TTC #1- Looking for buddies!

[steph1607]

Haha thanks TB My age works well coupled with a good BMI, and then I am sporty and have a degree which apparently a lot of recipients want. The nurse was telling us that some women actually stipulate that they only want donor eggs from someone with a PHD! Seemed a little extreme to me, but each to their own. They obviously just have to be prepared to wait a long time for a suitable match.

Hopefully we will get our counselling session done while we are waiting for the blood test results. I think I'm going to contact one today and try and get something booked in. One of the counsellors does phone and Skype appointments which is really useful as they are all based in London. Although I do think I'll feel a bit awkward having a counselling session over the phone... I'll just have to suck it up and get over it though!

TB this is just getting better and better. I'm not sure how much more of this I can take before you start posting some test pics!!!

Woohoo for O Sunny, go and get busy! Fingers crossed that August will be your month! If not, it's good you've got a doctor's appointment this week though. Hopefully they can run some tests and see if there is anything strange going on.

I've just remembered something quite sweet that DH said yesterday - we were driving home from the appointment and we have been talking for a while about going to Germany or Switzerland in December for a couple of days at a Christmas market for our anniversary. He said we might not be able to go if I was pregnant because of flying. I said it's fine up until a certain date and he replied saying he has "a lot of concerns about the cabin pressure" and the thought of it didn't sit well with him! I said if that's the case then we definitely wouldn't fly because if anything happened afterwards, we would always question ourselves. So we decided we would stay in the UK instead!

 

[CTgirl]

Steph, so glad the appointment went well! It certainly sounds positive, but can imagine it's nerve-wracking for you. I'm sure 5 weeks sounds like the longest time to wait, but it's good that you can have some counselling in between as it's something to focus on.

Yay Sunny! Go go go!

TB, wow, that's so spooky but so exciting!

Amber, how are things going? When is your appointment?

 

[Dream143r]

Sunny - Yay for +OPK!! Now we just gotta see that temp raise the roof. lol

Steph - super sweet. I love when our men get all concerned and involved. #heartmelt

AFM - 11DPO another this morning. I'm not out of the races yet though. I haven't lost hope. Just growing impatient....

 

[tbfromlv]

Ok I know it's stills BFN but I swear I'm seeing good something. Had to make it B&W for clearest cell phone pic! i know we like to analyze these so here ya go

 

[tbfromlv]

ANd just for fun here is another. I think it's funny how impatient I am. 😂

 

[AmberR]

Steph- the egg share program sounds great! Hope it is a smooth process for you!! Thats is so sweet about your DH being concerned about flying. Stuff like that just melts your heart doesn't it!

Dream- sorry about the BFN. Fx'd it's just too early!

Tb- I think I might see a hint of something!!

Sunny- glad you got a + OPK!

CT- any signs of O yet?

Afm, I'm doing ok. Nausea has eased up a bit but I have been chewing ginger candy once or twice a day so maybe that is helping. My appointment is Friday and I am sooo nervous/anxious!

 

[tbfromlv]

Steph- it's crazy how picky people could get. I mean, I can understand maybe a college degree but a must have PHD?! I think it wouldn't hurt to try the session over the phone and feel it out. Good luck with that! And your DH is so sweet!!

Dream- I hope we get that BFP soon!

CT- any signs of O?

Amber- I hope I'm seeing something! And omg I can't wait for your appointment! That's going to be such a good feeling!! Also, I'm glad you are feeling better!

 

[Dream143r]

tb - i'm seeing a hint of a vvfl on the first pic. FX!!!!!

 

[CTgirl]

TB I think I see something too. FX it's a BFP in the next few days! Must be so frustrating not knowing!

Amber you must be so excited for Friday!

No sign of O for me yet. Am on CD15 and waiting till tonight to test again. Last cycle was 32 days and the previous was 29 so I have a couple of days leeway I guess. I had a temp dip yesterday and thought This is It! But still no positive. All my apps are saying I'm fertile now though and that I'll O on Friday so here's hoping!

I wanted to ask something personal... Do any of your men struggle to finish because they're feeling too much pressure? I keep saying to my hubby that we must just have fun and not to think about it bit he says he feels stressed about it. It's never happened before so it must have something to do with us TTC.

 

[steph1607]

Thanks girls You all make me feel so much better about everything.

TB I think I can see a slight hint of something on the first test. Keep them coming!!

