TTC 15 months, need some friends:)

[popchick75]

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LOL...this was in the paper this morning. You can sign up at this website and it will replace all pictures of babies on Facebook with different pictures.

 

[babydust818]

Hi Steffie and girls!

My name is Rachael. I'm 24, OH is 25. We've been together 9 years and have been NTNP for the last 3 years. I ended up pregnant July 26, 2011 and had a miscarriage a week later on August 1st. After the miscarriage we realized how badly we really want a baby so we've been desperately trying. This is the 13th month TTC after the loss. I've tried the CBFM, temping, tracking O, putting my legs up in the air after DTD, not drinking alcohol.... the list goes on and on! Still not pregnant and don't have insurance to get checked out as to why. Just keeping the faith and still trying every month. Hoping for a miracle. Decided to come over to this side of BNB since everyone on the TTC after loss are now pregnant, but me.

 

[RCAFWife]

You ladies sound like a great bunch; very supportive and totally going through the same thing I am. You're right, it's not the same out in the regular TTC forums. They don't understand it like you all do. DH and I have been ttc for 18 months now (this is the 18th month) and we are desperate! We didn't realize how much we wanted a baby until it started to take a long time. We began NTNP in 2010, but only started seriously ttc (temps, cm/cp tracking, pillows under hips, etc) in Feb 2011. What scares me is that we've begun entertaining the idea of adoption, which was our last resort. We haven't been to see a fertility specialist yet, as we have just moved and haven't been able to go out and get a doctor, much less a referral to an RE or FS. We've just been trying all that we can on our own with no success. DH had SAs done (3) and they were less than stellar, but still not the worst; the acceptable range is 20 mill or higher and DH was last tested as having 13 mill, but most of them are useless according to the doc So far, nothing's wrong with me, but my last doc suggested getting screened for Endo since my mom had it...I hope that's not me. I think I would just cry!!

I would scream and have a tantrum if the hostess in the restaurant started showing the ppl at my table her ultrasound video!! First of all, do we know you? Secondly, why is that appropriate dinner entertainment?? Ugh!

Reading through this thread makes me want to run out and find a gyno/OB right away to get to the bottom of this fertility issue, whatever it is. I'm tired of being helpless and seemingly "wasting time". I'd love to know that all our ttc efforts were not in vain...

 

[MalaMae]

Hi RCAFWife! Welcome on this board!
It's good to go to a doctor. Hopefully you won't be with "unexplained" infertility, they may actually pinpoint the problem. Or even better- maybe you have no problem and it's just a matter of time you conceive

 

[RCAFWife]

I just called my DH and told him to find info on what I need to get to go and see a doctor! I'm very eager!

 

[RCAFWife]

Your DH has 98 million sperm?? WOW I never knew men could have that much! That's nuts! Good for you though

 

[MalaMae]

Your DH has 98 million sperm?? WOW I never knew men could have that much! That's nuts! Good for you though

Hahaha... I know! Thanks! You can imagine as a guy how proud he is on his swimmers. LOL!! I think he told all of our friends about the 98 mil. and 80% motility!
Anyway, obviously even 98 mil. can't help in conceiving.

So according to our doctor, 40-50 years ago the golden average was 100 mil., but due to environmental reasons the golden average has been decreased nowdays to 20 mil.
Even 13 mil. is a great number. It's 13 MILLION- one has to work

 

[Trekkie1]

Hello, me and my hubby have been TTC for almost 2 years and it's just so hard! We're 32 and Everyone around us is asking questions and it seems like everyone but me can get pregnant. Here's hoping we all get a lucky break soon! Xxx

 

[hoot]

Hi all, I am new to this forum thing but unfortunately not new to TTC. My husband and I have been trying for 4 years to get pregnant and it feels like its never going to happen. In the four years I have been through every emotion possible, from hope to sheer devastation. In the first year of trying,my husband was diagnosed with cancer, got treatment, got better and got tested.... all his parts are working again. It's been three years since remission but no babies have appeared. Every month it seems another friend calls to tell me their good news. I am trying very hard to accept the hand I have been dealt in life but sometimes it gets too much. anyway I just need to vent to some people who truly understand what I am going through. thanks for reading, and for being supportive. god knows I need it today.

 

[Em4owen]

Hi guys :wave: I'm new to the forum too. My hubby and I have been TTC for our first child for about 16 months now. I'm 28 and my hubby is 30. We're currently seeking medical treatment to find out why no luck, so I've felt a bit like a pincushion having various blood tests for the past few weeks checking my hormones etc. I have a scan in couple of weeks as well so I'm hoping that will bring a few answers.

Sometimes I wish that if we'd known it was so hard, we would have tried sooner, but the problem is you don't know and instead I put my career first. I also curse that I was on contraceptive pills for about 10 years, I'm sure that's screwed me over!

