The "Unexplained Infertility" Limbo, anyone else?

[TrixieLox]

Yep, I have this belief in fate. It will happen when it's meant to. I mean, I have the future PM of the UK brewing, waiting to be created inside me, no wonder it's taking a while, ha ha!

 

[sonyabazonya]

Hi were unexplained as well been ttc for 23 months now! Had 3 rounds of clomid 3rd one ended me up in the hospital with OHSS just awaiting dr apt to see whats next!

 

[Chloe1]

Hi im on cycle 18 ive had everything done and were currently unexplained. I have frustrating days and good days. Im trying to stay patient buts its sooo hard sometimes. I think this thread will be good for us girls all in the same boat!

 

[Rach27]

I was and then I had a laparoscopy and had moderate endo removed. You don't always have symptoms with endo so if everything else is fine, it would definitely worth being investigated.

 

[Lilaala]

Well girls my BnB Buddy PrayerfulHope just got her BFP after 2 years TTC, it was a natural one! She was lined up for IUI due to her hubby's sperm count, and she had given up temping and OPK's and EVERYTHING and they just went about their lives, and BAM! I'm super pleased for her and thought I'd share because it's reminded me these things happen!

That being said I was reading about that acidic CM and baking soda solution thing and I am totally going to try that this cycle. I know Endo doesn't always give symptoms and that Endo is found in 40% of infertility cases, but I've got until Sept for my Lap, and there's no harm in baking soda I say!

 

[Lilaala]

I think though your state of mind can have a lot to do with it and if your life is too stresfull with other unavoidable things (such as work) you can be medically fertile but mentally infertile!

I've been thinking that might be part of my problem for a while now, the problem with that is how does one make oneself mentally fertile if everything in one's thoughts is already baby related? Hope I'm not just shooting myself in the foot every cycle...

 

[yomo]

Well girls my BnB Buddy PrayerfulHope just got her BFP after 2 years TTC, it was a natural one! She was lined up for IUI due to her hubby's sperm count, and she had given up temping and OPK's and EVERYTHING and they just went about their lives, and BAM! I'm super pleased for her and thought I'd share because it's reminded me these things happen!

That being said I was reading about that acidic CM and baking soda solution thing and I am totally going to try that this cycle. I know Endo doesn't always give symptoms and that Endo is found in 40% of infertility cases, but I've got until Sept for my Lap, and there's no harm in baking soda I say!

Yep you are right it can happen, but it's easier said than done relaxing aint it! lol

Can you explain more about the baking soda? I have a worry that my CM is killing my OH men xx

 

[Lilaala]

Yep you are right it can happen, but it's easier said than done relaxing aint it! lol

Can you explain more about the baking soda? I have a worry that my CM is killing my OH men xx

Definitely easier said than done to relax about this!!


Lola13 posted this link: https://www.babyandbump.com/trying-...re-you-diagnosed-unexplained-infertility.html at the end of page 1 of this thread, and the user Littletulip said she had success with it. I Google searched acidic CM and got this info:

(3) acidic mucus:

Douching with an alkalinic nontoxic solution such as sodium bicarbonate (1 tablespoon of baking soda into 1 quart of water) to increase the pH of the mucus 30 to 60 minutes prior to intercourse. This has been widely used with mixed success.

Nothing dangerous about baking soda, it can't hurt, right? I'm going to try it this cycle.

 

[Sherri81]

I was/am an unexplained infertility case. They also give this label to women who have conceived multiple times with multiple losses. So I'm unexplained times 2. I've had periods where I get pregnant extremely easily but then go on to lose them around the 11-13 weeks mark, and then I have loooonnnngggg periods of time when I just don't get pregnant at all despite the use of fertility meds.

I've had the HSG which showed everything was open and clear and perfect. I've had a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy and no abnormalities were found. I had monthly day 21 progesterone testing done and it came up normal on all but like 3 occassions (but everyone has an-ovulatory months anyways). I've had every sort of blood test under the sun and I had an abnormal blood clotting test once, after one of the later losses. They've done chromosone analysis on the baby's tissue to see if there is an underlying condition, and he came up fine. I have had a complete chromosonal analysis done on me and I came up perfectly fine. Hubby has had 2 S/A done, and although they weren't great, they said it shouldn't be a factor in the losses or the lack of pregnancies. I've done rounds of Clomid and had nothing happen, and I've had 2 rounds of Clomid that resulted in BFPs; both were on a 1st time but seperated by over 3 years.

Apparently both me and hubby are completely normal so we have been shuffled into the unexplained category. IVF was discussed with us, but apparently as unexplaineds, we had a slim shot of it working, and we didn't have the 10,000.00. IUI was discussed but once again, without a diagnosis we had a slim chance of it working. We discussed donor sperm, but hubby was really against it. We discussed washing his sperm and doing an IUI, but couldn't come up with the money... So then we were told maybe we'd make good foster parents...

I'd pretty much given up, when my OB asked me to try Clomid again for just 4 months. It had been almost 3 years since my last dose, so I figured what the hell. I took it, we had sex 2 times in my fertile period, I made sure to elevate my hips for 30 minutes after both times. We abstained from intercourse in the TWW. When I was 4 days late, I figured it was just the Clomid, but took a test anyways.... and it was a fricking positive. Blew me away!

