To be yellow or not to be yellow...

[Mrs Dragonfly]

From the start I have been totally set on finding out baby's gender, DH said he thought staying would be more fun but went along with finding out because he knows I really want to. Everyone that knows so far keeps asking if we know the gender yet and it has me all excited/anxious to find out!

But then today out of no where I'm struck with the thought of maybe we should stay and keep it a surprise.

Share with me ladies, tell me why you are and why you aren't finding out!

 

[Rickles]

We found out with DD. OH wanted to.

This time he suggested we didn't - our lives are a little more settled, we are far less anxious (second baby!) and he knows I'd love a boy... Yet when someone hands me a healthy girl I won't give two hoots about boys but if I found out now I might feel bummed for a while.

Our DD is too young to understand brother or sister, if she was older I might find out to prepare her. We bought gender neutral nursery stuff so aside from first outfits we have no need to know beforehand - unisex coming home outfits for us - then lots of online shopping post birth!

On the one hand the suspense is killing me, on the other the excitement is really building, of course I want to meet my baby like anyone who already knows but I am also soooo excited to find out... it's overriding my anxiety about having two!!!

xx

 

[george83]

I stayed team yellow both times and loved it. It made announcing much more special and I felt kept the excitement going all through pregnancy

 

[clacko]

I have this dilemma also. From the beginning iv said I wanted to stay team yellow as we already have a girl and a boy so as long as baby is healthy I don't mind what we have. Hubby hasn't been so sure and would like to find out. We found out both times before.

Iv been team yellow all the way until now, 30 days until our 20 weeks scan and I'm leaning more towards finding out. We still have everything from our little girl and finding out would make it much easier preparing things because if were pink again I can get everything out the loft and get it all washed ready! But if we're team blue I can get it all out and start clearing things out cause we're not having any more after this little one.

So far I have found the shops don't have many neutral clothes if we stay team yellow which would stop me going mad buying things which is a plus but also would mean lots of buying after baby is born especially if it's a boy!!! Aaaarrrrggggghhhh don't know what to do lol!

 

[Gingerspice]

I'm wanting to know just so I can get things settled for dd (4)

She's convinced it's a girl. Hopefully we'll be able to find out as if it is a boy we have some work cut out convincing her it's not that bad. Plus it means I can get the room sorted which again will help dd see what it means.

Knowing our luck though the scan won't be able to tell us as baby will be hiding, but we'll see.

With our first we were going to remain yellow as hubs wanted to. I didn't mind really either way so left it to him. We had agreed though that we'd take a piece of paper and an envelope and ask the sonographer to write on it and seal it so if we than did change our minds later on we could find out without anot her scan.

As it was OH just blurted out and asked what it was

 

[nataliendan]

i was going to stay yellow for like 5 mins haha but what we have done is found out but not told anyone and if it slips the name is 100 percent a secret so its still a nice announcement for friends and family, i think its a nice idea but after you have gone through 40 weeks and then labor i would not feel anymore love either gender, i would be in love with seeing there lovely faces for the first time, so i want to get prepared and im so excited to meet my liitle boy

 

[babylove x]

I like to plan and id be way too antsy & anxious to hold out. I have thought tho that if we have a 3rd it would be nice to keep it a surprise, 3rd times the charm right!!!

 

[Pinkie 33]

We're staying Team Yellow with our bubbas We are so happy to have finally made it and neither of us have any preference, we'll be delighted whatever we get. I'll get a few white babygrows etc to get us going and the rest will follow. I have ordered a pale yellow and a pale green patchwork cot quilts from a local lady quilter. I can totally understand why other people like to know what they are having, its probably very sensible to be more organised, especially if there are siblings. But for us, the excitement is building... roll on November!

 

[littlelegs91]

We are team yellow and we will be announcing by putting pink or blue socks on the baby and sending photos to people x

 

[LoveBubble]

We are team yellow! It's our first baby and its caused so much excitement I honestly feel I would be team yellow in the future when having more children! There's lots of people around me pregnant at the moment, and they have all found out... We were at a party at the wkend and the 2 pregnant ladies there both knew what they were having, and the conversations seemed to dry up quicker from people around us... "Aww how far are u? When are u due? What are u havin? Do u have a name?..." Where as with me the questions seemed to last longer and everyone seemed more interested.. They kept saying "oh it's so lovely that u don't know, its like waiting for Christmas isn't it!"

I have 3 friends who previously found out, and I had no problem with them finding it out it was still lovely when they revealed it after the scan, but I just felt the excitement (for me a person on the outside) seemed to be less... When these ladies were in labour we were texting saying "has so n so arrived yet??" And "what did she weigh?" But with my 2 friends and my brother who didnt find out I was literally on the edge of my seat, for all us friends and family back home it was sooo much more exciting!! Waiting for that call of "babies here safe and sound and ITS A......" Oh it just thrills me!!! Anyway of course its completely a personal choice and I think couples should do whatever they want but me and OH are team yellow and its just adding to the excitement for us.... I also think it will give me and extra boost through labour thinking "I'm gonna find out today if we have a little boy or a little girl" xxx

 

[Yo_Yo]

I had to know this time-and as soon as I could! Found out at 14 weeks.

