The Ramblers

[Jayknee]

I'm sodding pregnant Don't know what to do, I change my mind every 5 minutes! We can't afford another baby, Chris doesn't want another ever, and I start a new job in 2 weeks! I went to the docs to ask for a termination, but I feel guilty as hell :'( I thought I'd never want another, but now I just don't know.....

Just wanna know, if you were in my situation, what would you do??

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Oh Jesus. I had a scare and knew I wouldn't be able to do anything about it if I was. The money thing would sort itself out. If it were me I'd just have to weigh up what would be worse a few years down the line - feeling guilty for the termination or feeling like you should have done it.

How far gone are you? Does Chris know?

In all honesty, if it were me I wouldn't terminate. Especially if I wasn't 100% sure that's what I wanted. But only you can decide what is best for you deep down. If you need a proper chat about it I can give you my number so you can text or call

 

[jess3012]

Im only off to salou! didn't want to venture to far on the first trip abroad with megan!

OMG janie!

I couldn't really give any advice as i don't think i could go through with a termination but unlike you i have never been put in that situation.

Maybe you should have a sit down with your OH and have a big talk about it! Men say they don't want anymore but they can change their mind on a flip of a coin!! I think its a case of weighing up the pro's and con's in the situation

Really hope you find a solution thats suits you both mega

 

[Scampie]

Im going to nod and smile and pretend I know where that is Jess

Arghh Janie, what a dilemma. Ive got to be totally honest, if i found out I was pregnant now, I would have a termination. I may think differently if i were in a long term relationship, but I dont think I could/want to cope with another one at the mo, even if I was with someone.

Id just consider how it will change things, and what you think is best for the 2 kiddies you already have. That way, its not a selfish decision or something to feel guilty about, its you doing the best for your family. Its not a decision anyone can really help you with that much. You just have to do whats best for everyone without pressure either way.

Whatever you decide, you will manage! Thats just the way us girlies roll, lol!

 

[Scampie]

Oooh, I forgot to mention...WE HAVE KEYS! I beat you to it by 2 days Eliese, lol. You will still be in before me though!

Ive just been gagging to have a garden the kids can go straight out to. Got over yesterday and the garden is full of little mounds. Turns out they are bloody red ant nests. Not amused! Got to figure out how to get rid of the little *******s quickly!

Hope everyone is ok x

 

[jess3012]

LOL its in spain gem! its only a 2 hour flight! we were thinking of benidorm but that works out at 4 hours flight time and i didn't think i could manage that with megan on my knee! (shes not allowed her own seat as she will be under one so i will have her on my knee all that time!)

wohoo gem! congrats!

omg thats really bad about the red ants!!

Is it even possible to get rid of them?

 

[Missy86]

Hey guys

Back from Wales but I wont have internet for a few weeks when I move, I knew you would beat me Gem. Soz bout the red ants

Jess when we went to portugal the plane wasnt full so Rhys got his own seat both times

Hi Janie, dont panic who far along are you

 

[Jayknee]

Hey guys, thanks for all the input. We sat and talked and talked, and decided that we won't be keeping it. I couldn't cope, I know I couldn't, and with the added financial pressure, Luke and Noah would have to go without more things. It's been so hard, but now I know what I'm doing, it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

My dr is being difficult about it though, he wont refer me! Sent away a urine sample for a preg test (stalling things) and will ask another doc to do the referral! Bloody arsehole.

I'm only 5 weeks gone just now Eliese, but morning sickness is kicking in

I'm gonna go back and read through properly now, and have a decent catch up with you all!!!!

 

[jess3012]

I hope she can have a seat! if she was 2 when we were to go then she would have had her own seat!
But we had to work round my sisters OH holidays so we couldn't put it back any longer!

Nice to see you have come to a decision janie

I couldn't even begin to think what you have been going through since you found out. glad your feeling better now though!

Doctors are a pain in the backside arn't they! ive been going to the doctors for the last month as i needed a transfer to the hospital and they just kept fobing me off telling me to wait a week and then come back! got told that 3 times before they actually did it!

