TTC after 20 years...starting all over!

[hopefulwick]

I remarried & DH had his VR in April and we have been trying since the day he got the OK from the Dr. I'm 43 so the odds do not appear to be in our favor. We have faith in God's timing though and are hopeful that a baby is in His plan for us. Glad I found this thread! I have been feeling so alone in our adventure as we have not told ANYONE!

 

[LLbean]

I remarried & DH had his VR in April and we have been trying since the day he got the OK from the Dr. I'm 43 so the odds do not appear to be in our favor. We have faith in God's timing though and are hopeful that a baby is in His plan for us. Glad I found this thread! I have been feeling so alone in our adventure as we have not told ANYONE!

I'm still trying...still no luck... we may have to do donor egg which I was hoping not to but...

 

[hopefulwick]

Thank you so much MommyJill...don't know how many people here may be attempting this as well or not but thought I would put it out there just in case.

it feels right, I even included it on my visualization board and all ;-) And hoping this time to raise a child WITH my husband... My daughter who is now 20, I had to pretty much raise on my own. Her dad and I split up before she was 2 and I took it from there...24/7 ...lots of work but worth it now that she is out if the dreadful teen years lol. Can't complain really, I mostly suffered that from 16 to 18 and then she moved out and now she is back to loving me and being a great friend.

Hi! I just found this site last night and I am totally engrossed with all the great conversations. It's so encouraging vs what I read on the Internet about the odds. I can't get over how much I can relate to this post! My daughter is now 20 and her Dad and I divorced when she was 18 months. Wow. I remarried last summer and DH has 2 from a previous marriage. We really want one of our own. He had a VR in April and we are TTC. Both over 40 but very healthy, I am still struggling with every month that passes with a BFN. This thread was so encouraging for me. thanks!

 

[hopefulwick]

We are both committed to doing this naturally. Some days I wonder if that makes the heartache over a BFN even worse. A tiny piece of my heart feels like going for extra help since we've been through the VR already, but we agreed...no intervention. Is it wrong of me to be having second thoughts about considering some "help"?

 

[LLbean]

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I wish you the best of luck

 

[hopefulwick]

So, in an effort to do what can be done naturally to hopefully increase our odds, I take Maca every day, and am eating buckwheat groats for breakfast each day and tons of chia and hemp hearts along with a well balanced, very healthy diet. I put hemp hearts and chia on my & DH's salad every day that he/I take to work. Also taking a super multi vitamin from my natural path Dr. Hopefully I'm helping a bit. Ever tried Maca? I read it's great for CM. Last month, I could hardly believe the improvement! We are on the "every other day" schedule which is hard for us (being newly married) but we are committed to trying. Anything else I should look into to support the natural preference?

 

[LLbean]

my CM is great now too...

 

[hopefulwick]

We are both quite healthy eaters so that's good. What's chiro? Is it also natural? I have been using an OPK 2x a day for the past 2 days like a total freak and all negative so far. As near as I can tell I should O tomorrow but the CM doesn't seem to be indicative of that. Tomorrow is a new day. DH is on nights so we BD right away when he gets home in the AM, which is fun! We'll see!

 

[LLbean]

Chiro is Chiropractor lol

 

[hopefulwick]

Oh my...that's funny. You know, I am trying so hard to grasp all the TTC lingo, sometimes I miss a few.

 

[hopefulwick]

So, we did the BD yesterday morning and I had negative OPK yesterday morning & evening. This morning OPK was negative and today was a "skip BD" day, but tonight, OPK shows positive. DH is working nights so we can't BD til tomorrow morning. Will we miss our "window"??? How much time do we have??

 

[LLbean]

Sperm can last a few days in the right environment so you should be good

 

[LLbean]

Plus if you showed positive it takes 12 to 36 hours I believe from the first positive to actual ovulation so just don't stress and BD when you see him

 

[LLbean]

Found this online
Once you receive a positive result, you may consider yourself at peak fertility! Therefore, with a positive OPK, commence the 'baby dance'. In fact, you should make love the day of the first positive, as well as the following 3 days (to be on the safe side). A positive OPK typically suggests that you will ovulate soon. Sperm can survive in a woman's body for a number of days, so lovemaking should take place so the sperm can be present when the egg descends down the fallopian tube. In sum:

• If you receive a positive result on an OPK, you are at your highest fertility level.
• A positive ovulation test tells you that that ovulation will occur within the next 12-36 hours. Time to make love.
• Make love the day your get your positive result, and over the following 3 days. Yes, this is sex on demand, but that's why there is Pre-Seed!
• Consider BBT charting as a way to confirm ovulation through the body temperature increase that takes place following ovulation (due to the rise in progesterone).
• If your partner has sperm count issues, talk to your doctor about how to time intercourse and determine the right frequency for sex.

 

[hopefulwick]

...and now...the 2week wait...what's your favorite way to busy yourself during this time?

 

[LLbean]

well its the holidays so that helps LOL

 

[hopefulwick]

So speaking of that, I'll be about 7dpo on Christmas. Cocktails, or no, to celebrate with the family? Thoughts?

 

[hopefulwick]

Question...I am 9dpo and am having quite a bit of milky yellowish cm. I haven't had this before so am curious what could be going on? It's not like a yeast infection (no irritation it itching) but I keep running to the bathroom thinking I got my period. ???
Thoughts?

 

[LLbean]

don't drive yourself crazy lol...it could be a good sign...but symptom spotting is the devil some times hehehe

 

[hopefulwick]

Ugh...