Traumatized by doctor and Beta questions

[iwantbebebad]

Hi ladies,
Its me AGAIN. Well I am having very severe pg symptoms. I even leaked fluid from my breasts. I am 10 or 11 dpo I figure by averages and my calculations. I went to my family doctor and he did a Beta blood quantitative yesterday on 9 or 10 dpo. It was a "1" He said it was emotional and basically made up. I was hurt and ashamed. I have never invented a pg. I also told EVERYONE I knew. I am so ashamed. Anyway my reproductive spec ordered a fresh panel with all the hormones including Beta which I took today. Maybe that will explain the bb leaking (just once not like all over) and the symptoms. I had to call everyone and tell them it was a mistake. It was traumatizing to me. Anyway if anyone knows more than me, please give me your ideas...

Cycle started March 13/6-7 days long

1. I thought I had a 31 day cycle. I counted CD1 as starting AF and CD31 as starting new AF. I guess thats only a 30 day? I'm confused.

2. I had EWCM on or about (I DIDNT WRITE IT FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MONTHS!) anyway, on or about the 27th of March

3. The internet said I probably ov'd on 30th of March. That would be a 14 day luteal phase for my cycle. I always thought you o'd on the day of the EWCM. That would have been the seventeenth but supposedly I ov'd on the 30th, three days after EWCM. I BD'd everyday up to EWCM and to March
31st when my DH said NO MORE lol. Anyway.

4. I don't know how to count dpo. Do you count the day of ov or the day after as 1dpo? Confused!

5. On approx. 7-8dpo, I spotted twice. Once very tiny pink/red streak and again 3 hours later pink/red streak. TINY. Thought that was weird. Within hours I had bad pg symptoms. Severe AF like cramps and low back ache for about 48 hours or a little longer. There was even a strange yellowish blob with the consistency of EWCM. I have just been tested for pap and infection and everything was clear.

5. Either way, based on the above, I was 9-10dpo when I got the beta and tested a lousy non pg "1"

6. Doc said I had a pseudopreg or "made up" preg. I am so ashamed. I didn't realize this was happening.

7. I accepted the diagnosis and slept good last night. I woke up expecting to feel back to my old self again, but the symptoms persist. I am crampy and my bb's really hurt. I am not cramping like I was but I am aware of my body for sure.

8. I can't believe I am sharing this, I was SURE I was BFP and now I feel BF Crazy. How embarrasing for me and traumatic. I wish he would have at least validated me before telling me to seek therapy for some "deep seated emotional difficulty." I am very sad. Maybe today's bloodwork will uncover something with the reproductive specialist. My family doc is just a PA.

Can anyone comment on this, including how many days are in my cycle, when I might have ov'd and what the spotting or the yellow mucous was? Also how do you figure dpo? From the day you ov'd as 1dpo or the day after? The name would suggest the day after hence "days past o". Who knows. I am hurt and lost. My DH saw my bbs leak and got really happy. He said he was coming home to kiss my belly. Instead I had to call him and tell him I want mental So sad.

 

[aurora]

Really didn't want to read and run but not sure how I can help.

PLEASE don't feel ashamed, this is nothing that hasn't happened to many before! Definitely a good idea to wait until AF is late before testing to avoid that.

As for the dpo, its days post ovulation so I'm thinking the day after is dpo 1.

 

[Irish_eyes]

Hi hun can I just say how mean of your doctor saying that to you...he/she could have been a wee bit more sensitive as these things can happen. I am not too sure about the Beta stuff hun but hopefully I can give you some advise on the other areas you have stated. Firstly, I would like to suggest that if you don't get your bfp this month (but I am sure you will) that you start bbt this month. I find that this helps to pinpoint O and at what dpo you really are.

1. Knowing the length of you cycle (which can vary sometimes depending on when you O and how long you LP is). The start of you cycle which you will class as CD1 is the first day of full flow not spotting and the end of you cycle is the last day before the start of your next AF. So if CD31 is the start of your next AF that yes your cycle is 30 days.