Sometimes being unexplained means it just happens one day. I went from June 2007, to July 2009 before getting a BFP, and it ended after 5 days. And from August 2009, to March 2010 until I got another BFP. So I've also had my long periods of not conceiving despite doing everything right.

Keep your heads up girls. Oh and Preseed has worked for me twice before, just in case anyone is thinking about hostile cervical mucous. We also don't use saliva as a lubricant as this can apparently kill sperm. I bought the OVWatch as well, and despite rave reviews, it never accurately predicted ovulation for me, neither did First Response Ovulation sticks, or the Clearblue Digital sticks. I ended up having to use just the plain old Clearblue non-digital sticks. I also stopped doing temps on this cycle as I was just plain tired of it, and quite honestly, when they say relax, I think that works. Easier said than done I know... unless you are so exhausted from work that you fall asleep while doing the deed... which I did do this cycle. Not even joking, and yes I felt terrible for doing that, but what the heck, it resulted in a BFP.

 

[yomo]

I was/am an unexplained infertility case. They also give this label to women who have conceived multiple times with multiple losses. So I'm unexplained times 2. I've had periods where I get pregnant extremely easily but then go on to lose them around the 11-13 weeks mark, and then I have loooonnnngggg periods of time when I just don't get pregnant at all despite the use of fertility meds.

I've had the HSG which showed everything was open and clear and perfect. I've had a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy and no abnormalities were found. I had monthly day 21 progesterone testing done and it came up normal on all but like 3 occassions (but everyone has an-ovulatory months anyways). I've had every sort of blood test under the sun and I had an abnormal blood clotting test once, after one of the later losses. They've done chromosone analysis on the baby's tissue to see if there is an underlying condition, and he came up fine. I have had a complete chromosonal analysis done on me and I came up perfectly fine. Hubby has had 2 S/A done, and although they weren't great, they said it shouldn't be a factor in the losses or the lack of pregnancies. I've done rounds of Clomid and had nothing happen, and I've had 2 rounds of Clomid that resulted in BFPs; both were on a 1st time but seperated by over 3 years.

Apparently both me and hubby are completely normal so we have been shuffled into the unexplained category. IVF was discussed with us, but apparently as unexplaineds, we had a slim shot of it working, and we didn't have the 10,000.00. IUI was discussed but once again, without a diagnosis we had a slim chance of it working. We discussed donor sperm, but hubby was really against it. We discussed washing his sperm and doing an IUI, but couldn't come up with the money... So then we were told maybe we'd make good foster parents...

I'd pretty much given up, when my OB asked me to try Clomid again for just 4 months. It had been almost 3 years since my last dose, so I figured what the hell. I took it, we had sex 2 times in my fertile period, I made sure to elevate my hips for 30 minutes after both times. We abstained from intercourse in the TWW. When I was 4 days late, I figured it was just the Clomid, but took a test anyways.... and it was a fricking positive. Blew me away!

Sometimes being unexplained means it just happens one day. I went from June 2007, to July 2009 before getting a BFP, and it ended after 5 days. And from August 2009, to March 2010 until I got another BFP. So I've also had my long periods of not conceiving despite doing everything right.

Keep your heads up girls. Oh and Preseed has worked for me twice before, just in case anyone is thinking about hostile cervical mucous. We also don't use saliva as a lubricant as this can apparently kill sperm. I bought the OVWatch as well, and despite rave reviews, it never accurately predicted ovulation for me, neither did First Response Ovulation sticks, or the Clearblue Digital sticks. I ended up having to use just the plain old Clearblue non-digital sticks. I also stopped doing temps on this cycle as I was just plain tired of it, and quite honestly, when they say relax, I think that works. Easier said than done I know... unless you are so exhausted from work that you fall asleep while doing the deed... which I did do this cycle. Not even joking, and yes I felt terrible for doing that, but what the heck, it resulted in a BFP.

Thanks for that lovely sucess story, It can happen but I am finding it really really hard to just relax and turn off from it all, I am trying my hardest to have lots of PMA but it's wearing really really thin! I have never seen those 2 lines all I want it 2 lines I wish you a very H&H 7 months xxx

 

[Chloe1]

It is hard to stay relaxed when its in the back of your mind all the time. What helps me is by planning lots of fun stuff with DH, including a good sex life (all through your cycle) i think thats really important.

 

[fluffystar]

I think though your state of mind can have a lot to do with it and if your life is too stresfull with other unavoidable things (such as work) you can be medically fertile but mentally infertile!

I've been thinking that might be part of my problem for a while now, the problem with that is how does one make oneself mentally fertile if everything in one's thoughts is already baby related? Hope I'm not just shooting myself in the foot every cycle...

Well, my plan is to work on making other areas of my life to make sure im a "happy all rounder"!!! For me, I know that work takes over, so im learning to leave it all behind at the end of the day. Im learning to have fun with my husband rather than just seeing each other as faulty parts of a baby making machine. I think that all the "trying" can get in the way of baby making!!!!