Time to put on my big girl pants. *big update pg5*

[Jadelm]

I don't know this situation at all so I'm sorta confused but I don't like it one tiny bit! Stay safe hun xxx

 

[EmandBub]

that's ridiculous!
i would say go out as much as you can but have your mum or someone with you if you stay in!
it's appaling how they can do this to you!
especially being pregnant and about to pop
the fucking cheek!
xxxxxx

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Update
You know that lovely detective that told me not to bother with a restraining order because a) FOB wouldn't know anybody was after him until they had him in custody and b) if they pressed the charges an order of protection would be put in place right away? Well he's a fucking dirty liar.
Not only did he never pick FOB up like he said he would last week, he's now put my family in danger!

He left his card at FOB's house since he wasn't home and then called and left him a voicemail saying, "This is detective so-and-so from ___ Police Department. We missed you at your home, so please give us a call as soon as you get this. We need to bring you in for questioning." ARE YOU EFFING SERIOUS?!?! What dumb fuck thought it was a good idea to give a dangerous man, with previous domestic issues (recent finding), a heads up that they were looking for him?!

So FOB didn't call the police, he called my mother! He called her flipping out "why are the police looking for me, etc, etc." So she told him why. Then he tried to get my mom angry using the same abusive passive-aggressive tactics that he used on me. It didn't work with her, which in turn pissed him off. So I called the detective to find out what kind of brain damage he sustained over the week and thankfully he didn't answer. I know it's not wise to bite the hand that feeds you, but he's now put my entire family in danger. So I left him a message basically saying, "Hey, FOB's on the phone harassing my mom as we speak thanks to a little heads up he received from you today. I'm going down to my town's police department and filing a restraining order since I'm now in danger. Thanks for everything." (We had to go through his city's police department because that's where the crimes in question happened)

We went down and filed a temporary (emergency) restraining order and the officers down there were appalled by the way the other department was handling this. To the point where once we explained everything the one cop was just going off about how he needs to be in jail and how he'll do everything to get him on something, even if it's just an unpaid parking ticket. I don't think he was too fond of the situation.

So now he's not allowed ANY access to me or my family. He's not even allowed to contact people and ask them to contact me for him. And this all covers Olivia as well since he can't contact her without contacting me.

Attention to all my facebook friends: I found out that FOB friend requested a few of my friends that are from BnB. He's doing this because if you comment on something of mine he can then see it via your wall. kwim? I notified the couple of ladies I realized he was friends with and let them know what was going on and who he was. If you you're friends with me on facebook and want to make sure you're not friends with him, pm me and I'll send you his name. Obviously I can't just post it out there for the world to see.
I'm so sorry for any girls who he may have contacted. My entire friends list is private now so he can't add anymore of you.

 

[Desi's_lost]

I'm glad some people are so filled with common sense and proper procedure. Good to hear you finally have someone (hopefully!) capable of doing something. You really shouldnt be having to deal with all this bull.

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Yeah, 3 police departments later and I finally got something done!
Best part is that they scheduled me for family court (to seal the restraining order) the same day as my induction!!! So we have to call them tomorrow and change it. (court, not my induction)

 

[AriannasMama]

geez what a psycho your ex sounds like! i am glad you got the restraining order and will be able to get the extension on it as well. hopefully it takes off some stress

 

[Desi's_lost]

Nothing ever gets done right the first few times when dealing with the state. its a lot like those wind up monkeys... lol

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Nothing ever gets done right the first few times when dealing with the state. its a lot like those wind up monkeys... lol

That's perfect!

 

[newmommy23]

Some people are just straight dumb! Why would he notify him?!!? omg.

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

I'd like to know the same thing! And in the interview I had to give them I made it VERY clear that I felt he was a danger to my family and myself. Not just speculation, but because he blatantly said "Or maybe I could just push you down some stairs. That would do the trick." Along with many other things that were obvious threats.
They also have credible witnesses to said threats.

We had to make sure my MW knew what was going on and why it was very important that he be kept out of the hospital at all costs when I go into labor. She was VERY pissed off with him and how the police were handling it. She told me I should just go to the media because that's the only way I'll ever get anything done. Not gonna lie, that was my back up plan if they didn't give me the restraining order. Our news stations in America would just LOVE to pick up a story like this.

 

[newmommy23]

OMG Ally he said push you down stairs? That is way too far. Can't you set him up for murder or something?

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Yep! He even tried to trick me into eating/drinking/doing things that he knew would cause a mc and masking it as something to "help with morning sickness."
And it actually is being used against him in the domestic case he's got going against him. Oh yeah, I got myself involved with a real piece of work.

He tried to tell my mom when he called that he only called her first because he wanted to make sure the baby was okay. So she asked him what his city police department would be calling him for if there was something wrong with the baby, unless he, himself did something. And that she knew he was only saying that to make her think he actually gave a damn. She then proceeded to tell him where to shove it. I love my mom.

 

[newmommy23]

Good for her! What a prick! I hope he gets nailed with all the charges he deserves. He should never be allowed to meet Olivia if he wanted her dead so bad. What a horrible person.

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Yeah, so do I.
That's why he's not going to be on the BC. I'm not claiming unknown, I'm just leaving it blank. And in the state of New Jersey a man has to be there to sign the BC himself for the "father" part to be of any good. I could tell the doctors that Joe Shmoe is my baby's father, but unless he signs it, it doesn't mean anything.
Because of this they allow you to just leave it blank.

 

[newmommy23]

Good! What a prick! At least he did one good thing, he gave you Olivia!

 

[EmandBub]

^ WSS!
xxx

 

[MommyGrim]

I'm so sorry about all of this!

Pfft, serve and protect! My ass!

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Yeah. There's a 99% chance the case is going to be dismissed. The police that gave me the TRO fucked up and now it's not worth a dime. My mom has to call the court on the day of my induction (unless I go before then) because the judge needs to dismiss the TRO and refuses to change the court date. They all fucked up and most likely, he won't even be getting a slap on the wrist now.

I slept a total of 18 hours today. Depression really hit me hard. I wouldn't have gotten out of bed at all if I didn't know that I needed to feed my daughter. My faith in mankind is shattered and I can promise you I will never be going to the police for anything ever again. All those years that I was running away and acting insane the police were involved because my mom needed help with helping me. They never did anything. They didn't do anything to help my best friend who was being abused by her mother. They turned a blind eye because, in their own words, "Your home isn't any worse than foster care." And now this. They've knowingly put us all in danger. This is justice? If my father were a cop, or if we had money, you can bet he'd be in jail right now. We've been treated like the criminals this whole time. I'm done with it.

Where do you turn when you can't even turn to the law for safety? What are you supposed to do when the very people who are supposed to protect you are the ones putting you in danger? This is not justice. This is not my America.

 

[newmommy23]

Try not to be sad I understand, it's so frustrating when the police do nothing. My ex broke into my house and beat the hell out of me a few years ago and the cops did nothing since there were no witnesses. Even though I had physical evidence and he has a violent past. Go to the media if you have to. America is unfortunately not the land it likes to play itself to be.

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

It really isn't. Don't get me wrong, there are still a few good law officers somewhere, but because our laws govern to the aid of the criminals instead of giving them what the deserve, it's not like they can even do anything.
I'm sorry they didn't do anything for you either. It's really a sick process they have. I'm thinking about buying security cams for my own home so that, God forbid he (or anyone else) does break in, I at least can have proof. Although I bet if that were the case, they'd read me some mumbo-jumbo about how it's not admissible in court because they weren't aware they were being filmed.