Time is passing so slowly

[Peach Blossom]

Time feels like its going so slowly. I know that I only mc'd on Friday and that physical and emotional healing takes time, but I want to be pregnant again now! I'm sure this is a natural feeling that everyone has been through, but time just seems to be going so so slowly. The idea of having to wait for a whole cycle before trying again in unbearable. How do you get through this?

Apologies if this sounds self pitying...

 

[rachjim98]

I do not have a answer just wanted to give you some so sorry for your loss

 

[Shelby2007]

Ive started exercising.. I too am waiting for AF.. but then we have to wait until May until we can try again...Im not looking forward to that! Ive also made some plans.. I know you just had your mc.. so it might be too early for you - I have my mmc (discovered on feb 2nd.. and passed everything on the 10th) - but Im just now getting to where I can even get out and about!

 

[chanel]

Hi, sorry for your loss

It's been 4months since my mmc which a lot of the time has dragged. When it happened i became totally obsess with wanting to try again but had been told to wait for first a/f which is what we did. It took 8wks to return and has been a bit messed up since. Just after it happed time did drag but i tried to give myself other things to focus on which isn't easy. Booked us on a holiday etc to try and take my mind off it, thinking that the sooner i stop stressing the sooner things would get back to normal.... but thats a vicious circle.

What you are feeling is natural and a lot of us have felt exactly the same. Most women on here seem to have returned to a normal cycle pretty quickly so i am out of the norm.

Again, i'm sorry for your loss and hope a BFP is coming your way very soon x

 

[Peach Blossom]

Think I'll spend tomorrow working out a project to keep me occupied for the next couple of weeks. Hope to feel strong enough physically soon so that I can get in to the yogalates again... that's at least an hour out of the day!

DH and I are fortunately flying to Hong Kong for a week next Friday. It will be good to get away together. He nailed exactly the way I'm feeling right now with regards to time. I looked at the clock hoping for it to be the afternoon and it was only 20 past 10. He looked at my disappointed face and said "were you hoping it would be 20 past April?" Of course that made me burst in to tears again, but he is so right!

tick tock...

Thanks for your words of encouragment ladies.

 

[Las78]

Hun, so sorry for your loss and don't apologise for sounding self pitying, you've been through a lot and you're allowed to feel that way.

I hope you have a lovely time in Hong Kong, sounds like it will be just what you need. I too found time went so slowly for the first couple of weeks, really until I went back to work, partly as I was used to being at work I think and also partly because I couldn't motivate myself to do anything, I just wanted to think about my angel (I was so scared at first of forgetting him which of course I never will!) I knew I had to mtoivate myself, as hard as it was, because I had my OH and 2 daughters to think about as well and prepare myself for going back to work but I did it in my own time and little steps at a time, doing things did make me feel better and did pass the time. Just do little things as you feel ready hun.

I know what you mean about wanting to be pregnant hun, I was desperate to try again within a week and even now 4 weeks on I'm not worrying about contraception. My head tells me to wait for AF but my heart tells me I want a baby, the only trouble is I want my son, I want to be 22 weeks pregnant (which is where I would have been now) and thats the bit I'm struggling with at the minute. I think the whole waiting for AF to be able to try again makes time go slowly too, I have to smile because I think all the times I've dreaded AF arriving and now I'm hoping it will hurry up.

Take care of yourself hun, do whatever feels right for you and take whatever time you need x

 

[AP]

Peach, do have a plan of action. It helped me. I spent hours looking up on the net stupid things, that just annoyed me more. My first mc made me more determined. After a few months i bought opks and even a positive opk brought a smile to my face, because i knew then it was possible, and just a matter of time. I thought about work. I thought about getting the house changed around. I started little projects of my own. And did some retail therapy (eBay is a git!). I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Go on this break and chill, pamper yourself. There,s no harm in taking time to grieve either, it does get better, i promise. X x x x x

 

[Schmelly]

I know exactly how you feel hun.

I'm clinging on to the thought that time WILL pass...even though every minute feels like an hour. One day we will wake up and it will be ttc time again. One day we will wake up and get our bfp. And one day we will have our babies in our arms. That day isn't now, and that hurts like hell. But it will come...it has to come.

I'm trying to convince myself as well as you hun We will get through this. Just keep venting cos it really helps

 

[Peach Blossom]

I know exactly how you feel hun.

I'm clinging on to the thought that time WILL pass...even though every minute feels like an hour. One day we will wake up and it will be ttc time again. One day we will wake up and get our bfp. And one day we will have our babies in our arms. That day isn't now, and that hurts like hell. But it will come...it has to come.

I'm trying to convince myself as well as you hun We will get through this. Just keep venting cos it really helps

I hope that day comes soon for both of us... I'm so glad that I have had the support of all of you guys.

 

[thingy]

i would like you tell you it gets better but i'm 5weeks on after my m/c and feeling so down!! i don't think its helps that everyone around me is pregnant and seem to have forgotten i miscarried! On the good days i can cope unfortunately today is a bad day. But i try to busy myself and arrange to do things on my days off. i also have ME which doesn't help since my energy levels are low. I know we all will come out of the other end but we just need to support each other now. so sorry for all your loses

 

[holly81]

Aw I really feel for you hun. The first week or two are the worst. And I know what you mean, I'm waiting for AF after m/c too - I stopped bleeding 5 weeks ago and it seems like it's never going to come. I just want to move on and feel this is the last big hurdle. I know I'll be upset as even the thought of bleeding is hard. It seems so unfair that my stupid body would bleed when it wasn't meant to, but now it won't do it!! Come on already!!
But I know deep down that time will pass, and one day all our dreams will come true x

 

[Peach Blossom]

I've decided to go back to work tomorrow. I'm not good at doing nothing at home and its not helping the time to pass. Only a week until I go to Hong Kong which will be another distraction so by the time I get back I hope it will only be a week or 2 til AF appears... I don't think I've ever wanted it to come more...

Hope all our dreams come true sooner rather than later...