laura109
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I'm writing this at almost 2am. For eight months now, since I was pregnant and my daughter went in a bed she had never slept through!!! She was fab until she got a bed. I understood it was all new to her and she needed the added reassurance but it's just getting so stressful now. I have to take her to bed every night as she won't let daddy. I read her a story and I enjoy this as it's our time and then I have to lie with her until she's asleep. Usually this process takes 45 minutes in total but it can be alot longer. By the time she's asleep it's between 9.00 and 10.00. We usually get to bed between 11.00 and half past. Sometimes she's awake again by then and we start the whole process again. If not without fail by 4am she comes Into our room (sometimes crying) gets in our bed and goes to sleep. She squashes right up against us or pays sideways. We end up waking up with headaches from the broken sleep and bad backs. To top all this off we have a baby who feeds somewhere between 2 and 4am. Tonight has been a bad night with her. I put her to bed. I watched an hour of tele then she started whining so I went and laid with her. Got in my bed again and less than an hour later she came in crying. Took her back to her room and continued to cry. I asked her what was wrong and she just continued to cry. I turned to sleep and she cried at me to stroke her hair. I told her mummy was tired and I would pay with her but i was going to sleep. She continued to cry. It resulted in me closing the baby gate and coming downstairs and I let her dad deal with it from there. I feel like an awful.Mum for walking away but I'm so fed up of this. My baby has a cold and I want to be there for him tonight as no doubt he will struggle abit.
The reason I'm reaching out is I've lost count of the amount of times I'm kicked out my own bed. I've lost count how many times my oh sleeps on the sofa. I've lost count how many times I've woken with a bad head due to sleeping in uncomfortable positions in her single bed. She rules when it comes to sleep. We've not even managed to have sex since my son was born four months ago. It's impossible to even cuddle up as we are permanently dealing with one of the kids.
I've tried everything. Charts. Rewards. Being firm. Baby Gates. Special bedtime drinks. Books. New bedding. I've explained to her I'd be so proud of her if she does stay in her room. I've offered days out and treats as rewards. I've told her off and put her back in bed. Absolutely nothing works. I've even tried earlier and later bed times. I've let her fall asleep downstairs and carrying her up. Tried music. Tried lights. Nothing!!!
How do I get this sorted? I am very patient but tonight I just had to walk away. She is obviously too young to understand how tiring it is and how mummy and daddy need sleep too. I love her to bits and she gets one on one time and we take her out for lots of walks etc. She's just starting nursery and loving it. Just can't take many more months of this.
The reason I'm reaching out is I've lost count of the amount of times I'm kicked out my own bed. I've lost count how many times my oh sleeps on the sofa. I've lost count how many times I've woken with a bad head due to sleeping in uncomfortable positions in her single bed. She rules when it comes to sleep. We've not even managed to have sex since my son was born four months ago. It's impossible to even cuddle up as we are permanently dealing with one of the kids.
I've tried everything. Charts. Rewards. Being firm. Baby Gates. Special bedtime drinks. Books. New bedding. I've explained to her I'd be so proud of her if she does stay in her room. I've offered days out and treats as rewards. I've told her off and put her back in bed. Absolutely nothing works. I've even tried earlier and later bed times. I've let her fall asleep downstairs and carrying her up. Tried music. Tried lights. Nothing!!!
How do I get this sorted? I am very patient but tonight I just had to walk away. She is obviously too young to understand how tiring it is and how mummy and daddy need sleep too. I love her to bits and she gets one on one time and we take her out for lots of walks etc. She's just starting nursery and loving it. Just can't take many more months of this.