Found out with dd1 at 20 week scan and tried to stay team yellow with dd2 but gave in at additional scans at 29 weeks!

I'd rather know and buy pink or blue, think of names and bond. I also like being able to say 'he' rather than 'it' or just 'the baby'

 

[vickyandchick]

I considered staying team yellow but in the end we both decided we wanted to know. At my 20 week scan the first thing I asked was can we find out I think I would have caved then in we hadn't already decided to find out.

Also little one wasn't planned and its helped me bond with him soooo much knowing that he's a 'he'.

 

[Gingerspice]

I'm glad we did find out for dd in the end tho. The labour was awful. The hospital after care was shocking and dd was high needs and was an awful first year. I had big bonding issues. I suspect they would have been worse had I not already bonded the bit I did by knowing who it was in there before that experience

 

[DocMcStuffins]

We've found out each and every time. Mainly because we're both so impatient that neither of us could wait! Lol. But definitely first time around oh was desperate to know and when he found out he said it made it easier for him to bond with the baby by knowing what we were having and being able to refer to baby as a she.

Second time around we both wanted to know again as we were again too impatient to wait but also because I like to be organised and it being another girl meant I could've really prepared. This time I was hoping for a third girl and seeing as I'd sold everything from first and second time around I was desperate to start buying cute girly things again.

For me it has never taken the excitement away from expecting. I am so unbelievably excited to meet my little girl and see if she looks like either of her sisters! My daughters were also desperate for a sister so were over the moon when we told them.

If I was to have another I would totally find out again and again and again! Lol

X

 

[Gnomer]

We found out, much to the displeasure of certain family members. They felt we were taking the excitement away from the birth for them. This is my child however, and after the traumatic birth of my son where I couldn't have given a flying monkey what gender he was in the end, I decided to find out now. Birth will be just as exciting for me regardless, finding out gender won't take away from that. Screw what other people want.

My nanna is also terminally I'll, every bit of good news is a HUGE deal at the moment. Seeing her face light up and the first genuine happiness she's had in months was just as exciting for me as finding out the gender. Hopefully she'll still be here when florence (who is named after her) is born, and I get to see the same happiness again.

 

[squirrel.]

We have found out both times.

With our son I considered staying team yellow for a few weeks in the beginning as we had no preference over gender. In the end though, we did find out because I didn't like referring to the baby as 'it'. I wanted to know what we were having so I could bond better with the bab. Finding out it was a boy, giving him his name, imagining what he would look like and what our lives might be like when he arrived, making crafty things and clothes especially for him, preparing his 'nursery' (half of our bedroom)... all of that made everything so special. It wouldn't have been the same if I was having to make/buy neutral things and imagine everything as 'if it's a boy' or 'if it's a girl'. I loved finding out with him.

We found out again this time, but not to help bond as after having my son, I know what the mother/baby bond feels like now and already feel I have it with the baby I'm carrying. I couldn't imagine it before and though I loved my unborn son, I didn't know personally what this bond felt like, whereas now, because of our bond, I can extend those emotions to this baby as well. We found out this time because we were leaning more towards wanting a girl as we both want to experience having a boy and a girl. I wanted to find out what we were having as I would have hated to feel even the tiniest sliver of disappointment on the day my baby was born. I love my little boy to pieces, I couldn't love him any more than I do and had this baby been a boy, I would have been delighted to have another son to adore, but I do know I would have felt a tiny twinge of regret that I didn't get to experience having a girl.

We want three children. I have absolutely no preference for what comes next. With our son and expecting this little girl, I absolutely don't have a preference for whatever gender baby completes our family. We're going to stay team yellow the next time to experience the surprise. I imagine it's wonderful to find out when the baby is born.

 

[Spiffynoodles]

With our first two we found out, since I told DH we could only be team yellow once we had a boy and a girl, that way we'd already be prepared for either gender, as far as clothes and such.

So now we're Team Yellow and its pretty exciting! We already feel 99% sure that we know what gender it will be, but no one else does, and it will truly be a surprise for them. Plus, I always thought it would be so cool to have DH tell me the gender as soon as he sees the baby.

 

[busytulip]

We are team yellow. We didn't find out genders before the birth of any of our children. There is something very special about not knowing in the labor and delivery room and having your OH announce who you have brought into the world. It has become quite a bit harder finding gender neutral items, but I rather like the fact that not finding out goes against what seems to be the norm. The choice is different for each family, I don't think that there is one set right way for all. I hope that you are happy with whatever you choose to do and most of all that you have a healthy baby.

 

[Rcx]

I'm team yellow! and have no inclining of what the gender is lol! but I'm so excited to find out when my baby is born. i can see why people find out too though as its nice to be organised. it has saved me a fortune tho not knowing lol, if i did i would've went wild shopping!

 

[butterfly80]

We are team yellow and was with our daughter. I loved trying to guess what gender baby was and my husband told me it was a girl once I gave birth which was so special. I absolutely loved the surprise and announcing the gender, name and weight to people rather than people already knowing the gender and name before baby was born. My daughter thinks we should call baby Hop bunny and so that's the nickname rather than it xx