Mrs_Bump
Daniel's mum
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Those of you from the November sparklers group will know that I was told at my 20 week scan that I was having a girl and then earlier this week, at 32 weeks, that it's a boy. So obviously me and hubby are a bit shocked. I'm not annoyed at the hospital or anything, I mean these things happen.
I am however confused. The sonographer was so confident at both scans. We saw the lines clear as day at 20 weeks. With my son at 28 weeks I had an extra scan and remember how huge his balls were, so obviously a boy. This time although I saw little bumps and it wasn't so obviously, hello I'm a boy. I'm pretty sure it is a boy but I just feel like I need to be sure.
Dh is completely devastated, he won't stop crying and I'm finding myself getting angry at him because I want him to accept our child. He doesn't even want to talk about it and when he does some of what he says worries me. Dh is a second son and his parents were always and still do always compare him to his brother and go on and on about how he falls short. This has given him real self esteem issues. He's an awesome dad and a lovely guy, much nicer than his allegedly perfect brother IMO but he's kind of got this obsession with being a second son being an awful thing in life and he feels like boys don't bond with their parents like girls do.
I'm getting worried about how he's going to be with our boys and I'm struggling with nagging doubts about what if they are wrong again. I was thinking of trying to get a private scan to help us through this, preferably 3d. He probably won't like the idea but he always lights up during our nhs scans.
Sorry this was quite long. Thoughts anyone.
I am however confused. The sonographer was so confident at both scans. We saw the lines clear as day at 20 weeks. With my son at 28 weeks I had an extra scan and remember how huge his balls were, so obviously a boy. This time although I saw little bumps and it wasn't so obviously, hello I'm a boy. I'm pretty sure it is a boy but I just feel like I need to be sure.
Dh is completely devastated, he won't stop crying and I'm finding myself getting angry at him because I want him to accept our child. He doesn't even want to talk about it and when he does some of what he says worries me. Dh is a second son and his parents were always and still do always compare him to his brother and go on and on about how he falls short. This has given him real self esteem issues. He's an awesome dad and a lovely guy, much nicer than his allegedly perfect brother IMO but he's kind of got this obsession with being a second son being an awful thing in life and he feels like boys don't bond with their parents like girls do.
I'm getting worried about how he's going to be with our boys and I'm struggling with nagging doubts about what if they are wrong again. I was thinking of trying to get a private scan to help us through this, preferably 3d. He probably won't like the idea but he always lights up during our nhs scans.
Sorry this was quite long. Thoughts anyone.