The Lovely Looney Great Pretenders

[mushmouth]

the ONLY time I can get a proper convo out of hub seems to be when I'm driving! wtf is that all about?

does he know just how upset you are by it all? he needs to address your feelings reasonably! but having a bubs would be a massive change for both of you chick...

do what I do - go toilets and screammmm scream scream

 

[Princess_LV]

Ooooh birthdays birthdays birthdays!

Mine is March 12th, so smack in between yours and Sophies Ley! I'll be 24 next bday. And our anniversary is June 11th - 4 years this year

LH, for my 22nd I also re-celebrated my 21st lol. I had a little black dress party - see piccie. Then for my 23rd, I celebrated my 21st again again lol, with a cave people party! We do love dressing up here!

Becca, I think maybe if you just let him stew for a while he will come around. Sometimes men, being the odd creatures they are, just need some time alone so that they can think things were their idea. I know this, because it worked for me. That and blowjobs

 

[lovehearts]

LH - you HAVE to go to wingwah on wolverhampton rd - its the BEST chinese buffet EVER and I dont like chinese!!! lol

oooo ill have to convince OH to take me there when we get back from holiday

Oh magpie huni, OH's not being ready is such a big factor in many of us WTT. Originally i was supposed to be waiting until i was 27 - so july 2014!! i managed to shave a few years off somehow

Perhaps you should sit down and talk, just tell him everything you need to say. Sometimes if i dont feel like i can say it all i write it down. that way you have time to read it over before he sees it and make sure all your points are clear and valid.

My honest opinion is men dont really know what they want until it happens. I think my OH gave in to NTNP as he knew it meant so much to me, then when i MC i think he realised how much it meant to him too. They say women are mothers from the moment that bean is in your belly and men dont become fathers until they hold the baby in their arms. I dont think most men feel the pain of waiting, i know there are few broody ones but many more broody women.

I just hope he listens to you - sorry if all the above is a load of random crap!

 

[lovehearts]

little black dress party looks fab princess. perhaps i shall celebrate my 21st again again this year

 

[4magpies]

I have let him stew for a year in total. I decided to stop my depo a year ago this week.

He knows how I feel and I am serious about spliting up if he wont give me what I want.

I dont ask for expensive holidays/clothes. I just want a LO.

He doesnt address them reasonably this is what he put back: "No a dont want a baby yet am not ready so leave it yeah. Dont need this shit."

And I replied why arent you ready then he put this: "Am not, want more savings, nice house, few hols. No more about it now."

No kisses or anything. So I wrote a massive long text about how we never go on fancy holidays anyway and never will and we have a nice house and savings.

To which he replied: "I will split up now then. Not arsed. I wil pack my stuff when I get home dont threaten me girl."

I never even threatened him just telling him how I feel and how I am not waiting for the next X amount of years.

Grrrrrrrrrr!

xxx

 

[mushmouth]

My honest opinion is men dont really know what they want until it happens. I think my OH gave in to NTNP as he knew it meant so much to me, then when i MC i think he realised how much it meant to him too. They say women are mothers from the moment that bean is in your belly and men dont become fathers until they hold the baby in their arms. I dont think most men feel the pain of waiting, i know there are few broody ones but many more broody women.

I agree with this!

 

[4magpies]

Oh and I didnt even realise I wanted kids till I had my MC. Now its all I can think about.

We had only just got together then but its different now. I have waited 2 years since my MC. I just want to be pregnant again.

xxx

 

[4magpies]

Oh and seeing as AF has not turned up I am going to go to boots tonight and buy a first response. If she hasnt turned up tomorrow morning I am going to do it.

If it is a BFP he can shove it up his arse!!

xxx

 

[lovehearts]

i still think you should sit down together and talk it through putting both your opinions across and come to a compromise??

 

[lovehearts]

he cant just ask you to leave it - you need to know answers! xxxxx

 

[4magpies]

Sorry for whining girls I am just so angry! Its breaking my heart. Now he is just ignoring me!!

Might just go stay at my mums tonight. Fed up!

xxx

 

[mushmouth]

it does sound like he's being an arse! easy for me to say but dont be rash, and make sure you talk it through properly before anything big happens!

 

[mushmouth]

hun we're all here for ya, ups and down. Its obvious to us your heart is truly breaking - make him see!

 

[Princess_LV]

Sorry if I am missing something, but it doesn't seem to me that splitting up will bring you any closer to what you want hun. It sounds like you are both in a bit of a temper and should cool off before making rash decisions like that - he may have reacted in this way because it hurt him to hear that you were considering a break up.

 

[4magpies]

I didnt tell him I wanted to break up now. But if he is still keeping me waiting a year from now I will consider it.

He said I can have one when I am 25 to start with.

I cant be with someone who keeps messing me around like this. I am willing to give him a year to sort himself out. Thats plenty of time.

I dont want to break up now thats now what I said to him!

xxx

 

[4magpies]

Girls if I did ov a week later than I thought I would be 10/11 dpo tomorrow. Would that show on a 1st response?

xx

 

[mushmouth]

it may do - with FMU chick...

 

[lovehearts]

yeah should do. I got a pos on a FR at 11dpo x

 

[mushmouth]

what are you basing your OV dates on? OPKs? Temps? average LP?

 

[4magpies]

Ill go to boots and get a FR tonight then. Least then I'll have peace of mind that its a definate no.

Just read the tescos ones arent very sensitive either.

xxx