TTC #3 aged 42 decision time

[2011Maybebaby]

Ladies I posted this in a ttc forum but think you might understand better here. Ttc #3 on 4th cycle. Have two boys. just got af today. I'm at a crossroads at the moment though. IT took ages to decide to try for a 3rd and when we did I thought it would happen as quickly as the first two pregnancies. My age is the main factor. I'm 42 and would be 43 having a baby. We said we would try for just a few months. I don't know whether to say ok it's not going to happen and be lucky with the two I have. I'm sad thinking I'm out this month and then that's it. Has anyone else given themselves a timeframe like this?

 

[Ziggy2]

We are in a similar situation made the decision to TTC but have put a time limit on it, I don't want a big age gap between my youngest and our final baby so we have said try till the end of the year and then stop, but if that actually comes around and I'm not pregnant by then I'm not sure how I will feel. If you think you'll regret stopping TTC I would keep going for a bit, you only get one life!

 

[vix1972]

Perhaps not have a stop date have a review date instead? We never said we would actually give up just that we started to focus on other aspects of our lives. We did say that when we hit 45 we would have a serious discussion as that was our 'make or break' age that we had set.

 

[Classic Girl]

I'm TTC #3 at 42 with hopefully giving birth at 43! Come sit with me!

 

[CaliDreaming]

I'm on the 40+ TTC #3 bus too. I'll be 42 in September and we will start trying in November, which would put me just shy of 43 if we are successful.

 

[TJMYANGEL]

I'm 42 and will be 43 in November iv had 2 m/c 2007 then 2009 . I had ababy boy in 2010 but sadly he passed away after only 42minutes after birth , me and my husband have been trying since 2011 for our rainbow but sadly nothing happening we thought last month was our month as af was due the 26th june but nothing I did have what I thought was implantation on the 19th -22nd june as had brown cm with slight pink but iv tested since the 26th till today the1st july and all bfn I'm now scared I'm maybe going through the menopause and my chance to have our rainbow has gone feeling totally gutted as we were going to keep trying till I turned 43

 

[mitchnorm]

Just turned 43 in May...been ttc2 for two years. Have a 4 year old daughter who I fell pregnant with first month of ttc...I was 37!!!!

Had 3 CPs and 3mcs in the last 15 months and feeling a bit down and out. Keep saying we'llana put a time limit on it.....43 was ours but after a mc in April I sort of thought aaaaaah maybe it will happen.

 

[baseball_mom]

I'm TTC #3 at 37. (I have 2 children from a previous marriage, they are 14 and 9) My OH doesn't not have any children of his own so we have been trying for almost 2 years now. I had a chemical 2 months ago with was devastating but that the same time hopeful that I can get pregnant again after all. I have no issues getting pregnant with my 2 children, I realize it was with a different partner. Both my current OH and I have been tested and it is just unexplained infertility which is so frustrating. I would rather have a reason. We are currently off all meds. I was on clomid and IUI for a while but we wanted to take a break before moving to injectables. I had the chemical without meds so I'm hoping to get our sticky bean soon. We haven't talked about putting a time limit on trying to conceive but I'm honestly not sure how much more of the disappointment I can take. Baby dust to all!