TTC # 1. Wow this is hard.

[ABanky]

Hello I'm new to the site. We have been actively TTC for 8 months now with no success. I really didn't think it would be this hard. My husband and I are both healthy. I have regular normal cycles that occur on the dot. I've been keeping a check with my BBT every day and charting everything and of course taking preconception vitamins....... Nothing. It does get a little discouraging at times. I guess I decided to look for a forum for advice and encouragement and to see that I'm not alone. I know a lot of women deal with this for years so 8 months probably isn't all that long. But considering all my friends got pregnant within a couple of months of coming off BC, I just feel like there is something wrong with me. My doctor recommended I wait a year and if no BFP that we would come up with a plan.... Whatever that could mean.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Keep your head up! I know it's way easier said than done but try. Lol it's really easy to get discouraged so try not to let it.
Hopefully it'll happen very soon for you!

 

[2ducks]

Hello! Good news is that your cycles are regular and you have confirmed ovulation with BBT. You can attach your charts to a post and have some ladies check it out. Do you have a strong LP? Are your post O temps high enough to support a pregnancy (lower post O temps can indicate progesterone issues). If you are feeling inpatient you could send your husband to the doctor to get a semen analysis. Male fertility issues account for about 40% of fertility issues with couples. If there is an issue with his sperm than the good news is there are a lot of supplements he can take to help increase sperm quality. My partner takes like 8 pills every morning and he ended up with a great SA.

Hang in there! You have come to the right place! Plus since you are obviously great at charting you can help newbies and offer advice to others.

 

[sarah2211]

I feel you. Something you spend so long trying to prevent... We too thought it would just be easy. You stop taking the pill, you get pregnant. I know people who have fallen pregnant on the pill/taken antibiotics/got food poisoning/skipped one pill. Yet months with no contraception and nothing happens.. If I knew it was this hard I would have stopped over a year ago!

It seems like everyone I know is pregnant or they've been trying for years with no luck. I know 6 months (for us) isn't that long, but it feels like ages. But then I feel like I can't really talk about it with the people I know who've been TTC for 18 months +. I get annoyed seeing people pregnant with their second/third/fourth etc child. I'd be happy with just one (at this stage!).

It's also frustrating when you're doing all the right thing.. Trying to avoid the things you shouldn't. My husband, almost in tears the other day, said that he's not sure what else we can do. At this stage, nothing..

Good luck, lots of baby dust to you. I hope it happens for you guys soon!

 

[BelleNuit]

We're on our 5th cycle actively trying and had 1 cycle ntnp... I'm also getting SO frustrated with this process! The emotional rollercoaster I go through each month is insane. I am becoming jaded and jealous of all my pregnant friends. I'm really starting to worry something is wrong.

The worst part of taking this long is that it's still technically within the normal range!

 

[KBP]

I'm in the same boat-thought I would get pregnant right after me and my husband got married, it's been 11 long months.

It's so so sooooo frustrating, on some days I can't even put it into words.

All you can do is plan intercourse accordingly and try to trust the timing of your life. That's what I tell myself every time AF comes-I just think it's not my time now, but it will be one day.

You could move forward with some testing just for peace of mind. So far I've had a progesterone test, a test for confirming ovulation, and we are waiting on results of my DH anylysis. If that comes back okay, I'll have an HSG.

All my Friends are mothers, some even pregnant with their second. It's hard. Hang in there.

 

[huskergirl]

oh dear I feel your pain....we are currently on cycle 10 TTC...and I am just heartbroken at this point....we waited 6 months before adding in ovulation strips....and now I'm on month 4 with them and still struggling...I work long hours like 13-14 hour days 3-4 days a week for now...and so I cant always test at the same time of day and I don't always know when I will be home from work to test in the evenings....so even though by my CM I should be ovulating I usually only get faint-darkish lines on opks and then they are stark white the rest of the time...so I'm super frustrated....my poor DH is beside himself...I took vitex for 2 months had my worst period to date and between period spotting...freaked called my obgyn she said stop the vitex last month was a normal cycle....
but I too feel like I cant talk to anyone but online....husband dosent understand why I feel something is wrong....SIL just had her 5th kid, my sisters and mom all seemed to have gotten pregnant by being breathed on....and here we are cycle 10 with only one positive pg test last dec that was followed by a horrific period and then nada....I have an appointment in 3 weeks to for my yearly....but at this point I just feel stuck and helpless...
ill keep my fingers crossed for you ladies....as much as I hate to say it I'm glad we are not alone in this, esp since most people I know fall into the "ohh we tried so long it too 2 months!" or the "whoops" category....everyone says relax and itll happen when it should...but I'm having a hard time keeping my head up...ive even lost 35# since TTC started which is awesome...but still....
ill be thinking of you ladies hoping we all get a bfp soon....

 

[huskergirl]

I'm in the same boat-thought I would get pregnant right after me and my husband got married, it's been 11 long months.

It's so so sooooo frustrating, on some days I can't even put it into words.

All you can do is plan intercourse accordingly and try to trust the timing of your life. That's what I tell myself every time AF comes-I just think it's not my time now, but it will be one day.

You could move forward with some testing just for peace of mind. So far I've had a progesterone test, a test for confirming ovulation, and we are waiting on results of my DH anylysis. If that comes back okay, I'll have an HSG.

All my Friends are mothers, some even pregnant with their second. It's hard. Hang in there.

how was your progesterone test? I have an appointment in a few weeks I'm thinking about asking for one....

 

[KBP]

Last month when I took it, I got a level of only 6...10 or higher indicates ovulation...however, after some reading I realized that cd21 was too early for me to have had a blood test. I had only ovulated 4 days prior and you should really have the test a week after ovulation.

My doctor agreed that It was done to early, so this month I had it done 7 days after ovulation. I'm waiting for the results, but my chart,cm and OPK all point to an ovulation, so I'm not too worried.
...more worried about my DH SA tomorrow :/