Trying for a baby

[TearDrops..<3]

I'm 17, and my boyfriend turned 18 last month. We decided to start trying for a baby a year ago. But I wanted to wait till May 07 to come off the pill. So we've been trying just over 6 months. I came off the pill on the 8th May 07, but I'm not obsessing because it will happen when it happens. I know we aren't rushing into anything because when we first started going out and having sex I really wanted a baby (we where 15) but I didn't try to get pregnant because I thought it would be too soon. We live together because his Mum moved in with her boyfriend a year ago so I went and stayed there.

I'm 18 next year so if I do get pregnant I'll be 18-19. I just thought I'd join here because it seems like a very nice forum and nobody judges like they do on other forums I've been on. Also I don't really have anybody to talk to about TTC because we haven't told anybody because it will cause stress as I'm a worrier!!

I thought I had a miscarriage in September, and went to the Doctors today and he said it 'can' be normal to happen. I didn't think I was pregnant, I just had the little signs (sore boob etc etc that I hadn't gotten before) and then when I got my period over 2 weeks late it was very clotted and had pieces in it that looked like large clumps of liver (sorry if it's TMI).

Sorry that it's so long!

 

[lorrilou]

Yeah it is really common to miscarry your first pregnancy, i had one when i was 18 and it was awful but ive gone on to have beautiful daughter who is now 4 and im expecting a little boy in a wks time!!

We tried for about 8 months for this one and i honestly thought it would never happen, infact i had given up trying, and then i fell pregnant!!

So just have fun, it will happen, it might take a while but it will. Dont let it eat you up, your only young and have plenty time.

 

[Arcanegirl]

Welcome to Baby and Bump

We also started ttc when i was 17 (he was 29)
Unfortunatley 2 years later were still trying but still holding onto hope.

Good luck on your ttc journey and i hope it doesnt go as long as mine.

 

[Linzi]

The main thing is not to stress about it, because I certainly dont think that will help. Just have fun and take it at your own pace, you've got plenty of time, although it probably is frustrating.

I dont think anyone on here will judge you. If you feel youre ready to have a baby then thats brilliant and Im really happy for you You sound very mature for your age (my brothers 18 and acts like a 4 year old!)

Got my fingers crossed for you's!

xx

 

[Serene123]

I'm still gonna be 18 when my little ones born ! Welcome to b&b!

 

[nikkybaby]

Welcome and good luck!

 

[staceymy]

hi. me and my partner started trying in august 04. i was 17 and he was 20. it took us 9months and i fell pregnant in may 05. i miscarried 2 days later.
so we started trying straight away and it took us 2 years to concieve again. i found out i was pregnant may 07.
best advise is try not to worry or stress about it. i did each month and nothing happened... then we practically gave up and it happened!
i always think tho i lost the first baby for a reason... now we have a brand new house and car and are alot better off.
feel free to PM me anytime.
Good luck with ttc.

 

[**ALRE&amp;Bump&lt;3]

I'm 17, and my boyfriend turned 18 last month. We decided to start trying for a baby a year ago. But I wanted to wait till May 07 to come off the pill. So we've been trying just over 6 months. I came off the pill on the 8th May 07, but I'm not obsessing because it will happen when it happens. I know we aren't rushing into anything because when we first started going out and having sex I really wanted a baby (we where 15) but I didn't try to get pregnant because I thought it would be too soon. We live together because his Mum moved in with her boyfriend a year ago so I went and stayed there.

I'm 18 next year so if I do get pregnant I'll be 18-19. I just thought I'd join here because it seems like a very nice forum and nobody judges like they do on other forums I've been on. Also I don't really have anybody to talk to about TTC because we haven't told anybody because it will cause stress as I'm a worrier!!

I thought I had a miscarriage in September, and went to the Doctors today and he said it 'can' be normal to happen. I didn't think I was pregnant, I just had the little signs (sore boob etc etc that I hadn't gotten before) and then when I got my period over 2 weeks late it was very clotted and had pieces in it that looked like large clumps of liver (sorry if it's TMI).

