The old battle of circumsizing a boy?

[Kristle]

Okay so I was against doing a circumcision for my son/cooking in the oven. Daddy originally wanted to but his only reason was because his mom did it to him. I researched until I was blue in the face, we watched utube videos and we discussed it with my OB doctor and decided against. So I was telling my dad about it and he says " I feel bad for that baby already" and "a boy needs a good looking penis" and he was very critical of our decision. Has anyone else experienced negative feedback? If so how did you deal with it. Mind you half his marbles are gone from being a life long drug addict and alcoholic.

 

[Maybe1daysoon]

It's completely up to you. My son is circumcised and if this is a boy he will be too. But for any nay sayers either way it's your baby, your choice. From my last pregnancy I've learned that people get on high horses when it comes to topics like circumcision, ear piercing, and breastfeeding. So I don't ask others, EVEN FAMILY unfortunately. So that when they give their opinion I can say "good thing I didn't ask your opinion or permission".

 

[greenpear]

A GOOD LOOKING PENIS???? I understand religious beliefs or if it is medically necessary but for looks? Oh boy I'm sorry you have to deal with his negativity but do what you and your husband decide upon.

(we are not circumcising our boy but neither in my culture nor my husband's culture it's done and so far in real life no one has asked about this, but even if they do it won't be anyones but our decision)

*** btw this is a very sensitive topic here on this site....

 

[Mypreciouskid]

I wouldn't let anyone else be a part of that decision. It's just between you and your husband. My baby boy will be circumcised. It's no one's business but ours. I would ignore any comments.

 

[cookette]

It's completely up to you. My son is circumcised and if this is a boy he will be too. But for any nay sayers either way it's your baby, your choice. From my last pregnancy I've learned that people get on high horses when it comes to topics like circumcision, ear piercing, and breastfeeding. So I don't ask others, EVEN FAMILY unfortunately. So that when they give their opinion I can say "good thing I didn't ask your opinion or permission".

This is great advice.

Like stated, this is a topic many are very passionate about. If my bump is a boy, he will be circumcised, and that is a discussion only my husband and I had any input and decision in. I dont want anyone elses opinions and couldnt care less. You do what is best for YOUR baby.

 

[Rcx]

This always baffles me lol cos we don't do it here in the uk as common practice only if Jewish I think. Never heard of anyone here having it done or getting it done to their children.
Just a wee observation. I like cultural quirks like this

 

[Goods]

I'm in the UK where we don't circumcise our boys, however my husband had to have it done a few years ago for medical reasons. He's says he would still rather have a foreskin but doesn't really think about it that much. I can attest it's made absolutely no difference to us. Maybe leave it and let you son decide when he's older?

 

[Gabrielle22]

My own mother told me my son wasn't considered a "child of god" because he wasn't circumcised -_-

My husband isn't circumcised...let me tell ya (and I'm sure most would agree) there is NO SUCH THING as a pretty penis! Period! They're all ugly!
The way I see it, if the good lord didn't want it there, by god he wouldn't have put it there! Lol there is no legit medical reasoning behind circumcision...it's just for looks really. And don't let anyone tell you it gets infected easy, that's BS. My son has never had any problems, nor my husband, nor his brother, nor his dad, etc. not to mention it decreases their sexual pleasure. It's pointless. And you know it's gotta be painful to have done as a newborn baby

I apologize...I must say, it's pointless unless it's for your own religious beliefs. That's really the only logical reason why I'd see it's being understandable.

 

[EarthMama]

I will never circumcise. My son was born perfect already. I did not like the thought of throwing away a piece of his body he was born with. My husband even has circ-regret...he wishes his mom didn't circumcise him. It was an easy choice for us.

 

[kmac87]

Completely your and your dh's decision. My 2 are but my DH and dss are not. He wanted to circumcise dss but he was a preemie and was hospitalized for a month. It was his first kid and he didn't know he was supposed to do it then. As far as him, he'd prefer to be but he's too old now as there's soooo many complications with the surgery the older you get. However, (tmi) he can pull his foreskin back completely and I didn't know he was uncircumcised until he actually told me. With my dss, he's teaching him how to properly clean it.

