TTC #1 Hopeful and Obsessed! lol

[GoldenRatio]

An other baby announcement! as soon as opened fb

Oh i heard yesterday that coworker is pregnant and she is 42 yrs old! and we thought we were old

 

[BelleNuit]

So sorry Golden!!

I hate seeing baby announcements on Facebook... Especially when the ppl didn't try very long. Doesn't seem fair!!!

 

[BabyC4Me]

Baby announcements and bumps always make me give the side eye like "how is the whole female population expecting at the same time ????"

Pissing me off lol

 

[TJ Islander]

lol, i know what you mean. but our time will come

 

[BabyC4Me]

It will !!!! I just know it !!!!

I love this thread. Your girls are awesome and always try and stay positive and encourage your fellow TTCer


We will make wonderful mamas !

 

[GoldenRatio]

I love this thread, definitely makes me feel better.

I went to my nieces baby shower yesterday. We do the baby shower when the baby is 40days old. Anyways as soon as this lady came in and asked me if i was the mother, i got all upset. She was like oh u look older so i thought the baby is urs. This lady that i never met before is concerned about my age and fertility!!! Then entire time everyone kept asking why im not having one. I kept saying next year we will, im still working toward my career....oh they also gave me an invitation to mothers day event and said " u are not a mom but u should come!" since yesterday i feel down

I offically hate baby announcements and baby showers

 

[BelleNuit]

I love this thread, definitely makes me feel better.

I went to my nieces baby shower yesterday. We do the baby shower when the baby is 40days old. Anyways as soon as this lady came in and asked me if i was the mother, i got all upset. She was like oh u look older so i thought the baby is urs. This lady that i never met before is concerned about my age and fertility!!! Then entire time everyone kept asking why im not having one. I kept saying next year we will, im still working toward my career....oh they also gave me an invitation to mothers day event and said " u are not a mom but u should come!" since yesterday i feel down

I offically hate baby announcements and baby showers

That is so insensitive! This is why I never ask people when they are going to start trying. It's none of their business either way!!

DH and I were just married in July, and lots of people have been asking us when we are going to start TTC. We havent even told our families we've been trying because we prefer our privacy.

His mother is especially bad and keeps dropping "hints" that she wants to be a grandma..... She bought me maternity clothes one day! It's so frustrating because I want to tell her to back off because we have been trying and it hasnt worked so far. But it's also none of her business and I think she'd get very intrusive with asking us all the time if we are pregnant yet.

It's too much pressure!!!

 

[GoldenRatio]

That is so insensitive! This is why I never ask people when they are going to start trying. It's none of their business either way!!

DH and I were just married in July, and lots of people have been asking us when we are going to start TTC. We havent even told our families we've been trying because we prefer our privacy.

His mother is especially bad and keeps dropping "hints" that she wants to be a grandma..... She bought me maternity clothes one day! It's so frustrating because I want to tell her to back off because we have been trying and it hasnt worked so far. But it's also none of her business and I think she'd get very intrusive with asking us all the time if we are pregnant yet.

It's too much pressure!!!

Thats the thing, they never had problem getting pregnant so they donno how it is. I didnt know until 8 months passed without a second line.
As i was leaving the shower, mom and sister inlaw asked why i look so down lately. They both got pregnant in a month so they dont understand why im down. All they say is "dont think about it".

Thats why i love it here, u guys get me and understand the struggle

My brother's fish is pregnant too! and yes i cried over that when i first heard.

 

[BabyC4Me]

No. Not the freaking fish !!!!! You're killing me Smalls !!!!

That is crazy for her to invite you to a Mother's Day event and ask those questions. Ppl are so nosey and don't even realize it

 

[Bella12]

Hello ladies! Cheer up it's Friday.

I know it can be hard but you just have to ignore most people. I have found that lots of people are in their own bubble and they struggle to relate two other people or empathize with different types of situations that may arise.

In the teaching field, I see it all the time. I hear staff members complaining child came to school tired or dressed the wrong way. The truth of the matter is as a teacher we don't know struggles may have ensued prior to the child's arrival. We don't know why they're wearing the outfit they're wearing or if they can afford an outfit that fits better. The parent may have to work multiple jobs to make ends meet and may not even pick out the child outfit. There are lots of situations the people just can't relate to.

My mother-in-law pressured me for a long time to have a baby. I think in part that's why I waited so long. I wanted to make sure that it was right decision for me.

