Those who have been pregnant at a young age and 35+

[Sami_Joah]

I had my first two children when I was 15 and 17 and am currently 7 weeks pregnant at the age of 37. Both of my kids are now college students so as you can imagine I feel like I am starting all over again. We are all really excited except for the the fact that a few years ago I had several miscarriages within a three year period and therefore gave up on ever having another baby. Trying to stay positive though!

 

[Whitesoxfan41]

I had my older girls at 21, 25 and 27. . .I'm 42 now. . .physically I don't think it has been that much different (although it was a long time ago, I may just not remember? HA) except I have GD this time. I did start out overweight this time around as well, and was not with my other pg's. Hubby's first baby, he'll be 37 in January. I feel SO different mentally than I did with my others though. I worry more but feel much more relaxed in general about having this little one.

 

[MonyMony]

I was 23 with my first, 31 with my second and am 38 now with my third. People are kind of shocked/amazed that we want to start over when my son only has 2 1/2 more years before he's off to college. Sometimes I am too, and wonder if we were crazy to choose another baby over a puppy!

I have to say pregnancy has just kicked my butt this time. Horrible migraines, ms, constipation, fatigue...and now varicose veins! Things I never or barely had with last pg. The doctor says my body just knows how to do all this stuff already, and so it does it faster. Barring bc failure, this will be my last b/c I honestly don't think I could survive another.

 

[kerrie24]

That sounds awful monymony,Each pregnancy I have it tends to be worse than the previous one,this is one of the things I would worry about.With ds2 I couldnt leave the house for the last few weeks with my sore hips!

 

[MonyMony]

You're smart to think it through. I would have said I did the same, as we discussed it for over a year, but I now realize there was some wishful thinking involved. I told myself it couldn't be as bad as I imagined, and that I'd never started out in such good shape (which is true as I never exercised regularly when I was younger). But it didn't make a difference at all--it was much worse than I expected! Had to be on leave from job for 2 months and am now only able to work part-time. Was depressed for a while too.

Although things did improve some, now I don't know what to expect from the second half of pg. I guess I'm just one of those women that weren't meant to have half a dozen (though my grandmothers did and more!).

OH and I had discussed adopting beforehand...will definitely go that route for #4 if we decide on another.

 

[wannabubba#4]

That sounds awful monymony,Each pregnancy I have it tends to be worse than the previous one,this is one of the things I would worry about.With ds2 I couldnt leave the house for the last few weeks with my sore hips!

I have SPD too, had it with pregnancy 4 severely, on crutches from 16weeks and in severe pain every day. This time yeah I am in pain at times and on crutches from 26 weeks but it is easier than last one. Maybe because I have to get on with it having a 3 yo but I think it was due to me doing Pilates for 6 months prior to getting pregnant and continuing with prenatal Pilates as much as I could.

Had my first at 21, second at 24, third at 29, fourth at 37 and am 40 now with number 5. Other than the SPD which I expected, I have had a great pregnancy, no MS, very little fatigue -well hitting me now at 30weeks but then clumping about with crutches at Xmas time is exhausting lol xxx

 

[mybabyluv3]

Had ds at 19, dd at 23, dd at 28 and now at 36 pregnant with #4. I think each one got easier as far as ms. Even the birth. All were cesarean section but each one was easier and less painful. Only thing I'd the rest of my body might be tryna tell me I'm getting old. Dealing with all kinds of other aches and pains even high blood pressure, which I never had before.

 

[SunflowerBub]

I was 19 when I had my first and 21 with my second, both were easy breezy, no ligament pain, sickness aches pains, my third I was 32 developed spd so was a little harder, this time I'm 36 and the pregnancy is kicking my arse!!
I'm exhausted, no energy, in bed by 8, round ligament pain for the first time, when I get up, sickness, pains everywhere, spd starting already, can't stand for too long the back pain kicks in, so glad this is the last, sure my bodies saying " enough woman"

Hi, I feel for you! I am in exactly the same predicament! I had two very easy pregnancies when I was younger (22 & 24) and then when was pg with my 3rd, I developed a severe case of SPD which shocked me because I had never felt that before. I saw the physio and wore a stomach brace/girdle to support the weight and I was in agony from around 16 weeks. I'm now divorced and re-partnered and my DP and I would love to have a baby together. I'm really worried that I am being foolish by deliberately getting myself into another situation, but possibly even worse, than before. I'm older now and I'm not as healthy. I am losing weight atm so hopefully that will help, but I'm very concerned. I'm in a very active job that requires a lot of physical work from me and I'm worried about that too. I wonder if SPD classifies as disability for Centrelink purposes... do you know anything about this? I never got to the point of crutches, but I was couch/bed bound (except I just pushed through the pain so I could keep on looking after my other two kids). I was in tears most days. Another question I have is, were you able to naturally deliver the baby with SPD or was it a C-section due to the pain? Thanks for any responses that I may get on this matter.

xo

 

[kerrie24]

I was 19 when I had my first and 21 with my second, both were easy breezy, no ligament pain, sickness aches pains, my third I was 32 developed spd so was a little harder, this time I'm 36 and the pregnancy is kicking my arse!!
I'm exhausted, no energy, in bed by 8, round ligament pain for the first time, when I get up, sickness, pains everywhere, spd starting already, can't stand for too long the back pain kicks in, so glad this is the last, sure my bodies saying " enough woman"

Hi, I feel for you! I am in exactly the same predicament! I had two very easy pregnancies when I was younger (22 & 24) and then when was pg with my 3rd, I developed a severe case of SPD which shocked me because I had never felt that before. I saw the physio and wore a stomach brace/girdle to support the weight and I was in agony from around 16 weeks. I'm now divorced and re-partnered and my DP and I would love to have a baby together. I'm really worried that I am being foolish by deliberately getting myself into another situation, but possibly even worse, than before. I'm older now and I'm not as healthy. I am losing weight atm so hopefully that will help, but I'm very concerned. I'm in a very active job that requires a lot of physical work from me and I'm worried about that too. I wonder if SPD classifies as disability for Centrelink purposes... do you know anything about this? I never got to the point of crutches, but I was couch/bed bound (except I just pushed through the pain so I could keep on looking after my other two kids). I was in tears most days. Another question I have is, were you able to naturally deliver the baby with SPD or was it a C-section due to the pain? Thanks for any responses that I may get on this matter.

xo

My spd with my 3rd baby was bad,I was housebound for the last few weeks,could hardly move,and I still delivered my 10lb5oz son naturally.Once I was in labour the spd just blended in with the rest of the pain haha.

 

[SunflowerBub]

Lol, that sounds about right! haha! I'm just concerned about whether or not Centrelink will acknowledge it as a "medical condition" and give me disability payment because if it's as bad as last time, I won't be able to handle my job. I know I left at 26 weeks last time but that was pushing it, and I was given light duties, but this time, there are no light duties. Just worried about finances if this happens (which lets face it, probably will happen).

 

[kerrie24]

Sorry I dont know anything about that but I hope somepne comes along who can help you.

 

[~Brandy~]

Lol, that sounds about right! haha! I'm just concerned about whether or not Centrelink will acknowledge it as a "medical condition" and give me disability payment because if it's as bad as last time, I won't be able to handle my job. I know I left at 26 weeks last time but that was pushing it, and I was given light duties, but this time, there are no light duties. Just worried about finances if this happens (which lets face it, probably will happen).

Sorry I dont know anything about Centrelink and I am also in the US... But Where I work it would count as disability and be paid by short term disability. I am currently out of work on short term medical as well but mine is due to cervical issues.