myra
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We have an almost 2 year old son. The plan when baby #2 is born was to have friends come stay with him. My son has met them a couple times but they aren't very close and we don't have any family nearby. My husband has been reading up on this topic and found that it's detrimental for #1 to see mom in pain, mom and dad leave for an unspecified time and then bring the new baby home (or even if dad just comes home on his own after the birth)....increases #1s anxiety, fears etc. so we are talking about not having hubby there the whole time with me so he can be home with our son. He really wants to be there at the birth (and was every step of the way with our son- plus he's a stay at home dad this year so my son really relies on him for that emotional support)...but he also wants to make sure our son is taken care of.
I'm scared to go through labor on my own, though he assures me that he'll be there as much as possible. And I'm adult and I can rationally understand this while my son is just a little kid and it would be harder on him. So I guess I'm looking for advice if you've gone through delivery on your own (or made a similar decision) on getting through it. (I understand that this may be an uncommon approach but not not looking for advice that my husband should just stay with me the whole time since this is a decision we've already made together, even if selfishly I don't love the idea.)
Thanks!
I'm scared to go through labor on my own, though he assures me that he'll be there as much as possible. And I'm adult and I can rationally understand this while my son is just a little kid and it would be harder on him. So I guess I'm looking for advice if you've gone through delivery on your own (or made a similar decision) on getting through it. (I understand that this may be an uncommon approach but not not looking for advice that my husband should just stay with me the whole time since this is a decision we've already made together, even if selfishly I don't love the idea.)
Thanks!