Told my parents I'm pregnant!

[Abeera]

Hey Everyone!

Most of you might remember me from my earlier post. I'm Abeera, 17 years old and 5 weeks and 6 days today.

So I told my parents today and they did not take it well. I told them over a video chat because that was pretty much the only option I had with me being in Canada and them being in Pakistan. When I told them they were shocked and quite for a while and then they just started yelling at me and I listened to them and I didn't speak hoping that they would calm down. They said some things which really hurt me and then at the end they just said that they can't accept me as their daughter if I'm pregnant and I get an abor tion and come home otherwise they have nothing to do with me.

They just disconnected and then I tried calling them on their cell and they won't answer me. If I go home I know that they are going to force me and they will not come through with it. It's just not considered decent if a teenage girl gets pregnant in Pakistan without marriage.

I cried most of the night and I still feel like crying. They were really mean to me and they said some really hurtful things.

 

[KitaaAndBump]

I know they're your parents, but don't forget its YOUR body, its YOUR child, and its YOUR decision, I know sex before marriage isn't considered 'decent' in many places, but it happens, and there isn't really any way of stopping it.

Good luck, and do whatever you feel is right!
They'll be missing out on an amazing grandchild if you keep your baby.
Like my mum always says 'Its their loss not yours!'

Oooh! And don't go getting too stressed!

 

[ttctomtom]

How did they think YOU were conceived? Just because they might not have had you until after marriage, but chances are they had sex before marriage too. They're human and they're no different than you are. But I agree with the above post! It's YOUR body. It's all up to you now. This is something YOU created. it's special and it's the greatest gift you will have ever received!!

 

[x__amour]

I'm sorry hon.

 

[lil lovey]

so sorry it turned out so bad. Pregnancy before marriage isn't accepted in many places. DON'T get forced into doing something that you will regret , it is your body its your choice. Your mom and dad are quite disappointed and angry but give them sometime they'll come around.

 

[Abeera]

Thanks everyone for the support. I'm keeping the baby no matter what they say. I just can't end the pregnancy. The way they talked I don't think they will come around.

 

[Abeera]

How did they think YOU were conceived? Just because they might not have had you until after marriage, but chances are they had sex before marriage too. They're human and they're no different than you are. But I agree with the above post! It's YOUR body. It's all up to you now. This is something YOU created. it's special and it's the greatest gift you will have ever received!!

Well in their case they had an arranged marriage so they didn't even knew each other before. They kind of expected be to do the same.

 

[Chatterwockin]

sorry they acted this way. often with different cultures come a different set of rules as you know. but you didn't need them to get pregnant and you don't need them for anything else! I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy. xxxx

 

[JessicaM123]

Im really sorry. It may get better, let them cool down? Hope it sorts itself out, don't stress, if they won't be your support system, you will find other people who will be xxxx

 

[little_lissy]

Please make the decision for you and not your parents. You have to. Don't do something to make them happy- if they won't come round at the end of the day it is THEIR problem not yours.

Not sure what the benefits system is like out there but I'm sure you can get some money and support if you need it.

Here for you if you need a chat- I know what your going through x

 

[xforuiholdonx]

 

[omgbaby]

PLEASE GET IN TOUCH WITH SUMMERFAIRY ON HERE!!! She's around your age & her parents did the same thing almost bc of their religion & she has come so far! I'm sure she'd be a great help to you! Good luck to you & your little miracle