 

[mrsrof]

On this side of the atlantic it's totally normal for a boy NOT to be circumcised, it is only done here for religious or medical reasons (one of my nephews had it done because his foreskin was so tight it was constantly infected, but his brother has not been circumcised as there was no need). I don't even know many women over here who have even seen a circumcised penis if I'm honest, I know I never have! I say it's your decision and you shouldn't let it be swayed by other peoples' opinions!

 

[caitlyn2009]

I also do not see the point in circumcision, personally. However I do not judge anyone for what they decide to do. My whole family gets their boys circumcised so I am sure we will get some comments but oh well. To each there own.

 

[krystinab]

I'm neither for or against it, I just feel like a boys penis should like his dads. My DH is circumcised and it seems strange for him to teach our LO to pee with something that looks different from his. I know this sounds weird, just my opinion.

From my personal experience it does look strange without a circumcision, like a ant eater...or its wearing a turtle neck....lol

 

[greenpear]

I've also never seen uncircumcised penis before (but then I've seen very few adult penises ) and like I said, in my home country only those who are Jewish circumcise so I don't remember seeing any of my friend's penises cut (when we were little)

 

[N27murray]

If my baby is a boy we WILL NOT be circumcising him. I don't like the idea mainly because its not natural. I think he wouldn't be born that way if it wasn't meant to be. I completely respect the religious aspect of it. I think if you're not doing it for religious reasons then why at all? Yes it can be easier to keep clean, etc blah blah...
I think doing it for aesthetic reasons is silly...but that's just me. Maybe tmi but my dh is all natural and I prefer it like that...
if you and your dh decided not to, then don't. And that's no one else 's business.

 

[CastawayBride]

This is quite a passionate debate often found on the boards. I agree, I want my children to be like their father, thus we circumsize.

Blanket statements that they reduce "pleasure" are "not cleaner one way or the other" is not necessarily true. They have studies out there that say pleasure was decreased, however, they were not proven to be a conclusive study...they have proven the benefit of a smaller (albeit very little percentage) of HIV transmission. They also do say that a circumsized penis is cleaner as it has less chance of bacterial to collect....I think as long as you have good cleaning regimens either way that should not matter though...

It really comes down to parents making the best decision possible for their family....that is all parents can do!

 

[purplecupcake]

We will not circumcise. Circumcision is male genital mutilation. There are 0 benefits to circumcision, however there are downsides such as infections, loss of sensitivity, and painful scarring. It's outdated and barbaric.

 

[justplay91]

For a heated topic, this has stayed really civilized. It's rare to see that on the internet!
We will not be circumsising our son. I just don't see it as our choice, since it isn't my or OH's body. His dad is circumsized, so I do worry that he'll feel different, but ultimately I feel it should be his choice to make when he is older.

 

[Gizzyy]

As a lot of people have said, it's totally up to you and your DH. I can't get over him saying 'good looking penis' though I mean it's natural to be like that so I don't believe in circumcision at all. Why try and correct something that's not broken.
I do respect peoples choices, especially if it's for medical or religious reasons. However I'm from the uk so it's not common practise and wouldn't even cross our minds if we were expecting a boy.

 

[Tigerlilyb]

If my baby is a boy we WILL NOT be circumcising him. I don't like the idea mainly because its not natural. I think he wouldn't be born that way if it wasn't meant to be.

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if you and your dh decided not to, then don't. And that's no one else 's business.

100% agree with this. Our bodies are meant to be the way they are and the only time we should intervene is when nature goes wrong.

My OH had to be partially circumcised as a baby because of medical issues and those are the only grounds in which I'd do it to our baby if he turns out to be a boy. I don't have any qualms about my (possible) son looking the same as his Dad either, since everyone is different!

I've seen circ'd and uncirc'd and honestly neither one was better looking, they're all bloody ugly.