// Trying for #1 //

[tcinks]

There are lots of groups on here, but most of them get too big for me to really remember each lady and their stories. So if anyone is interested in a buddy/small group, please let's chat!

As you can see in my signature, I've been pregnant 3 times in the last 2 years, but unfortunately have lost all 3 babies. I'm just looking for other ladies who might need some support/encouragement on this journey. So many of my friends in real life get pregnant and have babies without any problem, so I end up feeling alone in my struggle. It would be nice to talk with other women who understand better.

 

[tulip110]

Hi tcinks! I too lose track of who is who in the larger groups so it would be nice to chat with a smaller group. I'm so sorry for your losses. Are you aware of any issues or reasons why that may have happened?

As for me, we stopped birth control last year in Sept/Oct and began having unprotected intercourse in November. I figured it would happen right away and we were so excited and acting as if it definitely happened but then AF came. So we started just NTNP for the next few months until one of my best friends found out she was pregnant. So then we started using OPKs in March and very actively began trying. Then my other best friend found out she was pregnant. That one hit me hard... because now I am the last one to not be pregnant... This is now our 5th cycle using OPKs and I haven't gotten one positive pregnancy test. After I got AF last cycle we decided to get a SA for DH and it came back "borderline low" and we were referred to a Urologist... our appt is Aug 22. I almost feel like we wasted 5 cycles... who knows if there is a problem with me too though. I've heard of people getting pregnant with borderline low sperm counts... so soon I will call and start making appts for myself... I thought this would be a fun experience and its become quite stressful...

 

[tcinks]

Ugh. It's so hard when it feels like it's happening for everyone except you. :/ I also thought it would just be a fun journey, but it's been a painful one. How is your DH handling it? Is he eager for children or more relaxed?

 

[tulip110]

He's pretty relaxed about it all probably because I'm eager enough for the both of us. I get a little sad each cycle when AF arrives and then he gets a little sad too but I think it's mostly because he knows how disappointing it is for me. He's been pretty great and very supportive throughout it all so far. He's always so patient with me and I'm glad because I'm so impatient lol Even when we found out about his borderline low sperm count he only got upset for like half a day. He will bring it up occasionally but it doesn't stop him from trying each cycle... he's not discouraged by it. How is your DH handling it all?

I'm waiting for ovulation to happen... any day now. I temped for maybe 2 or 3 cycles and I liked it but I think it made me a little too obsessive so I quit. Now I just do opks when I'm getting close. We have to stay hopeful.

 

[Barcelona12]

Hi Ladies...you read my mind! I would love to chat with some girls in similar situations, but some threads are too hard to follow. Mind if I join you guys?
It was so interesting to read your stories and I will keepnmy fingers crossed for you both. And so sorry to hear about your losses.
My husband and I had a miscarraige in early May and this month was our first try getting pregnant again. This whole thing is a wild ride...which nobody ever tells you! It makes you crazy..so I am glad to talk with other ladies going through it too.

 

[tulip110]

Welcome Barcelona! Sorry to hear about your miscarriage We have to believe we all will get our little bundles soon.

It really does make me crazy! lol I can go from one day feeling like it'll never happen and then the next day I'm just so optimistic and sure that this is my month. I have to try to stay more positive.

Do you do any specific kind of methods in trying to conceive? We've tried SMEP, Preseed, temping, OPKs... but lately my husband and I have become more relaxed about it.

I just looked at my Facebook and another of my friends just announced she is having a baby boy and my best friend recently found out shes having a girl... I wish I could be right there with them.

 

[tcinks]

I posted earlier but it looks like it disappeared! >.<

Anyway, tulip that is really great your husband is so supportive. Mine is too . Definitely helps the process. I've met women on here who said their husbands basically acted like the miscarriage never happened and it put a strain on their marriage. :/

After my 21 week loss, we confirmed that I have incompetent cervix. Basically it's too weak to hold baby in once I get to 2nd trimester, and it starts to open without warning and baby just comes. It's terrifying. Thankfully there is something that can be done now that we know...just waiting to get pregnant again. I had a MMC in April which was unrelated to that. And my cycles have been a little off since.