I agree, it is tough seeing pregnant women especially on facebook or you see friends or family with their babies, along with the dreaded, "so when are you planning on having one?" I think I'm at the age now where most people my age have children or babies or are pregnant and it can be hard, (some days more than others and I can tell it's tough on my hubby too) but I try to focus on what I do have - a loving husband, a house and two cats to love instead

 

[Nightnurse]

Over 10yrs LTTTC ,most of my journal buddies now have babies or are PG and could do with some more support

 

[laustiredttc]

wow i think you ladies are truly amazing. Hope you dont mind me joining in?

me and dh have been ttc for 14months. I have the fs in sep and some of the preliminary tests have all come back normal so far, even dh sa is normal. I just want some answers as i feel i am slowly starting to lose my will to carry it all on. But when i read some of your amazing stories it gives me the strength to say NO, i want this more than anything i will carry on, i will do this!! I just hope i get some much needed answers to know where to go from there?

 

[stayinhappy]

Hi Steffie!

I have been TTC for 20 months now...no success so far. I know how you feel, and I also know that feeling as all of my friends and co-workers (as lovely and supportive as they are) are all either pregnant, or have had their babies. I'm starting to feel like I no longer want to share my struggles with them, I feel kind of a downer at times.

So I joined here to find others who are struggling to conceive. Keep trying...thats all I can say...have a cry when you need to, and keep trying. I try to stay positive and happy, but sometime those tears come at odd and embarressing times..and thats ok too.

My husband and I have been told we are "unexplained infertility"...although I do have Stage 1 Endometriosis. We are now on Letrozole to aid in extra ovulation...have faith that one day your turn to be a mummy will come...I have to believe that otherwise I wouldn't keep trying. Hope that helps!!! I'm sending some "baby dust" your way!

KeepinHappy

 

[RCAFWife]

So how have you ladies been? Haven't found a doc yet, and I'm still waiting on CD 1 to start the next cycle!

 

[Mrs.Stinski]

Can I join you ladies?? Dh and I have been ttcing for 34 months, resulting in 2 angel babies. Im 29 and hubby is 32. He has 2 children from a previous marriage but they live in a different state so we dont see them much. I have PCOS and stage 1 endo so we are on metformin and femara to make me ovulate.

I often wonder how much longer I can keep going at this, but then I remember that I only have so many years that I can keep trying before its not even an option anymore so I carry on. This current cycle is my first since my ectopic in March. We were forced to take 3 months off due to methotrexate because of the ectopic. Not feeling very optimistic this month, seems like everything has gone wrong, so we will see.

Almost every day someone new tells me they are pregnant. My sister in law in on her 2nd since Ive been trying, same goes for my assistant at work..also on her 2nd now. All of my friends are pregnant now or have had a baby within a year. My step-sister just found out she is pregnant too....all around me, I tell ya!!

We can get through this together!!! Support is so important in situations like these!

 

[RCAFWife]

So true, support is crucial! Welcome Mrs Stinski, good luck for your BFP soon I am still waiting to see a doc to determine what's wrong with DH and I and our fertility...The regular GP said I am fine and DH's SA was within normal ranges, but I want another opinion.

 

[lilyV]

I often wonder how much longer I can keep going at this, but then I remember that I only have so many years that I can keep trying before its not even an option anymore so I carry on. This current cycle is my first since my ectopic in March. We were forced to take 3 months off due to methotrexate because of the ectopic. Not feeling very optimistic this month, seems like everything has gone wrong, so we will see.

You're so right... DH was wondering today what we're going to do if clomid doesn't work. I said we'd probably either increase the dosage or get fertility monitoring... for how long and when who knows? he doesn't want to adopt and insemination is $5000... bah.

 

[MalaMae]

I often wonder how much longer I can keep going at this, but then I remember that I only have so many years that I can keep trying before its not even an option anymore so I carry on. This current cycle is my first since my ectopic in March. We were forced to take 3 months off due to methotrexate because of the ectopic. Not feeling very optimistic this month, seems like everything has gone wrong, so we will see.

You're so right... DH was wondering today what we're going to do if clomid doesn't work. I said we'd probably either increase the dosage or get fertility monitoring... for how long and when who knows? he doesn't want to adopt and insemination is $5000... bah.

Hi LiliV, $5000 is IVF or IUI? Where are u in Canada?

 

[RCAFWife]

It's a lot of money for these procedures in Canada. In Ontario where I lived, health insurance wouldn't cover fertility treatments unless you had both blocked tubes, and then you'd only get a small percentage of coverage. For IVF when I looked it up, it was $10k a pop! At that rate, only filthy rich people could afford to make a biological child

 

[MalaMae]

It's a lot of money for these procedures in Canada. In Ontario where I lived, health insurance wouldn't cover fertility treatments unless you had both blocked tubes, and then you'd only get a small percentage of coverage. For IVF when I looked it up, it was $10k a pop! At that rate, only filthy rich people could afford to make a biological child

Yup, Ontario is $10K. I know people would take line of credits for IVF. One IUI is $350 without the pills or injections. The injections are between $1500-2000 and they tell you u need 2 IUI's.