Tacey
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I am being a bit premature in planning this I suppose, but I'm considering hiring a doula for the birth. My DH, while wonderful in many respects, spent my last labour exhausted, terrified, and mute. He was quite traumatised by the whole thing (a straightforward waterbirth!) and although he wants to be with me for this birth, he admits he doesn't expect to be much good at emotional support. He's also happy to go along with the choices I research and make, but he's not interested in looking into it himself, so if I need an advocate he'd struggle to stand up to the midwives.
We're planning a homebirth, so I'm hoping he can feel useful making tea and filling the pool, and even taking some time out if he needs it, but i think I'm going to need encouragement from someone, and although my midwives were amazing last time, I can't rely on it.
Has anyone hired a doula? Do they help support your birthing partner too? I worry that he'll be overlooked, as he needs support as well. If I did get one, when would be the best time to book her? Do you need time to get to know them? I feel a bit odd about relying on a stranger for emotional support.
Sorry for the essay there!
We're planning a homebirth, so I'm hoping he can feel useful making tea and filling the pool, and even taking some time out if he needs it, but i think I'm going to need encouragement from someone, and although my midwives were amazing last time, I can't rely on it.
Has anyone hired a doula? Do they help support your birthing partner too? I worry that he'll be overlooked, as he needs support as well. If I did get one, when would be the best time to book her? Do you need time to get to know them? I feel a bit odd about relying on a stranger for emotional support.
Sorry for the essay there!