There goes everything :(

[wonderstruck]

So my bf and I were on our first month TTC, it's too early for me to test but I'm now hoping I'm not pregnant because we just broke up and he moved out.

The fact that I was so excited and ready for this and thought we were about to finally be starting our family and our happily ever after and suddenly that is all gone makes it so much harder. I never imagined how quickly everything would fall apart.

I probably am not even pregnant yet but I still feel like I'm losing more than just my future with him, and I don't know if I'll ever be back to TTC.

Keeping relationships strong is so hard, especially when the other person doesn't have any desire to try. I guess all I can do now is move on and realize this wasn't meant to be.

I just needed to vent, I guess I won't be back here for awhile. Good luck to all of you on your TTC journeys

 

[MagicDance]

Hello Wonderstruck, I'm really sorry to hear about your relationship.
I always try and think that everything happens for a reason sadly! It's still very selfish of him to walk away while you could be expecting but it's also a massive sign that unfortunately he was just not ready

From what you have put you seem extremely mature and sensible. You're right relationships can be tough and maintaining them can be hard (honeymoon period over and strain of living together ttc) but when you are with the right person it should get easier

It's painful but you will move on and find the right person who wants the same things as you (or maybe after a breather your ex might regret his decision) either way Good luck for the future.

 

[Starlight32]

Sounds like a very rough time . He does not sound very mature, but it is better to find out sooner rather than later. Best wishes to you, you will get past this dark time!

 

[awnmyown]

I can tell you, it's sometimes for the best. Hopefully you're not pregnant, and you can explore a new world where you can be loved in a new way by someone who's willing to stick it out through the hard times. I know that I watched a ten year relationship come to an end and thought all my dreams, all those wants, were gone with it. I'd never marry, never have a family, never have any of those experiences. Now three years later, I'm married to the man of my dreams where it's a different kind of "hard". It's like worth it every day. We're married, we're now TTC, and I realize that sometimes good things fall apart so even better things can come together. Hang strong and keep believing.