Cant believe i missed this thread!
I too find all the scare mongering a bit much. Ive had two mc's one at 37 and one at 38. Im now just 40 and married in November for the first time. I never had anyone mention my age to me except giving me a us earlier than for younger women (thank you very much
) I had a d&c with both mc's and the ladies at the hospital we're absolutely marvellous.
I got tested for recurrent mc's since i was over 35 and told to hold off ttc until i had test results back last year and was told everything was great - except my thyroid and im now on medication for life. They did say they cant guarantee I mc because of the hypothyroidism itself but that studies do show undiagnosed women with hypothyroidism mc much, much more and that my chances are really good. I will be monitored from the moment i do get pg but i quite prefer it that way (as opposed to a girl at work who had to wait until she was 14 weeks for her scan (she's 32). Gulp!
I have since gotten a referral to the fertility clinic and although i cant get ivf as too old for the referral ( you have to be under 38 up here) and am not considered infertile, they will do any investigations we want. Ive been in once already and did mention worrying about having 'old eggs' and the consultant nearly fell off the chair laughing saying old eggs don't make you mc they only make it so it takes longer to conceive. Phew, that was my main worry, lol!
The progression of both pg's also they said means we're obviously not infertile, obviously no issues with tubes, sperm etc and to just keep on trying. Ive done the ov test and I ov fine. (duh, i knew that
) We're both back for another apmt in June but we hope we'll pg by then!!
I have every faith it will happen as it only takes on time, one egg and one sperm. Time is a bit of a worry but hey, if you cant take the heat...
Big hugs to everyone on this thread, you are a bunch of brave and strong women. I console myself with knowing that once i do get pg and have a baby the little things wont faze me at all, it will wash over me cause Ive done the hard bit and everything else is gravy!
Omi xxx