Hi Barcelona. So for your loss It's definitely helpful to talk with other women who understand. Glad you're here.

CD 3 for me, and this has been the lightest period I've ever had! I started taking some supplements last week that I think may have contributed to that. It's supposed to help even out your cycles, I hope it doesn't mess anything up.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Hey TC I'd love to be a buddy for you! I've been standing on Deuteronomy 7:13-15 and Jeremiah 29:11. I just had my first loss and I'm ttc #1 as well.

 

[tcinks]

Hey TC I'd love to be a buddy for you! I've been standing on Deuteronomy 7:13-15 and Jeremiah 29:11. I just had my first loss and I'm ttc #1 as well.

Sorry for your loss I think I've seen you around the boards. How are you doing?

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Hey TC I'd love to be a buddy for you! I've been standing on Deuteronomy 7:13-15 and Jeremiah 29:11. I just had my first loss and I'm ttc #1 as well.

Sorry for your loss I think I've seen you around the boards. How are you doing?

I'm doing pretty well actually. Thanks for asking! The last four months I've been pretty active on the boards so I'm sure you probably have seen me.

What did they say they can do for your cervix so that you can sustain a pregnancy?

 

[Barcelona12]

Hi Ladies,
Yes I am doing a few things...tracking CM and using OPKs. I actually ovulated yesterday it seems from the OPK even tho it seems from CM it would have been a few days ago. Oh well...time to wait! How do you get thru the wait? Or do you just think about it nonstop like me? Lol
And tulip, I hear you about facebook and everyone else pregnant. Lately friends bring their babies to parties and everyone gets excited to see them and I seem like a jerk sort of avoiding the babies. The hardest part is that my husbands sister barely spends any time with her child, yet announced her second pregnancy right after we told them we had a m/c. It hurts because she still sends him off to wherever every weekend bc its too much to handle him, yet she is having another around the time I would have been due. I am avoiding seeing her as long as I can bc its too hard. My husband is frustrated bc he doesnt know how I feel about her not even spending time with her child, so he thinks its weird that i am avoiding her. Its so tough.
Tcinks, can they stitch your cervix? Is that the plan?

 

[tulip110]

I'm glad your husband is supportive for you too, Tcinks. I've read a couple posts where the girls have to keep it secret how hard they are trying... I'm glad my husband is so patient with me and is by my side every step of the way. When we first started trying I actually was keeping a lot of it to myself until one day I just broke down. I feel we are in a much better place now that he is 100% aware of everything that I'm struggling with. And it really is terrible about your cervix doing that... but its good that they know what the problem is so you can get going on the right path to figuring out a solution. I have read mixed reviews about supplements so I hope that what you're using isn't messing up your cycle.

As for the 2 week wait... its so hard for me to think about anything but that. I tried making me a list of different activities to do everyday for 14 days but it didnt work. I still ended up on the internet researching every sign and symptom... lol I have to say though since we got the news of my husbands sperm count being "borderline low" I have been a lot less obsessed with it. I guess I figure its not going to happen right now so I'm not worried about it... even though I've read plenty of stories of getting pregnant with low sperm count.

I'm just waiting to ovulate at the moment. Since I've been tracking ovulation I've ovulated anywhere from cycle day 16 to cycle day 25... hoping for a shorter cycle... and counting down the days til DH's appointment.

 

[tcinks]

Hey ladies, sorry I haven't checked in for a few days. DH took a day off last week so we could have a longer weekend together. We just stayed in town, but went to a lot of places we hadn't been to before. It was a lot of fun.

Anyway, how is everyone? I'm on CD9 so waiting to ovulate. I do feel like the supplements have affected my cycle, not necessarily sure if it's for the better or worse. I guess time will tell, I'll keep taking them unless something bad happens.

 

[Pitbullmom29]

I feel you about the big posts! I am sorry for your loss. We started TTC in August but each month that AF comes it's a small let down. We are trying for our first. I would love to be buddies as I am not trying to tell everyone that we are trying. It's hard when everyone around you becomes pregnant.