TTC, 40, no kids, support?

[Frances317]

I was going to piggy back onto another thread, but some of them are pretty long and go back multiple years!

I put off TTC for a long time because I wasn't certain that I wanted kids (childhood abandonment issues). I feel like I finally worked through my issues, have a great husband, a job working from home, and everything is in place to finally take the plunge.

I got pregnant last year 1st month trying and then had a MC at 6 wks. The doctor said that I'm healthy and no reason why we couldn't try again. But I was afraid, the experience was so awful and scary, so I put off trying for about 8 months.

Now I'm on 4th month of TTC and nothing yet. I thought it would be so easy. I haven't been taking my temp, using ov kits, etc. I don't know very much about those things. I just assumed it would just...happen. But nothing so far and I'm feeling a little discouraged. I'm not due until June 18th and I've already had some bleeding this week, so if I *am* pregnant, am afraid that it's going to end in MC. Anyone else in the same boat?

 

[NewFlowers]

Hi i am so sorry for your loss A miscarriage is hard mentally emotionally and physically so i am sending lots of hugs your way.

You mentioned you have had a little bleed do you think it could be implant bleeding?

I hope so!

Wishing you all the luck in the world on your journey xxx

 

[Unlucky41]

Frances just giving you some hugs! Although we have one daughter it was after 5 ivf We did one fet and one ivf and which were unsuccessful. Doctor suggested for us to stop trying ivf as I retrieved no eggs last cycle. Not in your same situation but totally understand the pain and disappointment that comes with TTC

 

[Aayla]

I'm 38. Hubby and I started going to the doc 6 years ago because we knew I had PCOS and would need help. They found a different problem that took years to resolve. Last year we were able to full time ttc. I got pregnant using letrozole on my 3rd cycle. That ended in a mc last September. We have done 5 more cycles (this being the 5th after mc) and nothing. Although this one I am only 3dpo so it could go either way.

i thought it would happen within 3 cycles again as well. But there was lots of stress and emotional upheaval since Jan and I think that contributed. I'm not saying don't stress and it will happen. Oh man how I hate when people say that.

for you, with your age, I would think about charting. You may not be timing perfectly. Temping is pretty simple and it's the best way to know when you ovulated. It won't tell you when ovulation is approaching but that it already happened. Adding opk's to the mix doesn't hurt but I do advise getting the CB digi with smiley face. While more expensive it is easy to read. blank circle = negative. Smiley = positive.

But maybe temp for a cycle to figure out exactly what day you ovulate on so then you know when to start using the opk's.

Then if you still haven't gotten pregnant in 3 months with charting, it may be time to go back to the doc.

Wish you all the luck in the world. This TTC business sucks. I always wanted to be like my friends that have one drunken night and oops! lol

 

[fififa]

Hi, I am sorry to know about your losses. Infertility and its treatment can be an emotional rollercoaster and a difficult journey. But the final ability to hold a newborn child in your arms makes it all worthwhile. Good luck xx