TTC #1- Looking for buddies!

[tbfromlv]

Cowgirl- never seen that symptom but everyone is different! I wouldn’t doubt it lol

Steph- I had heard it can take up to 10 days after your last pill, but I’ve never ended up taking it yet. Hopefully it doesn’t take that long for you! I know if it’s anything like progesterone, I start 1-2 days after I stop taking it.

Amber, it does look a little lighter, but that could just be the dye amount and it still being early! FXd

Dream- I’m not sure about the pap- I don’t imagine it being bad, it’s just the external part of the cervix.

Afm- bfn today. Must have been the trigger. I knew I should have waited. I guess there’s still a chance, but I’m 12dpo, I doubt I’ll get a BFP by Sunday. I’m actually super sad. I knew everything was perfect this time so it just sucks.

 

[CowgirlBaby]

2 more days to wait then I can justify testing! If AF doesn't get me!

 

[tbfromlv]

My BBs started hurting bad today. That’s not been a pre-AF symptom for me. Only had it my two BFP cycles. I know it’s super unlikely but.. I guess I can hold on to a shred of hope, right?

 

[CowgirlBaby]

Mine have been itchy and sore, and have been continuing to get cramps. Still no signs of AF approaching though. She is supposed to be due on Monday.

 

[AmberR]

Tb- that sounds promising since that was a sign on your BFP cycles! I still have my fx'd for you!

Cowgirl- I admire your strength to not test! Monday will be here beforw we know it!

 

[CTgirl]

TB and Cowgirl, FX for you.

Amber, I had mild cramps until around 10 or 11 weeks. I spoke to some friends and they also experienced it - I was terrified because I thought it was the end for me but turns out it's quite natural.

Dream, hope you're keeping warm!

AFM, neck is so much better today! Thank goodness because I really can't afford to go to a physio. Hubby has been massaging which helps.

 

[SunnyBe]

Cowgirl, how long have you been TTC? Have you had these symptoms during any of your previous cycles? Good luck on Monday!!

Steph, so how does that work with the tiny 1-day old embryos. Do they thaw them in batches of 4 or 5 a couple days before your planned transfer and see how many get to day 3 and if they're doing well, wait until day 5 for transfer? Or will they start the thaw right now and refreeze the ones that make it to day 3 or 5?

Ct, ahh so sorry to hear about your neck but glad you're feeling a bit better. That's great that you're getting 4 months! Although I know it's nothing compared to some countries where you get a year. Does your DH get paternity leave as well?

Dream, I always feel the same way on CD1. It feels like a fresh start. Especially when you know it's coming. I had a PAP smear the day after O and the doctor said it was fine. Stay warm!!

Amber, how are your tests looking? I really hope they'll get darker! Could it be that your urine was less concentrated? If you want to get your hCG levels checked anyway, you can order it yourself through walkinlab.com or requestatest.com or any of those. It doesn't cost much and you just log in to get the results 24 hours later. Did that myself 2 weeks ago. I get what you're saying about not feeling safe until you see that heartbeat though.


Tb, that's a very good sign if you've only had that during your BFP cycles! I really hope you'll update us showing some beautiful lines today.

AFM, not much going on. The clinic will email me with my new protocol in 2 weeks. Started OPKs yesterday and it was awfully dark already (CD13 but I usually don't O until CD 21). Not sure if I just about missed it or if it's still getting darker. Let's see what my temp does.

 

[steph1607]

Ooh Sunny, looks like we'll be fairly close together again. Are you trying naturally this cycle, or are you not supposed to have unprotected sex before starting preparation for your FET? Are you still feeling positive about everything?
Apparently our embryos are in two 'straws' - 7 in one and 8 in the other. When the clinic confirm that my lining is good to go, they will thaw the straw of 8 and see how they get on. Obviously I could get called to transfer on day 2 or 3, but because my recipient got some good blasts, they're hopeful I'll get some day 5s. If I get more than one blast, they can be refrozen (at a cost, of course!)

TB and Amber, looking forward to hearing from you this weekend.

Dream, Happy New Cycle! Here's hoping that your new lovely (almost textbook length) previous cycle will continue and this will be the month for you.

Cowgirl, almost time to test!!

CT, glad your neck is better, neck pain is horrid, isn't it? Are you planning on just taking the four months maternity leave? Are you able to take more unpaid if you were in a financial position to do so?

How much maternity leave do you USA and Canada ladies get out of interest? In my current job, I'll get about 10-11 months paid which is decent.

 

[tbfromlv]

Well bfn today and no sore bbs any more. Oh well I guess I’m out. I kind of want to just take the femera I have waiting at the pharmacy and Estradiol I still have and just follow opks this cycle instead of doing the whole monitored thing. Idk.

Ct glad you’re feeling better 4 months sounds nice..

Steph- 10-11 months that makes me want to cry. We get 6 weeks. Expensive fertility help with no coverage and then no time off. If you get a c section ya 8. However I pay a bit extra every month to have what’s called short term disability so I can take up to 12 weeks. Since I’m a teacher my ideal situation would have been to give birth in late February so then after 12 weeks I would then pick up with my 10 weeks of summer vacation. But at this point I just want to have babies and I could care less which month they came lol

Did I mention my best friends 21 year old hot mess sister (no job no relationship no school) got knocked up.. with twins? And even though she’s only 5.5 weeks she posts it on FB several times a day. Ugh. It’s just so unfair sometimes.

Dream- fresh start! Let’s do this.

 

[steph1607]

Oh wow TB, that’s crazy.

https://www.gov.uk/maternity-pay-leave/leave

This is our government website about it. You get 52 weeks off but not all paid, that part depends on your employer and mine has quite good maternity pay.

Sorry that you think this cycle has been a no. When do you need to decide whether to do a monitored cycle or not?