2. Having EWCM doesn't mean that you O that day. When you have EWCM means that you are most like fertile but when you O your CM will be sticky or creamy. That when you know you O after all the EWCM. EWCM helps the swim to its destination.

3. Not everyone has a 14 day LP, this is the whole mistake that woman make with ttc. They say that based on a 28 day cycle that you O on CD14 with a 14 day cycle. This is not true...yes this may happen for some women but mostly not for all. For instance, I have a 29-30 day cycle an I have a 13 day LP so O can change for me. My only advise here is again to start temping and in doing so do it vaginally as it is more accurate than orally. I won't go on what the internet says as O is different for every woman and in my experience can change from cycle to cycle.

4. To count dpo - DPO means (as you probably know) Days Passed Ovualtion so 1dpo is the first day after O so no don't count the day of O.

5. If you spotted twice at 7-8dpo this could mean implantation bleeding. If you were temping you may have seen a dip in temp to confirm that but not everyone gets an implantation dip when temping.

6. Again I don't know about beta but 9-10dpo is still too early to confirm pregnancy..some likely women do get an early positive test but I think this if few and far between. Some women doing get their bfp until 18dpo.

7. Again so mean of your doc to do that and make you feel that way. Sounds like an insensitive doc and I would suggest lookly for a different one.

8. Your still in the running hun and there is still a possibility that you are pg.

9. Thats what we are here for hun...we are all in the same boat and we all help each other here so don't feel embrassed about sharing the information with us as will well try our best to help and give advise were possible.

The only other thing that I would suggest about the lactating bit. As you probably know I had high prolaction levels and with that in the early stages (when I first found out) I was lactating. I think if you are pg now its too early for you to be lactating but I am sure someone will correct me on that as I am not sure. I suggest telling you doctor about this (preferably not the one that was mean to you). Get them to check your prolactin. Also I am not sure what you told everyone...whether you are lactating or you may be pg but I suggest that you don't tell anyone about the pg bit until you get it confirmed.

I hope that helps hun but differently get the lactating bit sorted and also thinking of the temping for next cycle if it doesn't work out for you this month. But fingers crossed that you get a this month hun.

 

[Laughing Girl]

Hi love

Have you done a HPT of your own, just to make sure......I never have much faith in Dr's to be honest.........

 

[iwantbebebad]

Dear Irish Eyes... Thank you soooo much for your detailed input. I appreciate it so very much that you took the time to write. I am disheartened and the funny thing is that I am not upset about not being pg. That is why I am here. It is a journey that we all take at different speeds. Its ok for me to take awhile. I dont put that pressure on myself. It would help to know my cycles better and I will take your advice and bbt next one. Luckily, I did have prolactin checked on that big nice $700 blood panel that was drawn yesterday. My repro specialist NOT my PA will read those hormone result levels and know definitively if I am pg or chemical pg or not pg and no ov this month. That rests my mind. I dont like being told I am crazy. Thats all you know lol! I am glad we are buddies and I cant wait to join you in April. By my calculations, I would get pretty close to A New Years baby, due on or around December 29th. That is exciting! Holidays are always fun. Anyway you are the best, I'm not losing my sanity and I wasn't ready to leave you guys anyway lol.
Hugs!

 

[iwantbebebad]

Laughing Girl,
I hear you lol... My doctor was not even cool with what I told him. He was just way too quick to chalk it up to "fantasy." Maybe it is, but that doesn't mean you have to degrade me. Ok I WTTTC for 61/2 YEARS.. I have been TTC since December 18. I really feel like a normal girl honest lol.. Just embarassing thats all. Pseudopreg happens to women who have a strong desire to be pg, stress and anxiety, and most have lost a baby. I have all those things so I don't deny my minds power to trick me. Its just sad. Thank you for caring.

 

[Laughing Girl]

Nothing to be embarrassed about - I swear I have a pseudo pregnancy at least every other month.....you are totally not alone!!

x x

 

[Irish_eyes]

Hey hun, no worries about the advice...thats what we are hear for. I have been ttc from December too so we are in sort of the same boat. It takes time and don't let that doctor annoy you again...you don't need to be annoyed...its the last thing you need with ttc.