeps saying i should definitely have the epi...and she knows me and she obviously knows the birthing process (having done it nearly everyday for years!!) and shes quite insistent it would be a good option for me...hmm, i really am lost now!

I spoke to a woman at the hypnobirthing stand at the baby show and she made it sound quite good, i thought it was all a bit naff but she said the name 'hypno-birthing' does tend to give ppl the wrong impression!

 

[AimeeM]

Like i said the pain wasn't too bad up to 7.5cm, but the transition stage is apparently the worst but that comes from 8 to 10cm. It says you are sick and feel like you can't go on, even though i couldn't feel pain with the epi i still was sick and was crying that i couldn't go on lol, strange how i still had the emotions linked to the pain.

That is what i am going to do, go with the flow using the hypnobirthing to try and make it easier and if i want an epi then have one. I defo want to try without though.

yeah this cd is meant to just relax you and remind you that the body is made to go through birth and that it is only made worse by fear etc. Don't think it actually hypnotises you lol!

 

[twiggy56]

yeah i think by the name 'hypno-birthing' u get an image of being going 'hummmmmmm, hummmmmmm' with your eyes closed in a totally silent room kind of spaced out lol.

They should have called it something different- because i think the idea of it is actually fantastic...and it makes so much more sense to try and relax yourself!

ooh my house smells nice now...i had some dodgy looking brown bananas that i was about to throw out and decided it was a waste so iv made banana bread out of them! mm, guna have some when its finished baking!!

 

[Beautywithin]

The pain at the start is just about bearable, but time i got to 6 or 7cm i really felt the need to push, and trying to hold that off, was sooooo god dam hard, and all i kept getting told is not yet, everytime i looked at the clock it was as if time stood still, i know if my labour is more then 8 hours then i will need a epi, i just about managed on gas and air last time! im quiet scared of having a epi, because you have to sit dead still during a contraction,

hopefully all our births wont be to bad xx