The losers club

[blondey]

Rubbish, I;m on annual leave, baby is still asleep yet I'm up and ready as I have my fitness test at 8am! At least it's early so we have the rest of the day!

at Michelle! I'm a spiller when I'm drunk too!

 

[Natsku]

at Michelle

 

[Emmy1987]

Michelle

Went to group this morning, a little shit of a boy who must be twice Daisy's age and size stole a toy off her and stood on her hand then trapped her hand in a toy door and pushed her to the floor she was not happy!

I need money-making ideas!

 

[Lettuce]

Um, sell yourself?
Or cat boot sale?
at tipsy Michelle and saph!

He wants the flat!!! Omg! on nov 1st... So 6.5 weeks til I'm homeless....

Jenny was playing in my bedroom, and slipped and hit her face on the floor- blood everywhere! just a split lip tho, but I got a fright. I want carpets!

 

[Natsku]

Poor girlie Split lips are scary cos they bleed so much

 

[blondey]

Aw fat lips are rubbish. AM slipped and hit her face on the toilet and chipped her tooth a teeny bit and I still feel guilty now. Poor Jen, she'll be fine though. You'll be surprised hpow quickly it goes down.

I had the weirdest dream last night. That we were in my parents garden and AM fell into the paddling pool, even though it was a oaddling pool, when I dove in I was wet from head to foot. Then she managed to get over a 3ft wall into the their pond and OH had to dive in that to get her. Then my parents said that they didn't want to look after her anymore as she was too naughty and a liability!

Fitness test passed!

Up awake all on my own. OH gave me a lie in as madam woke at 6am, now they're both back in bed!

Anyone up to anything nice today? We're going to this thing at the BMW dealers that my dad was invited to. Going to have a nosey at the 1 series as think I might get one as we need to go back up to two cars once I start training. We were contemplating a new one, but looking on autotrader, we could get a top of the range one, with lots of extras thats only 2 years old with 10k off the new price!! So thinking that's the way to go!!

 

[Lettuce]

Def suggest one a year or two old!
She's ok, bit sore looking but is eating her fav breakfast- French toast and nutella.

 

[Emmy1987]

How's Jen's lip? It's scary when they get injured isnt it?

My god right now I'd do anything for a bit of cash. We don't have much we could sell, the bits we do have aren't shifting even though they're not expensive! Even OH is getting down about the money situation, tried seeing what would happen if I didn't work (as I'm losing money by working) and according to tax credits' website we'd get a whole £14 a month....... I need to shape up and become a lap dancer or something...

*goes back to hide in a corner and weep*

 

[Lettuce]

Emmy, surely you'd be better off not working? I know that's hard too. Have you asked about benefits if you were to stop working?

Jen is ok, I think she hurt the top of her mouth too, but seems ok really, apart from a dodgy tummy all weekend. Weird.
Been at a charity lunch today for the Bluebell foundation- it's a perinatel mental health charity, so that was cheery my family still don't know about my pnd, so it was kinda weird... nice lunch tho.

 

[Natsku]

Emmy, def stop working, its not worth losing money over

Your family doesn't know Lettuce?

 

[Lettuce]

Nope, due to other family problems I didn't feel I could say. It was kinda awkward as they were at the lunch today, but I never used the service- to close to home (my SILs mum is a councillor there) the know I've had/have anxiety and depression, but not about this time, or how bad it's been. I just didn't want to disappoint them, they love Jenny so much and I couldn't admit that I didn't!
I mean, I do love her, but at that point I couldn't feel it, iykwim?

 

[sapphire1]

Emmy, if you're losing money surely it makes sense to quit. Do you stick to a strict budget? If you don't, start doing it and you'll be amazed at how much money you can save. I always take out a set amount of money at the start of the week (£60) and that gets me food, nappies, petrol and anything else I need. You need to shop around and hunt for bargains, but you can totally manage to not work. We pay for rent, a mortgage, 2 cars, all the bills and a bucketload of debt on DH's wage alone. I do paid surveys in the evenings/while H naps, you need to do loads of them to get any money, but it's easy money. I also ebay H's old stuff which brings in a few pennies - I got £17 for a pair of her shoes the other week! Also, do really pikey stuff like check your shop receipts thoroughly for pricing mistakes. I got overcharged by 20p for some toothpaste the other day in Asda, so I went to the desk. They gave me 20p, plus put £2 on a giftcard (which was what I paid for the toothpaste), so they paid me 20p to take 2 tubes of toothpaste! Tesco do this too if they overcharge you, Sainsbury's don't though . I also go bargain hunting for reduced price stuff at the supermarkets/local shops, I know what times they reduce stuff I never pay full price for bread, always get it reduced and keep it in the freezer. Same for meat - tonight we have some reduced to 30p stewing steak which I've made into a stew It's quite fun being a tightarse, I enjoy it far too much

Lettuce, I'm sorry you don't feel able to share how you're feeling with your family. Poor Jen, hope she's ok now!