Oh CT, I feel for you both, hubby and I have definitely been there. Pressure can really get to them, and then the more they think about not being able to perform, the less they are able to anyway. Like you, we had never really had that issue before. It was only when I started taking Clomid and we knew that we had to try and keep up the every other day schedule that it started to become an issue. Poor hubby got himself so worked up about it after it had happened once that it kept happening. Obviously we had the thought going through our heads that I don't ovulate on my own and so we had this "one chance" and couldn't miss it. I never ovulated anyway but that's irrelevant The more time went on, the more the pressure got. He even went to the GP bless him because he was so worried that he would end up ruining our chances. Strangely enough, the only issue was finishing inside me... so with that in mind, we actually looked into insemination and did purchase an insemination kit! (We recently remortgaged and had to give bank statements to the mortgage adviser and it showed all our transactions!!!!!!!!!) It sounds kind of crazy to me now, but for a few times that is what we did, hubby would get the stuff into a pot, and then we would get it in me! I know it sounds like the most unromantic thing ever, but it worked and oh my word we had the most hilarious time doing it! Seriously, every time we were just cracking up. I can just picture myself now, laying on the living room floor with my legs in the air while hubby was cooking Of course after a week or so of that and feeling so much more relaxed we were able to get it done in the traditional way again. And now we have no pressure at all so our sex life is completely back to how it was pre TTC.

I'm not suggesting you get an insemination kit (although if you both think that could be an option then I don't see why not), but I just wanted to reassure you that it is so normal and understandable. I felt frustrated sometimes because I kind of thought "he has just this one job to do and can't even do that". Of course I never said that and I know it's horrible of me to think it. It's easy for people to say "just relax" but I know it's not that simple. I hope you both manage to find a solution that works for you, hang in there

 

[tbfromlv]

Steph- I had to giggle at the part where it was visible in your transactions! Oh I bet that wasn't awkward!

But on a serious note CT, I hear that happens more often than you think when couples are TTC. Emotions can definitely impact all aspects of it. I hope you guys figure it out! Maybe if you guys just have a fun date night and take it back to the romance? Also, I usually get a dip two days before my positive! So keep testing!

AFM, test seemed to be getting darker. DH could actually see it! Its still faint, but I'm feeling more confident about it being there!! I attached an invert today because to me it was the clearest! My phone camera is awful so I'm doing my best

 

[tbfromlv]

Ok, well it was WAY less blurry before I attached it.. lol

 

[tbfromlv]

Unedited.. ? I see it IRL lol

 

[SunnyBe]

Oh my TB Is it the lighter line right next to the dip part? I can definitely see something there! Test again at night (if your urine isn't too diluted at least), some women have better luck at night. Can't wait to see how it progresses.

Ct, so sorry you're dealing with pressure issues. Steph has given some great tips already so hopefully that'll help a bit We try to keep things interesting by trying new things/positions etc.

Steph, awww your husband sounds like the sweetest I'm sure he'll make a great dad!

Dream, any test updates? Your chart still looks amazing!

Amber, just two more days!!!

AFM, doctors appointment later today. So ready to find out what's going on!

 

[steph1607]

Haha TB I was cringing so badly! Also I had another transaction that same month for £35 in Ann Summers (not sure if you have that shop over there?). We must have looked so kinky!

I think I see something again in the first pic but I am sooo bad at these things!

Sunny, he really will

Best of luck today, ask lots of questions! I hope they can shed some light for you

 

[Dream143r]

TB - If your DH sees it then it must be there! Men are blind. lol

CT - We were there last cycle. We missed a couple days in the window due to performance. For me I just let it go, I didn't get sad or mad and didn't even discuss it with hubby. I know him well enough to know he obviously doesn't want to talk about it and me wanting to have some annoying discussion was just going to stress him out even more and make matters worse. So I left it alone and a couple days later all was well and no issues since. I'll never know for sure but I think my silent support was this best thing for him.

Steph - So much to giggle about in your story. You got me with the legs up in the living room. heeehee. Why the living room of all places. lol I love it.

Sunny - bit of a jump there. Think you O'd yesterday? CD 31....

AFM - 12 DPO - BFN. I'm not gonna lie ladies. Today's negative was a tough one to look at. I shed a couple tears. I've since talked myself off the ledge tho and calmed down. The highs and lows of all this, it's intense. I'm feeling out. AF not due until Saturday, so it's not over and I know i've heard from plenty of women on here that many don't see their bfps until AF is due or late. It's just so emotional. It's okay though, the pity party is over. I think. FX I have better luck tomorrow.

 

[tbfromlv]

I decided t buy some FRERs because they were on sale lol so we will see if I have a good picture to show you all. I use DH as a test because he can't see anything as it is. So the fact he could see this line IRL, made me really get excited!

Sunny, I cannot wait to hear about your appointment. Please keep us updated!

Dream- My mom told me she was one of those people who couldn't get a positive until she was 6 weeks along (didn't comfort me much!). You have to remember how slow HCG can move in these early days. You are DEFINITELY NOT out until AF shows up! I know BFNs are hard. I've shed my fair share of tears too. Hang in there girl!

 

[tbfromlv]

Omg.. FRER has a line. Faint but def there!

 

[Dream143r]

oooooooo TB I seeeeeee that. I literally tested every single filter on my phone with the brightness on 100 lol. I could see it on quite a few of them. Yes! now we just need to wait for it to get darker. eeeeek!

 

[tbfromlv]

oops I edited my post and the image fell off. Here it is again.