To drink or not to drink?

[amym]

I agree with aob - I have also decided to abstain completely but I think that the attitude of some posters here has been insulting to women who have made a different choice.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Ditto My_First

We are provided with different information in the different countries we reside and we make a descision based on that.....it does not make our descision right or wrong or make us bad expectant mothers b/c of the choices we choose!

I reiterate again we are talking about the occasional drink we are not ladies with alcohol problems.....I guess our only wrong doing is living in the uk!

 

[UkCath]

My husbands mum drank a little through all her pregancies.. the odd single glass of wine with a meal.

I told her I wasn't looking forward to nine months of not drinking and she said she did it with all three of her pregnancies, and everyone did in the seventies. My husband and his brother and sister are healthy intellegant well balanced and successful people.

Having said that I know acedotal evidence based on one family isn't concrete scientific proof it's okay, but I think the odd glass probably is fine.

I really have gone off it myself though, I don't fancy alcohol at all at the moment and I used to drink a bottle of wine in one evening no problem.

 

[reedsgirl1138]

I do not see any bashing going on. Just giving statics and facts. I would politely say if you don't like it don't read the thread. There is not much else to say than that.

Never said there was any bashing going, i said feel free to bash me.

With regards to stats and facts, i believe them, and i do believe everyone should abstain during pregnancy - what i don't agree with is how some people are talking to others in this thread, there is no need for it.

THen I must have missed those post...I am not here to bash anyone or be rude to anyone and my post to you may have been. And I apologize if it was. Your right I usually don't worry about how other people live their life but when its a subject close to home I tend to get involved.

 

[reedsgirl1138]

Ditto My_First

We are provided with different information in the different countries we reside and we make a descision based on that.....it does not make our descision right or wrong or make us bad expectant mothers b/c of the choices we choose!

I reiterate again we are talking about the occasional drink we are not ladies with alcohol problems.....I guess our only wrong doing is living in the uk!

Madly I had to chuckle at the living in the UK...cause to be honest I would love to live there. LOL But I would disagree with the M/Ws there obviously!

 

[bumble b]

i hate these threads! it seems no one is entitled to a conflicting opinion without it turning bitchy.

i do agree with the comment that 'its my body and my baby!' how can that be wrong. i will choose what my child eats, drinks, who it socialises with, what vaccines it has. whether i breastfeed or not. it's what will make me it's mummy and i hope i choose correctly.

i have chosen not to drink alcohol but it doesn't mean my child wont develop any disabilities, and if it does, how do i know that one of the other choices i made weren't to blame.

i scrawl these pages looking for info & i love that i usually find tons of it. please keep this site different from the rest & not be so nasty

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I still think ladies it boils down to the different info/guidelines/advice we are given in the different countries we reside!

and am with UKCath on her comments!

reedsgirl I dont feel bashed but I do think this is a subject were there is no wrong or right and therefore wont ever be agreed!

 

[reedsgirl1138]

Again I apologize if I have been rude ot nasty to anyone in anyway. I have just stated my opinion and I do not think I expressed it rudely to anyone. I guess at this point I should unscribe from this thread as I am getting emotional about it and I agree I love this site for how wonderful and friendly everyone is.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

You havent been rude or nasty hon....at least not from my point of view you are entitled to your opinion too but like I said there is no wrong or right here at all and it is quite a passionate subject close to some peoples hearts!

 

[Amygdala]

Can I just point out that despite being in the UK and being given UK guidelines, I wouldn't dream of having alcohol while pregnant. I also don't touch caffeine, even though the guidelines say some is ok. I've researched both effects of alcohol and caffeine on the fetus extensively and have come to this conclusion for myself. I'll agree that there is more of a "drinking culture" in the UK and that may be why the guidelines still say "if you must, have little alcohol". I guess the aim is to not alienate those that are unwilling to give up and at least get them to cut down. But my point is: Official guidelines (and even doctors/midwives opinions) aside, everyone can look at the evidence for themselves and come to their own conclusions. And there are some UK mummies that feel very strongly about not drinking in pregnancy.

 

[Chaos]

I want to know, have you had alcohol with other pregnancies or are you currently having a drink here and there or do you know of anyone who has etc?

I aint read the 56,000 posts, cause I can only imagine what kinda debate is going on lol, But I will answer you question.

No. Never have. Never will.
My personal view is, Why chance it? There are so many other factors that can go wrong and affect the delicate process of a growing baby, why increase the chances. I don't need booze to function or to have a good time, 9 months is no time at all, and that beer will taste EVEN better when the time to be able to drink it, comes. Plus, after 9 months with out, you'll only need one to get a buzz

 

[ShanandBoc]

I still dont understand the point of having the occasional drink.....i really dont?

You could say any drug is okay if you do it occasionaly, but is it really?

The fact remains that there is no concrete evidence to support that one drink will do no harm or that it will. But seeing as alcohol is a drug, it is addictive, and the damage it can do to adults - even in smaller quantities, should be enough for common sense to kick in.

I have a friend for example who gets drunk at the drop of a hat, literally a few drinks and she is a mess......ive known a few girls and guys for that matter like that. So the amount that reaches your baby (which we really dont know how much does) even in the smallest doses, has much possibility of affecting that baby in one way or another.

Alcohol and babies just dont mix imo.....theres no if's but's about it x