Well done on passing the fitness test Blondey!

 

[Emmy1987]

As Lettuce

We aren't entitled to anything, OH 'earns too much' but they don't think about the fact that rent is extortionate so we have to live far out and pay £160 a month each just in fuel. I'd like an evening job but there's nothing around here

I'm a stingy cow Sapphire! I rifle through the reduced sections for meat, buy tons of mushrooms to pad meals out. I also play tesco and sains off each other, as both are the same distance and if I don't go to one for two weeks I get a coupon the next time I go so I do tesco, tesco with coupon, sains, sains with coupon and repeat, works a treat! Got at least £3 off a £30 spend and I don't spend more than £40 a week total.

Got Doo a skirt from oxfam yesterday for £2.50, best thing is its a size 3yrs but has an adjustable waist so fits her now and will do for two years got SIL a pair of trousers for my nephew due 13th dec for Christmas, Next from oxfam for £1.50, and a friends little boy a Next jacket from oxfam for £1.50 as well!

 

[Lettuce]

nice one! Love a wee bargain myself, tho I'm terrible at budgeting. must try harder... I bet I could save loads. Going to try again as we get ready to move (not that we have anywhere to go just yet... )
I know it sounds silly, I just don't want to disappoint my parents again.

 

[blondey]

Aw lettuce. I'm sure you could never disappoint them. They sound like they're very proud of you. But i know how you feel being frightened to disappoint them. I was the same when we told them i was pregnant. Even though we were married, financially stable etc i was worried my dad would think I'd wasted my degree as my job at the mo isn't a graduate level job. Especially as he paid my rent for the 3 years!

Emmy i really feel for you. Must be horrible working in a Job you hate. I guess you could bear it to a certain extent If it paid an ok amount. Are you still ttc If you're struggling so much?

I love a bargain too. Even though we don't struggle i still feel guilty spending money. Especially before i got the new job. As i knew my current has a high possibility of being relocated 50 miles away, which i wouldn't do so could have ended up redundant. And what with saving for a house. I do try to remember how lucky we are though that we could have survived without me working and that i do get time with madam. I'm sooo going to hate going back full time

 

[sapphire1]

Lettuce, I'm sure they wouldn't be disappointed in you

Rent is expensive here too. That's why we opted to live in the city centre in a 1 bed place - it means we don't have to use our cars as much so save a shitload in fuel costs. We could afford a bigger place further out, but the savings would be cancelled out by DH having to travel to work instead of walking.

I don't like Oxfam, it's the most expensive charity shop here. My fave is some sort of sailor's charity. I got a big box of mega bloks for £3.50 the other day - the same ones are £15 in Asda!

 

[Emmy1987]

Lettuce and Blondey!

We're NTNP now, don't want to stress out TTC while struggling with money! Really hope we can get moved soon, we both hate it here and we could then sell one car and OH could take the bus to work which would save us £180 a month at least!

I just need a direction. I'd love my photo business to take off and do that full time (well part time hours but it be my only job). Got a studio backdrop on its way, cheap from eBay! Also earned £5 amazon voucher by doing surveys so going to see if there's anything else I need if not spend it on Christmas presents

 

[sapphire1]

Some of the survey sites pay straight into your paypal. I just earned £5 paypal from mysurvey. Some of the survey sites have a high threshold you have to reach before you can get your money though. I suppose they know people get bored of it, and give up before they reach it. I have done a couple of product trials through survey sites too. It's good getting free stuff

 

[Natsku]

Free stuff is always nice!

Lettuce

I'm terrible at budgeting. I just spend money til I've nearly run out and then live off food that I've stocked up in the freezer (whenever there's sales on meat I buy as much as they let me - usually 2 or 3 items per customer) and stick them in the freezer for when I'm poor.

 

[Emmy1987]

I'm quitting. It's bad enough I don't even earn anything, let alone patients being rude to me but today the staff are just awful and rude and one just told me to go away and stay out of the way even though I'm just doing my job! I wasn't even in anyone's way I was just waiting to ask someone about a mum.