The flu, a one year old, and an unsympathetic OH

[Allie83]

Hi ladies,
I have a bit of a rant/question for you all...
On wednesday, I took my DD to a play gym for the first time... She had an amazing time! unfortunately, I seem to have picked up a nasty flu or something...DD seems fine (knock on wood)
Anyway, last night when OH cane home from work, I told him I was ill and asked if I could lay down and have him watch our daughter for a couplehours ( this was 4:30pm, she goes to bed at 6.) he seemed annoyed but complied, though he kept saying he was going to fall asleep so I kept one eye open at all times.
Anyway, this morning I woke up at 5:30 ( early rising baby!) and felt absolutely horrible. I had fever, chills, was extremely lightheaded and had a very sore throat. Then
I ended up running to the bathroom and dry heaving for a good 15 mins.
OH walks into the bathroom ANNOYED and tells me he really has to pee and if I need to throw up that bad to just use the sink...???!!
He just left for work and did not ONCE say "I hope you feel better" or "I'm so sorry you're sick"NOTHING. All he said was
" well you have to deal with it don't you."
WTF.
Zero sympathy for me. I have a one year old who is a crazy Tasmanian devil running around getting into things, though I love her very much it's really tough when I'm sick as I'm sure many of you know.
I just feel like I'm so damn sick and tired of his selfishness. He is ALWAYS like this when I'm sick... Most of the time he ends up "getting sick" too so that he can't help do anything to help. (except play video games, of course)
Sorry for the novel ladies I'm just wonderng how your OHs are when you are ill. (I'm a SAHM by the way so no daycare or anything it's just me)
Do I let it go and just tell myself that's just the way he is? How do I bring it up without him getting defensive and angry?
Any replies appreciated! Thank you

 

[Camlet]

Men hey! My OH is pretty much the same but just not quite so nasty about it instead he just shrugs & says there's nothing he can do about it & leaves me with all 3 kids! Yet when he's ill he's dying & MUST rest! Lol xx

 

[ShelbyLC]

Personally, I think he needs to get his act together. Is he going to act like a father or not? I know when he's sick, you do what you can to take care of him and make sure he's comfortable! Why can't he do the same for you?

When I'm sick, my OH makes me stay in bed and he takes care of me. When he's sick, I do the same for him.

If your OH isn't going to step up and help you out, then you should give him a taste of his own medicine. When he gets sick, treat him like he's treating you. If he needs something, too bad. You have to do it for yourself when you're sick, so he can do the same.

I hope you feel better soon.

 

[baby287]

I wouldn't stand for that. So selfish I can't really believe it. I would bring it up for sure. What an asshat

 

[stephalie]

Ah I'm really sorry your OH is not being helpful. It is awful being sick and not having any help. My DH is a dream and I don't want to gloat, but it is nice to have someone helpful when you really need it. I can't imagine being sick with an active one year old, just being sick with my (then) four month old was rough. Good luck and feel better!

 

[Pielette]

Poor you That's ridiculous!

When I'm sick (although I do mean properly sick, not a cold or something minor), my DH will take the day off work to look after Noah and myself. I suffered with pretty bad morning sickness with this pregnancy and he also took time off and did everything whenever it got too much, looking after a little mad toddler whilst suffering with morning sickness kind of sucked!

He's great, and I do the same for him every time. I don't believe it's just 'men'. Some people are more selfish than others, regardless of gender.

Next time your OH is sick, I'd be completely unsympathetic.