to married people (or engaged)

[Hunbun]

I wasn't nervous at all about getting married.

The day before the wedding, I had that thought of 'wow, I'm going to be with the same guy forever and ever and ever'. But it wasn't even a bad thought, more of a realisation.

 

[sophxx]

My oh feels exactly the same as you. His answer is everything's perfect why change it as he's seen so many force and arranged marriages we are engaged but I don't think we ll get married for a long time. I think it's totally normal to feel nervous x

 

[chickenchaser]

No not nervous at all the best thing I ever did. We had the perfect day that I would n't change for anything and we have now been happily married for nearly 13 years. Love him more each day. It is also a going joke with our friends that we are practically one person

 

[Quackquack99]

My oh feels exactly the same as you. His answer is everything's perfect why change it as he's seen so many force and arranged marriages we are engaged but I don't think we ll get married for a long time. I think it's totally normal to feel nervous x

It is so different when you see these things happen. A girl I went to high school with got forced into a marriage when she was 16 and got murdered by her husbands mistress two years later. Things like that have haunted me. How do you feel in that situation. Do you want to get married or are you ok waiting? I'm trying to see how it could be for my oh.

 

[sarahwantland]

Thank you to everyone who replied.I'm estranged from my family so I don't have to worry about what my side would think. Well they wouldn't be too pleased that I had a baby out of wedlock lol. My oh would marry in an instant and I'm worried that he is waiting for me and its not fair on him. I love him dearly and I know I will spend the rest of my life with him. I'm just scared our relationship would change for the worse if we married. I really hope it isn't true.
My oh bought me a ring for xmas and said that he wished it was 'that' type of ring. I feel so bad. Its leap year this year. Isn't it acceptable for women to propose? Lol

Go for it!! No matter what the day is a woman should be allowed to propose!!

 

[Kiki1993]

I did kind of get scared just because everyone would tell me I'm too young to know what I want but for now we are just engaged and we love it It feels so special to be more committed and we were intending to get married in 2013 but that might change because OH wants to start trying ASAP
But if we could afford it and get married tomorrow I would because I know we will work because (this will sound cheesy) are soulmates

 

[MindUtopia]

I think the only scary/stressful part about getting married is the actual wedding. If you aren't doing something small and simple (which btw I would recommend!), it can be a lot of work and a lot of stress. Getting married to my husband was the easiest thing I did on our wedding day, but all the planning and the travel-related stress was hectic. I was living in the U.S. when I was planning our wedding (in the UK), so we had to do so much just via email and by guessing and hoping it all would work out and we had friends and family coming from all over the world who weren't used to traveling, so they needed a lot of help from us in the days leading up to the wedding when we would have rather just been enjoying time together and with everyone. That's the only scary part. The idea of being married to another person for the rest of my life was the least scary part of it all. We'd waited a long time to actually be together and to be together in the same country and time zone. I guess we'd had a lot of time to think about it and knew without a doubt that we wanted to make that commitment, so it was pretty stress-free. But that said, if I had it to do over again, I would have a simpler, smaller wedding and save all that money. The flowers and decorations don't really matter all that much and you don't even remember if they looked good once it's all over because you are so busy running around all day/night.

 

[sophxx]

My oh feels exactly the same as you. His answer is everything's perfect why change it as he's seen so many force and arranged marriages we are engaged but I don't think we ll get married for a long time. I think it's totally normal to feel nervous x

It is so different when you see these things happen. A girl I went to high school with got forced into a marriage when she was 16 and got murdered by her husbands mistress two years later. Things like that have haunted me. How do you feel in that situation. Do you want to get married or are you ok waiting? I'm trying to see how it could be for my oh.

I dOnt mind. I'd love to get married but would never want my oh to feel akward or worried about anything I'm happy or relationship is prefect an I think the stress of him worrying and panicking about it would change our relationship for the worst. I think it's hard to see marriage as a nice happy event when you've seen nasty and updating things happen as a result of forced marriage or had alot of pressure put on you to have a forced marriage x