TTC#1 or 2?

[GreyGirl]

If you've had a loss, and you're trying again, does that count as 1 or 2? Does it only count as 2 if you've had a child before?

 

[grandbleu]

I guess I would have said TTC1 still since my baby didn't make it but since I loved my baby despite never meeting him then maybe I would say TTC2. Kind of confusing - I had never thought about it. What are you saying?

 

[GreyGirl]

I have been saying TTC#2 as I was pregnant, but I have seen lots saying TTC#2 only on their second child attempt after having one go to term...so I guess I'm just as confused too :S

 

[Rowan75]

I think everyones different - it sounds daft but I was reading the birth announcements in the paper today (I know glutton for punishment!) and was thinking I would want (If I was lucky enough to give birth to a healthy baby who would hopefully go on to lead a healthy and happy life) to write first born rather than first baby - does that make sense?

x

 

[Sarah27]

I am currently ttc baby number 3.. number 2 was stillborn.. so for me it would always be baby number 3 xxx

 

[GreyGirl]

I'm really sorry, I read it through twice, but I don't understand what distinction you're making between 1st born and 1st baby...Can you please help me understand.
I'm sorry for your losses *hugs*

 

[GreyGirl]

Thanks Sarah. I'm sorry for your loss, my cousin had a still born boy and he's still their 1st of 3 sons.

 

[SuperKat]

I'm really sorry, I read it through twice, but I don't understand what distinction you're making between 1st born and 1st baby...Can you please help me understand.
I'm sorry for your losses *hugs*

I don't want to speak for anyone, but the way I understood it is- I have 3 children 'born', but have carried 4 babies, one was not born,. SO for this next pregnancy, i want to give birth to #4, but technically I am TTC #5, as I have already conceived 4, but it is my angel baby, not my 4th born child since she wasn't born, I didn't give birth to her =(.

I keep finding myself doing the same thing though....do I say i am TTC #4? ..I really can't, cause I already conceived #4...I am TTC #5. The only problem then, is that when you tell people that they'll ask and sometimes it is too painful to explain it. (And technically, I guess I would really be TTC #6, because my first pregnancy was a chemical pregnancy, but I never really connected with it because I didn't know what had happened until I got pregnant with my son).

 

[icantdecide]

I think ill say ttc numebr 1 to the outside world as not many pepole knew i had a MC anyway. But to myself and all you lovely people on here it will be number 2

SuperKat is right to say TTC number 2 will be hard, its the same for me as they know i dont have any children so going on to explain would hurt lots.

Even my OH says when we have our first baby and i find myself reminding him he already has one child we just never got ot meet her.

xx