One thing that has always helped me feel better when I'm feeling down is I look for a positive sign or symbol. For me, everytime I see a butterfly flying by i tale it as a sign that good things are around the bend.

 

[GoldenRatio]

Thanks Bella12, you are 100% right on that. Those ladies never had ttc problem and its hard to relate if you dont go thru the same sisuation. I find myself thinking how im unlucky and how other ppl get what they want without working for it. Thats my problem i think, i need to learn to be thankful for everything i have. I would love to learn to use law of attraction but its so hard to bend my thoughts.

I just saw a spider and im gonna take that as a positive sign! Plus its TGIF

 

[BabyC4Me]

Thanks Bella12, you are 100% right on that. Those ladies never had ttc problem and its hard to relate if you dont go thru the same sisuation. I find myself thinking how im unlucky and how other ppl get what they want without working for it. Thats my problem i think, i need to learn to be thankful for everything i have. I would love to learn to use law of attraction but its so hard to bend my thoughts.

I just saw a spider and im gonna take that as a positive sign! Plus its TGIF

For me. It's a lady bug . It always reminds me of my grandmother and good luck !!!!

 

[BabyC4Me]

Just came from dinner with Hubbie. Had one glass of wine and did not care !!!!

I'm CD17 and feeling good about this cycle. Not overly hopeful. But positive none the less !

 

[TJ Islander]

Sorry Golden

I just had a cry-fest just now. my hubby copped out on BD on day 13 of my frikin cycle guys because he had to go out!!! im sooooo upset. i just told him off. also i told him im done trying. whatever happens happens

 

[BabyC4Me]

Sorry Golden

I just had a cry-fest just now. my hubby copped out on BD on day 13 of my frikin cycle guys because he had to go out!!! im sooooo upset. i just told him off. also i told him im done trying. whatever happens happens

Tj !!! OMG !
I understand your frustrations with not getting To BD on day 13, but you will have time to catch the egg ! It's still early in the fertile window right ?

What does your app say ?

And putting the pressure on your Hubbie may effect his mentality moving forward. I hope you guys can work it out and not make a big deal out of this whole process. The extra stress will only complicate the marriage and make baby making complicated. Physically and emotionally.

Good luck lady ! It's okay to cry. We are hear to listen and help when we can.

 

[BelleNuit]

Sorry Golden

I just had a cry-fest just now. my hubby copped out on BD on day 13 of my frikin cycle guys because he had to go out!!! im sooooo upset. i just told him off. also i told him im done trying. whatever happens happens

So sorry to hear that!! I'm a little ashamed of it now, but there was one time where DH was simply too sick to be able to BD.... And it was on my peak day!!! I was so mad, not at him, at the situation.... But it was tough to really differentiate the two at the time.

TTC makes us a little crazy sometimes.

 

[BabyC4Me]

It really does make us crazy! like, we react in ways that we done even see coming and then look bak and say WTF was i thinking????

How did ladies do this back in the 50s lol?
No apps, no tracking tools? no OPKs? They just sexed whenever and BAM they became the mother of 10 kids and all under the age of 10 lol !

MADNESSSS
!!

 

[BelleNuit]

It really does make us crazy! like, we react in ways that we done even see coming and then look bak and say WTF was i thinking????

How did ladies do this back in the 50s lol?
No apps, no tracking tools? no OPKs? They just sexed whenever and BAM they became the mother of 10 kids and all under the age of 10 lol !

MADNESSSS
!!

Totally!! My grandmother had 11 children, and everyone in my family (I have TONS of cousins) seems to get pregnant just by looking at a man! .... And I'm so inpatient because I expected it would be easy for me too!

 

[BabyC4Me]

Things have def changed!
We are so used to planning out entire lives up until this and when we cant control the timing, OH MAN!!!!! watch out!

 

[Bella12]

I think in the 50s women stayed home and did female responsibilities. Cook, clean, care for kids and keep the hubby happy in bed. They didn't necessarily wait until they finished college or had a good job. Etc.

TJ I know exactly how you feel. Last month we the BD every other day until 3-4 days b4 ovulation. I was ok that we missed 2 nights but night 3 I became upset with my hubby. Then it didn't happen bc I was upset and he wasn't feeling it.

We ladies know what we want and are very calculative/scientific about getting it. Ps I might be making up words.

Unrelated to the bs any one else feeling overly stressed. I don't ovulate until may 10. So I have some time to destroys BUT work has me totally stressed out. It's a weekend. I shouldn't feel this stressed.