To be yellow or not to be yellow...

[Rhapsodi]

We always said we would keep it a surprise. Then we found out we were expecting (after 5yrs of infertility). We said we have to know so we can get x, y, and z. Then as it got closer to the scan we were back on the fence. So I asked friends on Facebook. The answer that sealed our mind was that those who keep it a secret are the most excited in the l&d ward. (Told from a nurse.)

We also thought if we have any doubt then we shouldn't. Yeah it would be nice to get various things in a gender but since are hopeful for a second we'd prefer as much gender neutral we can find. I found an adorable neutral outfit that will be the coming home outfit so we have officially decided to not find out.

Today i found out we have to repeat our 20week scan at week 24 so I'm more tempted to find out but I'm going to stay strong. As much as I want to tell my family so they can get gender specific stuff I'm worried to find out.

So that's my reasoning.

 

[Mrs Eleflump]

We're staying as this is our first and we're not buying anything in gender-specific colours, so we can re-use even if we have the opposite gender with the next baby. Neither of us have any strong preference either way, but everyone and their dog is telling me I'm carrying a baby girl.

I do sometimes think it would help me bond more if I knew the gender, as the baby still seems like an abstract concept to me rather than a real baby, even when I'm being kicked! But I don't think it'll disadvantage me...I'm sure people bonded with their babies just fine before ultrasound came along.

I can definitely see pros and cons to both 'sides' of the debate, but for us personally, finding out at the birth is what we want...I'm really looking forward to my husband telling me if we have a son or a daughter

 

[MummyToAmberx]

Finding out really doesnt change anything for us.

#1 was a surprize
#2 we found out

Finding out didnt make it better to bond, pick names, paint a room a colour etc.

I find it hard to bond with baby until they are born anyways, we dont pick names until after the birth. I dont just buy pink or blue clothes. Weve never done a nursery i dont see the need in them.

Having a surprize at end of labour is just amazing, for me it kept me going and gave me energy to push well even though i was exhausted.
Can get daddy to announce which is very special moment and just informing family after its a .... its super feeling.

#3 is our last surprize!

 

[JT2013]

We are team yellow. We didn't find out genders before the birth of any of our children. There is something very special about not knowing in the labor and delivery room and having your OH announce who you have brought into the world. It has become quite a bit harder finding gender neutral items, but I rather like the fact that not finding out goes against what seems to be the norm. The choice is different for each family, I don't think that there is one set right way for all. I hope that you are happy with whatever you choose to do and most of all that you have a healthy baby.

This is exactly how I feel - I'd love to hear whether we have a boy or girl from my DH- that moment would be incredible!

To be honest, I always thought I'd find out before I was pregnant but my DH was really keen for it to be a surprise at the end and all the 'fun' of guessing all the way through. I have to say that despite occasional days of being desperate to know, I feel I can wait and find out the old fashioned way! We will be delighted to meet whoever is growing in there - I haven't had any problems bonding with him/her just because I don't know the gender

All the said, I think I'd find out with baby number 2 for practical reasons...but maybe I'll change my mind again when the time comes!

 

[Anaconda]

I've been driving my husband bonkers with the flip-flopping. One day I want it to be a surprise and the next I want to know SO badly!

In 4 days I go for my anatomy scan, so I have to make a decision by then. Eeekk!

We found out with our first... it was the first thing I wanted to know the minute the tech put the wand on my belly. I don't think it lessened my excitement when I gave birth to her because no matter what I was anxious to meet her (especially after pushing for 2 and 1/2 hours non-stop).

If you feel you can hold off then wait. If you feel it will drive you absolutely mad then find out.

I actually think last minute during the ultrasound I'm going to announce to hubby I don't want to find out. He's all for whatever I want to do as he doesn't care either way. So really, I guess it's up to me and I really, really, want to try for a surprise... I mean, if I don't find out on Monday I can always find out at a private scan... Eeekk!

 

[NotNic]

Team Yellow both times. For me it would be like knowing what you're having for Christmas before Christmas Day! It keeps the excitement about the baby's arrival going and Ive never wanted the possibility of feeling disappointed by the gender. Finding out wont change the outcome so unless I was having twins, I wouldn't want to know. I also don't feel it's a good idea to buy loads of clothes in advance anyway. What if your lo is big or arrives early? Also if you know what you're having I think the name creeps out too, leaving nothing much to announce on the day.

 

[ToughhGal]

I found out.

There are not many gender neutral items around here and I personally love to plan like mad!! I pretty much knew the gender from day one but just needed that little bit of confirmation to seal it. It is also just because I am one of the most impatient people ever. I could never find the will to not know. Either way I would have went I would still be in great love with her.

 

[Gym knickers]

We found out last time and it was lovely but I'm 100% team yellow this time. I want a different experience and also like
You said, I want to meet the baby without any preference and I know when they are in my arms I won't care. I'm hoping I have the strength to say no at 20 week scan! We found out dd was a girl at 15w 5d so I'm trying to to think about that! Xxx

 

[ab75]

Dd1 team yellow and hubby told me what she was when I delivered.
Dd2 we found out.
This time I think I want to stay team yellow as this will be my last baby, but I change my mind on a daily basis lol xx

 

[K123]

With my first I thought I wanted to stay team yellow - but when I had my 20week scan I hated the thought of the sonographer knowing and me not knowing so asked to find out and my son was making his membership of team blue extremely obvious!

This time I really want to know - I'll be happy whatever but want to be able to talk to my son about his brother/sister - so I'm fully expecting baby to be keeping their legs firmly closed!

 

[Serenyx]

I left the decision on whether to find out or not up to my DH - he doesn't get to make many decisions during the pregnancy so I thought it would be nice for him to have the final input on this I really didn't have strong feelings either way although I do think since knowing the gender it has helped me bond a little more as I can refer to her as 'her' now rather than 'it'

 

[Selaphyna]

With my first, there was no reason to stay team yellow. I knew he was a boy, and just confirmed it at my 20 week ultrasound.

This time around, my OH has said he wants to stay team yellow, and I'm letting him decide as this is his first child. Part of me really wants to stay team yellow but then another part of me wants to find out because it'd be easier when I go to thrift stores to buy more of the 6-12 month clothing. That tends to be when you really need to know if you have a boy or a girl. I've already got tons of NB-6 months that are neutral colors.

I have an appointment next wednesday, and should hopefully set up my u/s then for the week later, and so OH only has about a week and half to decide if he wants to stay team yellow or find out.

 

[Kaylen]

We are expecting our first and could hardly wait until the 20 week scan to find out. The baby was moving around the whole time and made it so difficult to see anything... eventually we found out we are having a girl (just like I wanted), but I still have doubts and will wait until the 30 week scan before we start buying things. I think that maybe next time we won't be so impatient, but then i doubt it! I would find out as soon as possible.