Trying for a baby

[holly]

i am 19 and pregnant with my first! i know i am ready! i dont think it matters how old you are when you have a baby as long as your ready! having a baby at 13 must be hard..well done to you babe. really happy 4 you. Me and my bf both have great jobs (he has his own business) and we have a house so i know we can look after the baby financially. i think everyone is entitled to their own opinions however i think teen mums are great!!!

 

[m_t_rose]

I really dont think anyone is saying anything negative about people who have accidental pregnancies at a young age (I actually think it is very brave and commendable). I know it can be hard because it happend to someone in my family. I just think if it is a choice then 17 is really young. I matured a lot from 17 to 20 and I think if you wait and look back on it you will think you have matured a lot too.

 

[goldlion]

I'm quite offended by this thread to be entirely honest. Voicing your opinions is one thing, but pushing them unto others is quite another entirely.

Maybe you ladies were not mentally, emotionally, or physically ready to have children as a young woman of seventeen, however many others are. People differ.

I was eighteen when I found out I was pregnant, and yes, we were trying. I longed for the emotional, spiritual, and physical connection with a child. I wanted so badly to take care of one of my own. Not only because they were "cute" and "adorable", but because it felt right. I was a mother in my heart, and wanted to be able to show it. I'm now nineteen years old, due in April and though I'm often scared and nervous, I could not be happier. Neither can my husband. I've been living on my own with him for two years now and we're comfortable in life enough to be able to support another being. We're intelligent enough to cope with children and raise them properly. We are still able to have a "life". Is teenaged life to you described as partying? I could do without that, thank you. Can I not continue to be socially aware with my children around as well?

Not only did this thread offend me because you shun those who want children while still young women because you deem them unfit emotionally and physically, but it offends me because you are degrading those who DO have children and had them at a young age. You are telling them they could have lived life better and will regret it when they are 70.

Now, let me ask you a question: At 70 years old, will you regret having children so late? Maybe not being able to have as many as you wanted, or having the time or energy to play and grow with them.

Do not judge me for wanting children young, do not shun me for being pregnant, do not belittle me for my wants and needs. Congratulate me on my maturity and willingness to take care of another being. Congratulate me on my success of creating a gorgeous child. I ask you to push your opinions aside. As I said earlier, maybe you were not ready at a young age; but many other ladies are.

 

[Tam]

Welcome to Baby and Bump!

Wishing you a speedy BFP! x

 

[goldlion]

Edit: I meant to write, "Now, let me ask you a question: At 70 years old, will you regret having children so late? Maybe not being able to have as many as you wanted, or having the time or energy to play and grow with them. This isn't a fair question is it" Sorry if that original question seemed harsh, was not what I had intended.

 

[Arcanegirl]

Goldlion, you have summed up exactly how i feel about this subject
I was quite offended aswell but couldnt quite get the words out onto text.

 

[ablaze]

i fell preg on the pill at age 17, i had my daughter at age 18, i had my own flat, and worked fulltime between 2 jobs, i then had my second when i was 19, having been a member of this forum for over a year now, i took for granted how hard it can be for someone to fall pregnant. some of these ladies(some of my good friends!) have been trying years! and it hurts me to see this! so i can only imagine how they feel!

how you can assums someone is not ready is beyond me!!! every person is different.