think im going to lose my baby. .

[copesy]

I had my 20 week scan yesterday and there wasnt much amneotic fluid around the baby.. they could only see one kidney, and the one they could see had cysts on it . They said if they are correct then the baby had next to no chance of surviving out of the womb. I have another scan on thursday to assess it properly with a specialist but.. I dont see much hope, I am heartbroken and terrified

 

[ClairAye]

My LO has kidney problems (though not the same) and you'll be surprised what doctors can do. Did they say baby only had one or they can only see one? And it may not be cysts but something else. Sorry not got the best advice but lots of hugs I know how it feels fearing the worst, you can pm me if you ever need to talk All my luck for your appointment

 

[ohdessy]

I cant imagine what you're going through right now all I can say is don't give up hope just yet, doctors often prepare you for the worst. Best of luck in your appointment, I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you x

 

[jozylynn896]

Big hugs. Keeping you two in mt prayers.

 

[amytrisha]

big big big hugs & lots of prayers xxx

 

[kaylamariee]

Keeping you and baby in my prayers

 

[skyesmom]

hey love, these are devastating news to hear, but don't give up hope. US scans are sometimes wrong and imprecise, and often what they see or don't see depends on the position of the baby.

i am keeping you both in my prayers and thoughts, and i hope for a miracle for yo two

 

[17pregnant]

Oh darling I can't even imagine what your going through. Don't give up hope and keep us updated, we're all here for you. I will be keeping you and baby in my thoughts and prayers xxxx

 

[justhoping]

oh hun your in my thoughts...what scary news!

I do want to say that there have been babies that have survived with mamas with broken and no water...so there is hope there and many many people have just one kidney and are fine, as for the cyst..I myself have had a lifelong cyst on my kidney....and its nothing..
as long as it is a regular cyst the baby can live a happy long healthy life...
cysts can happen because something brushed the kidney and it annoys it making a cyst..

im not saying that is what is going on, but doctors do tend to jump to the worst for some reason well before they have all the info and I just wanted to let you know there is lots of hope out there...and myself as well as all these people here will be keeping you and your little bundle in our thoughts for a good outcome

 

[MrsEngland]

sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way

 

[tinymumma]

Keep your chin up chicky. I know how it feels to have the doctors tell you that something may go wrong. Feel free to pm me hon, you can talk to me about anything. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you. Best wishes for you and your little peanut

 

[kailynn]

Keeping you and lo in my prayers!! xx Hopefully they tell you some good news at the specialists!

 

[copesy]

Thank you for all the good wishes. Unfortunately, I didnt get good news and after finding out that the baby wouldnt survive out of the womb and maybe wouldnt even survive the pregnancy, I made the decision to end it this weekend. I thought that was the fairest decision for both the baby and me. At least this way we can start to grieve and start the healing process.
Wont lie.. i am heartbroken. Saturday is going to be the worst day of my life and I am absolutely dreading it.

 

[skyesmom]

i am so so sorry for your loss dear. this is the hardest decision one can make, and in the middle of all the devastation and shock, i really admire your courage to make up your mind.

i know it's not the same, but i've miscarried myself so if you need to talk feel free to pm me anytime.

and there is also a forum here where you can find people in the same situation as you: https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/ethical-prenatal-losses/

i know nothing can take your pain away, as no one can give your baby back to you, but finding others who are going through the same or similar things could make you feel less isolated and lonely... and it is important to have understanding people around you throughout these hardest times.

sending my love & prayers to you :Hugs: :Hugs:

 

[justhoping]

oh, wow..

 

[katherinegrey]

I am so, so sorry honey

 

[jozylynn896]

:"(

 

[baby9]

So, so sorry to hear this x

 

[magic93]

I am soo sorry hun :'(
My thoughts and prayers are with you

 

[17pregnant]

Oh darling You strong girl. I am so sorry. I don't know what to say, all I can say is you will be in my thoughts and prayers xx