TTC #1- Looking for buddies!

[steph1607]

It's ridiculous isn't it- I know I can't go through life like this, could be ages until I get pregnant (if ever), and I know all our friends around us are going to keep announcing pregnancies.

 

[AmberR]

So sorry Steph! I know how that feels. There are at least 12 people I know pregnant and several more who just gave birth. I keep thinking why not me?? Just trying to not get too down about it. Hang in there, it will be our turn hopefully soon

 

[tbfromlv]

Babylights- I am not likely to O anytime soon. I've only O'd 3 times Since October. I have my lap & Dye coming up on the 21st and after that I will start Provera for a new cycle and my first round of Clomid. So I am just waiting at this point

Steph- I totally get that waiting and nothingness. I rarely O and have very long cycles. I also don't like when people ask when you're going to have kids or tell me I should hurry up.. like you don't get it! Its not as easy as that!

Amber- I am so jealous! That is going to be a blast. Have you ever been before? I would love to see Hawaii someday.

 

[steph1607]

Isn't it infuriating TB, I've snapped at so many colleagues who have been all jokey about me having children. They've probably got the hint by now. And I don't even think I'm just overly sensitive because of my infertility, even before we started trying I would never ask someone else when they were planning on having children because it's just NOBODY'S BUSINESS! You're essentially enquiring about someone's sex life! Sorry to hear that your ovaries are a bit of a nightmare too- is the lap and dye the HSG procedure? How are you feeling about it?

 

[AmberR]

Tb- we have been to Maui for our honeymoon 6 years ago. This time we are going to the big island, I have heard it's a little different than Maui. Looking at the forecast now there has been a lot of rain but I guess that's pretty normal there and it's still warm of course

I can't even count how many times people have asked me when we are going to have children. For a while I told people we weren't having any just so they would stop asking. Recently a coworker who is pregnant told me to watch out cause there is something in the water... I just laughed it off but that was a little awkward.

 

[babylights]

tb I'm keeping everything crossed for you that Clomid will be just the thing you need!

I cannot believe that people are so clueless and thoughtless as to ask these invasive questions! We used to get them a while back but I think I must send out some kind of 'back off' vibe because they stopped pretty quickly and haven't come back. I'm sorry ladies that you all have to endure these rude questions.

 

[SunnyBe]

I so understand how y'all feel regarding other peoples' pregnancies. I never thought it would affect me this much but it really does. Especially the not planned ones (how does that even exist?!). One couple I know announced but also told me how hard it was for them to get pregnant, which immediately changed my mood from "OMG-why-them-not-us" to "Yeey, good for them!". Things like that give me hope.

I'm still waiting to O, probably sometime this week. Bought some Ph test strips to check the acidity of my CM and so far it's been pretty acidic (which I suspect is one of my problems TTC), I hope it changes when I get closer to O. It's neat to see that Preseed is completely Ph neutral though, so at least that part is not BS. I just started taking guaifenesin pills, an expectorant, to make my CM less thick and more watery. Let's see if it does something!

@babylights; your chart looks amazing! Will you test today or tomorrow? Keeping everything crossed!!

 

[steph1607]

Good luck with O week Sunny. Goodness I bet when you first decided to start trying you never dreamed you would be testing the acidity of CM! The things we do...!

I took guaifenesen (through cough mixture) when I was taking Clomid. I honestly don't know how much difference it made to me, but I read a lot of forums where people have noticed a difference.

Hubby and I love preseed haha!

 

[babylights]

Hey sunny! Hope you O soon and the guaifenesin does the trick!

I actually got a faint bfp yesterday and another one this morning so I'm cautiously optimistic but haven't seen a nice dark line yet so we'll see. I have a dr. appt tomorrow so I'll ask for a blood test.

ETA - today's test is a smidge darker so feeling hopeful.

 

[steph1607]

OMG!!!

Keep us updated Babylights, sending so much love!

 

[babylights]

Thanks steph!

 

[tbfromlv]

The lap and dye I'm doing isn't quite the same as the HSG. Since she's got to go in and remove the cyst and any endo she sees, shes going to do chromotubation dye test. Apparently it can help clear any minor blockage too (like mucus) so hopefully that is all good!

The unplanned pregnancies are the worst. I teach and there is a woman in my building who has been trying for 5 years. She's done everything she could naturally, had 3 IUIs and just had an IVF done. That was successful and I even cried with her- but she just miscarried at 8 weeks. Then another teacher just met her guy and accidentally got pregnant within two weeks. It's like "wait... how? There is so much with science and timing and UGH HOW?"

Babylights !!! OMG I'm so excited for you!

Amber- Anywhere even partially tropical has rain daily in the forecast lol I am sure most of the day will be beautiful!

Sunny- what do you do for acidic CM? It's crazy what we can find out about our bodies when ttc

 

[babylights]

Thanks tb! Hoping for a positive blood test tomorrow!

 

[AmberR]

So excited for you babylights!

Sunnybe- I've been checking my CM pH also, although I have the opposite problem, mine is more alkaline which can lead to recurrent bacterial vaginosis. I've been using probiotics and my midwife also recommended boric acid capsules have been effective for a number of women who have the same problem. Very interesting!

 

[babylights]

Thanks Amber!!

 

[SunnyBe]

OMGG babylights!! "I actually got a faint bfp yesterday" she says casually!

How did today's test look? Darker? Take a picture will you, we want to see

Good luck at the dr's today. Can't wait to hear more about it!

 

[SunnyBe]

And yes girls, very true about the crazy stuff we do while TTC!!

I don't know how you can permanently lessen the acidity of your CM, and also not sure if you'd want to because of what Amber mentioned, but you can temporarily make it more pH neutral by using baking soda (douche, or inserting a finger with baking soda an hour or so before BD). I haven't tried it though as I don't want to mess with it all that much. I hope that once my LH starts surging it'll happen automatically, if not, I might give it a shot

 

[steph1607]

Haha Sunny it was such a throwaway comment I almost didn't register! A girl on another thread I follow recently got a BFP at something like CD54. She had a scan yesterday and posted this little video of the baby's little heartbeat. I got all teary at work 😂

 

[SunnyBe]

Ahh that's beautiful! I really hope we'll all be able to post heartbeat vids soon. It's just so hard to even imagine getting to that stage. Patience, patience, patience I suppose.

 

[steph1607]

You are so right, but I am fast running out of patience. Still got a while until I next see my fertility doctor anyway so I guess I need to find some more from somewhere!