I had a D&C this past Saturday. It was the most traumatizing thing I've been through. And, almost a week later I still am not coping.
I'll start off with I have a beautiful baby boy that's 4 months old. My husband and I obviously weren't trying. I had an IUD put in and it had fallen out. We were scared at first, wondering how we were going to do it, but our fear quickly turned into excitement. It would be hard, but our dream was to have 2 kids and we liked the idea of them being closer together. So, we started to imagine our daughter or our sons little brother.
At 7 weeks I found out our baby was still measuring 5. I waited to see if I would miscarry naturally. Nothing. I scheduled the D&C and had it Saturday. It will be a week tomorrow. My husband holds me in his arms every night as a cry myself to sleep. I just want our baby.
I went back to my doctor for heavy bleeding and explained some of my feelings, and her only reply was you're young, you can try again. Yes, my husband and I are young. I'm 23 and he's 25. But, is that really supposed to make that easy for us!? Yeah, we can try again. But, it's not going to be the baby we lost. I understand old couples go through it, and it can be more devastating because of fertility issues and so on. But, it doesn't make this any easier knowing "I can try again." I feel such a tremendous loss. I look at my son, and how perfect he is and imagine what this baby could have and should have been. I'm just looking for ways to cope. My due date was April 24th, and my husband and I plan to light a candle. Please tell me this gets easier.
I'll start off with I have a beautiful baby boy that's 4 months old. My husband and I obviously weren't trying. I had an IUD put in and it had fallen out. We were scared at first, wondering how we were going to do it, but our fear quickly turned into excitement. It would be hard, but our dream was to have 2 kids and we liked the idea of them being closer together. So, we started to imagine our daughter or our sons little brother.
At 7 weeks I found out our baby was still measuring 5. I waited to see if I would miscarry naturally. Nothing. I scheduled the D&C and had it Saturday. It will be a week tomorrow. My husband holds me in his arms every night as a cry myself to sleep. I just want our baby.
I went back to my doctor for heavy bleeding and explained some of my feelings, and her only reply was you're young, you can try again. Yes, my husband and I are young. I'm 23 and he's 25. But, is that really supposed to make that easy for us!? Yeah, we can try again. But, it's not going to be the baby we lost. I understand old couples go through it, and it can be more devastating because of fertility issues and so on. But, it doesn't make this any easier knowing "I can try again." I feel such a tremendous loss. I look at my son, and how perfect he is and imagine what this baby could have and should have been. I'm just looking for ways to cope. My due date was April 24th, and my husband and I plan to light a candle. Please tell me this gets easier.