Oh for goodness sake, don’t you just despair of some people. My Facebook is always full of pregnancies and babies. Only of my husband’s best friends announced last April that his girlfriend of 6 months was pregnant (accident of course...) the gorgeous baby arrived in October, just as we started IVF, and then a few days after I came out of hospital, we heard from another of his friends (In a relationship for less than a year) telling us that he wanted to tell us first because of our ‘ordeal’ that his girlfriend is now pregnant. Accident too, of course...

 

[tbfromlv]

Well I’ll have to decide real quick. I just want to not think about it every day of my life. I’d love to stop temping but I don’t even have regular enough cycles to take a chill cycle lol I have no idea when O will or won’t come it’s just .. so much. You guys know that though.

Oh yeah so many announcements. One of my college friends just announced pregnancy with twins too. At least they are married.. I’m happy that they get to enjoy that blessing but it’s frustrating that we still haven’t, especially when we are doing everything in our power to make it happen. And they don’t even realize how lucky they are! The accidents of short or non existent relationships kills me the most though. I have a friend I worked with that planned both of hers. She wanted to get pregnant in June (same reason I gave about the extending leave into summer time) and she did. First try. Then with second she said she wanted an April baby so they waited until August to try and she had an April baby. ?!?!?!?

 

[AmberR]

CT- glad your neck is feeling better! It is reassuring to hear the cramps are normal, thank you!

Steph- hope the transfer goes smoothly for you! As tb said- we only get 6 weeks maternity pay, 8 weeks if recovering from a c-section. At my job I am able to take up to 4 months off total but I have to use PTO that I have saved up.

Tb- so sorry tb. I just can't believe how many people get pregnant on accident. I really can't even wrap by brain around it.

Dream- hoping this cycle if yours!

Sunny- thank you for the idea. I will have to look into those labs.

Afm, I've decided to stop testing for now. The tests are not getting any darker and I'm stressing out about it. I have no control over the outcome so no matter what happens I don't want to spend my weekend stressed. Maybe will test with a frer again next week. Still an having mild cramps occasionally.

Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

 

[CowgirlBaby]

Cowgirl, how long have you been TTC? Have you had these symptoms during any of your previous cycles? Good luck on Monday!!

Steph, so how does that work with the tiny 1-day old embryos. Do they thaw them in batches of 4 or 5 a couple days before your planned transfer and see how many get to day 3 and if they're doing well, wait until day 5 for transfer? Or will they start the thaw right now and refreeze the ones that make it to day 3 or 5?

Ct, ahh so sorry to hear about your neck but glad you're feeling a bit better. That's great that you're getting 4 months! Although I know it's nothing compared to some countries where you get a year. Does your DH get paternity leave as well?

Dream, I always feel the same way on CD1. It feels like a fresh start. Especially when you know it's coming. I had a PAP smear the day after O and the doctor said it was fine. Stay warm!!

Amber, how are your tests looking? I really hope they'll get darker! Could it be that your urine was less concentrated? If you want to get your hCG levels checked anyway, you can order it yourself through walkinlab.com or requestatest.com or any of those. It doesn't cost much and you just log in to get the results 24 hours later. Did that myself 2 weeks ago. I get what you're saying about not feeling safe until you see that heartbeat though.


Tb, that's a very good sign if you've only had that during your BFP cycles! I really hope you'll update us showing some beautiful lines today.

AFM, not much going on. The clinic will email me with my new protocol in 2 weeks. Started OPKs yesterday and it was awfully dark already (CD13 but I usually don't O until CD 21). Not sure if I just about missed it or if it's still getting darker. Let's see what my temp does.

Been TTC since August. Never had any of these symptoms besides cramping especially not very light spotting a week before AF is due for 2 days then it stopping. That has NEVER happened before. Even with my MC I didn't have the spotting. Just the morning sickness

 

[Dream143r]

In Canada we have the option of take 12 or 18 months. You still get the same amount of money though. So if you take the 18 months you will get smaller payments but over a longer period of time.

 

[CowgirlBaby]

Meh. I don't know if it was the stress of work, or what is going on but I'm going back to having reserved hope about being pregnant. My brain just keeps going "don't get your hopes up."

 

[CTgirl]

Our law is 4 months unpaid but some companies choose to pay. I get 3 paid and 1 unpaid so will need to claim from the Unemployment Insurance Fund but they are useless and if you get 10% of your salary you're lucky.

Sorry TB, it's not easy hearing about everyone falling pregnant. It really does seem unfair doesn't It?

Cowgirl, why don't you test? Or are you still holding out for Monday?

 

[CowgirlBaby]

Our law is 4 months unpaid but some companies choose to pay. I get 3 paid and 1 unpaid so will need to claim from the Unemployment Insurance Fund but they are useless and if you get 10% of your salary you're lucky.

Sorry TB, it's not easy hearing about everyone falling pregnant. It really does seem unfair doesn't It?

Cowgirl, why don't you test? Or are you still holding out for Monday?

Still holding out for Monday

 

[AmberR]

Ok so I know I said I wouldn't test but I did test with a wondfo today and it's getting darker. Won't test again until Wednesday as I'll be 5 weeks then and if I get a darker line I will step away from the tests lol!

Dream- wow the maternity leave in Canda sounds amazing!

Can't wait to see your test tomorrow cowgirl!

Tb- your temp still looks good. How long is your LP normally?

 

[CTgirl]

Yay Amber!

 

[tbfromlv]

CT- it feels that way sometimes and other times I’m like yay! And feel fine knowing someday I’ll be there. Just the rollercoaster of emotions while TTC lol

Amber- great news, of course it’s hard not to test when your worried! And my normal LP is 14 days so it was bfn today so I’m out.

Cowgirl can’t wait to see your test!