Sorry that it's so long!

aww, hope it happens soon 4 u hun, I've 2 little ones, had my 1st at 13 and 2nd at 15. u were defo right 2 think 15 is 2 young, coz it is a bit, but I coped and I'm sure you'll b a fab mum at 18-19 or whenever!
sum ppl it takes ages 2 conceive, but 4 me it was only a couple of times (not that I was actually tryin) so dont stress hun

Amber x

 

[lynz]

welcome to baby and bump

 

[Madwolf3]

Hey hun! I got pregnant with my first at 17 (wasn't trying to) and had her just before I turned 18. Now I'm 20, and it took me and my husband 7 cycles (8 months) to get pregnant again this time! When we finally did get pregnant again, it was because he decided we were going to stop "trying" and relax about it. First month not doing OPKs and tracking my cycle and we're pregnant! Just RELAX! Have FUN! Sockingly, my husband was right for once lol!

 

[danielle19]

me and my OH started ttc when i was 17 (he was 27)
been ttc for 2 and a half years now
hope you get your bfp soon hun x

 

[m_t_rose]

I know I am new here, but don't you think that 17 is a bit young to be having a baby. I know that age is just a number I know because I got married and bought a house young. I was 19 but are you really ready for a baby at 17 do you have a place to live? And if you are too stressed to tell people that maybe deep down you yourself know that 17 is a bit young to be planning on having a baby. I understand that accidents and I am not saying you are doing anything wrong. I am just wondering have you thought about all the possibilities. Are you prepared emotionally or finacially if your baby has a disability. 1:5 babies have some sort of disability. DO you have a stable job? Just dont rush into it I know babies are cute but you have plenty of time.

 

[mommyandbaby]

Hi welcome to B&B. I wanted a baby at age 15 & I tried but didn't get pregnant. So, I waited a lil while & started trying again. I met my Husband when I was 16 and he was 18. We started trying and still nothing, Well I fell pregnant later on while we had our split up during his college time & I got pregnnat by a new man. Was very unexpected I was 17 when I got pregnant and had baby at age 18. Then Hubby got finished with college we moved in with each other tryed for baby 2 when Hailey was 5 months old and got pregnant and had her at age 19. So, if you know your ready than all for you hun. I had really supportive family that helped me (And I knew I was ready)! Everyone kept saying your too young bla bla..
Just hang in there girl.. If you and your BF are ready then I wish you the best of luck..
~Your in my prayers~

 

[tinytoes]

Hiya

I agree with m_t_rose - think carefully! 17 is very young. You can't even drink....you are still a child in some ways?
Hows about working for a few years, saving and buying a house and a car, and getting together all the things a baby should ideally have? I know I wasn't mature enough at 17. But then again, you're not me.

When I was 17 I was enjoying a busy social life and enjoying having few responsabilities. You might never get that opportunity again - make sure to appreciate that before your social life is never ever the same. Least not for 18 years.

 

[Arcanegirl]

Just like to put my opinion in for the flip side,
We started TTC when i was 17. Id already moved out and was living with my fiance. We didnt have jobs but we were working on it.
Social life, i wasnt interested. Going out to clubs etc i didnt fancy, i was much happier to stay at home.

2 years on were still TTC, were now currently going through infertility testing. Im glad we started at a young age as its taken this long so far, and it shows if we didnt truly want kids at a young age we wouldnt still be on this journey, we would have given up by now and tried again later.

 

[m_t_rose]

I also thought I was ready when I was 17. I had a house with my fiance and we both had stable jobs, but we decided to wait to make more money and buy a car and I am so glad I did. I would have been ready for a "perfect" baby that didn't wake up in the night and was never sick, but in reality that doesn't happen. At 17 I wasn't ready for the emotional and financial responsibility of having a child with a special need. Before you make the huge decision of deciding you are ready for a baby you should visit a treatment centre for children with special needs and see if you are still ready. At 17 your body isn't even ready for a baby at that age you are still growing. Keep thinking about it it is a huge decision.

 

[xCherylx]

To be honest I think it depends on each individual person so it's very unfair of people to say that people will not be able to cope.

 

[Arcanegirl]

I agree it is unfair to say a person at 17 wouldnt cope, there are plenty of teen mums out there planned or unplanned who cope fantasticaly.

 

[Suz]

I agree too that it depends on the person. Look at me...I wasnt ready to be a Mom until I was 30. I have now been trying for alittle over a year and sometimes wonder if Im ready....

 

[Iwantone!!!]

as long as u feel that u can cope emotionally physical and in a stable job to prove at ur baby the thing is once u have a baby u cant send it bk to a shop if u feel ur ready go for it it not take a step back think what will you be sacrficsing inthe long run good luck hunnix