Thinking i better get myself on some contraceptive, all i would need is to end up pregnant before i go on holiday!
Got any recommendations?
i don't want to go on the pill as it makes me very agressive and makes me put on weight!

How are we all anyway? x

 

[Scampie]

Hey hoo everyone.

Glad youve come to a decision Janie. You must feel relieved. Hope the doctor stops being a wanker soon. Its so unfair for them to put even more pressure on you. Hope it all gets sorted soon for you x

We should be in Saturday if all goes well. Just got home after being there 8am to 10:30 pm every day since sat. Feel knackered. Just 2 door frames to gloss and its done! Carpets goin in fri! WIll be like a new house by then x

Finn fell out of his cot head first this morning when mum was lookin after them. She found him upside down and wedged. Hes got limps on his head, his cheek and scratches all down his arms. He cried for about 30 seconds, then laughed, lol. Hes a dude!

Best get back on with clearing out. Hope every one is well x

 

[jess3012]

hey gem hows it going?

Megans like that! when she falls over she only cries for all of 5 seconds! its brill! lol

Not really got much to write about today apart from that i have started my mission to shit (i ment shift! lol) this weight before my holiday!

 

[Scampie]

Haha! Good luck "shitting" your weight, lol. I find one first thing in the morning and one last thing at night helps with a couple of pounds. If your really going for it you could try squeeze out a mid day one too!

Finns got a cold and hes bloody miserable. Doing my head in. Really need to get my butt in gear and get packing!

 

[jess3012]

trust you to spot that typo!

 

[Scampie]

OMG! Youve done some serious shitting today...3lb already, lol!

 

[jess3012]

Must be all that fibre im eating!!

Ive actually lost a stone in the last month but thought that would be alot to put on the ticker to start with! lol

 

[jess3012]

where is everyone?

I'm all alone!!

How are we all?

Not been doing much apart from trying to concentrate on what im eating and exercising!!

Megans turning into a right madam now! she throws paddys all the time! doesn't listen to a thing shes told unless it suits her and is just generaly being a pain in the arse!
NOT GOOD!

 

[Scampie]

Wohoo!

Sorry, been tinterwebless! Im still tinterwebless but im "borrowing" someone elses.

Moving is a touch chaotic, lol. Im in, but I still have a fair bit to sort out. Getting there though. Everything has gone wrong this week, lol. Boiler wasnt working, ive got no cooker and only now have a hob, so its been microwave mash n slow cooker slop. Can only pick up 2 tv channels even though the aerial man has been out. Luckily it seems the analogue signal still works so im using that. Half the light switches dont work. One of the radiators leaks. I have no kick board under the kitchen units so finn seems to find allsorts under there. Im sure theres more but i cant remember anything else atm, lol. Other than those few things...everything is great, lol.

Finn is being a right winge too. SPends all day walking round whining with his arms in the air to be picked up. Driving me utterly fucking nuts. Just never seems to stop. Sooner he realises im not gonna keep picking him up the better!

Hes also going into a bed v soon! He can get out of his cot and hes v close to getting out of the travel cot. If i want to keep him in the travel cot i need to put a proper mattress in it, which will make the floor higher and he will defo be able to get out. Dont really have much choice!

Ok, thats my splurge for the day, lol.

Hope every one is good x

 

[jess3012]

I put megan in a sleeping bag so at the moment i don't have to worry about her climbing out! have you tried finn in one of them?

That sounds a bit pants with the things that are wrong! is your relation gonna sort it out for you or is it all down to you know?

 

[Scampie]

Its all getting sorted, its just waiting for it to be done. Getting there though!

Ive been snoozing on the sofa all morning. Havent done bugger all, lol. Has been lovely.

I gave finns sleeping bags away. Thought he would do his nut if i put him in one, lol. Might have to reconsider it!

Need tro make a shopping list for town, but cant remember what the hell I need, lol. Not sure my bank can cop with shopping either!

 

[jess3012]

i carn;'t cope with shopping at the moment! i always spend too much when we go and i really need to start saving my money for the holiday!

I wish i could snooze on the sete! megan doesn't let me chill at all!