LynAnne
Mum to 2 Boys
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DS is almost 19 months old and whilst he's not been perfect with our Jack Russell Terrier his behaviour with her has gotten worse in the last couple of weeks. He hits her with toys in what seems like an attempt to get her to play with him, he hits her out of frustration when he doesn't get his own way, he chases after her and will kick her for no reason at all. When he isn't being mean to her they are as thick as thieves, with such sweet moments that would absolutely melt even the coldest of hearts! His flip-flop behaviour towards her is obviously making her confused and whilst she's never "gone for" him she will growl and some days I do worry that he will stress her out too much and she will snap. She's a sweet dog and very tolerant of him but I know even the best dogs can become violent.
Obviously I try my very best not to let him hurt or stress her out. They aren't left alone in the same room and I'm constantly telling him to be gentle - and showing him how to be. I try to intercept the hits if I see him thinking about it. I try to remove the dog from the situation or room but we live in a 2 bedroom flat and he can reach all the door handles so that doesn't always work. I try to distract him with toys but that rarely works. I'm almost 33 weeks pregnant so picking him up is getting harder too, especially if he throws a tantrum!
I've also been paying more attention to how I interact with the dog in case he is picking up signals from me. We never hit her but DH will wave a toy in front of her to get her to play which I think is what DS is mimicking. Plus, sometimes she does get shouted at by me when she's being a pain! Normal stuff but not aggressive.
I know it's most likely a phase and with lots of vigilance, positive reinforcement of when he's being kind and gentle, and consistency in "disciplining" the bad behaviour he'll (hopefully) grow out of it. I don't want my dog to be frightened or worried around him and I don't want him to think it's ever appropriate to be mean to anyone - human or animal! I guess I'm just looking for any other suggestions or advice so I can nip this in the bud before baby 2 arrives in august!
Oh I should add that my parents and one of my sisters have dogs and he is nothing but gentle and kind to them so I can only assume that he's being mean to our dog simply because she's "his"?
Obviously I try my very best not to let him hurt or stress her out. They aren't left alone in the same room and I'm constantly telling him to be gentle - and showing him how to be. I try to intercept the hits if I see him thinking about it. I try to remove the dog from the situation or room but we live in a 2 bedroom flat and he can reach all the door handles so that doesn't always work. I try to distract him with toys but that rarely works. I'm almost 33 weeks pregnant so picking him up is getting harder too, especially if he throws a tantrum!
I've also been paying more attention to how I interact with the dog in case he is picking up signals from me. We never hit her but DH will wave a toy in front of her to get her to play which I think is what DS is mimicking. Plus, sometimes she does get shouted at by me when she's being a pain! Normal stuff but not aggressive.
I know it's most likely a phase and with lots of vigilance, positive reinforcement of when he's being kind and gentle, and consistency in "disciplining" the bad behaviour he'll (hopefully) grow out of it. I don't want my dog to be frightened or worried around him and I don't want him to think it's ever appropriate to be mean to anyone - human or animal! I guess I'm just looking for any other suggestions or advice so I can nip this in the bud before baby 2 arrives in august!
Oh I should add that my parents and one of my sisters have dogs and he is nothing but gentle and kind to them so I can only assume that he's being mean to our dog simply because she's "his"?