TTC after 20 years...starting all over!

[LLbean]

Hehehe just a few more days, hang in there

 

[hopefulwick]

I'm totally paranoid about symptoms. These last 4 days my face is really flushed & hot but my body temp seems normal. WTH! I eat a ton of fiber and am patheticly regular but yesterday, the constipation and gas has set in. Totally weird. It's funny how every cycle I find something like that to zero in on in an effort to convince myself that I am coming up on a BFP. I even had a dream we were having twins lastnight. Oh -the roller coaster continues.

 

[LLbean]

when are you testing?

 

[hopefulwick]

Tested yesterday with a dollar store test. BFN. Started spotting lastnight. Definitely starting AF today. I'm out.
And so, the cycle begins again...
How about you? Anything happening? I have a friend who just had a baby at 46 and conceived naturally so I am still full of hope.

 

[hopefulwick]

BTW, who is the absolutely gorgeous baby in your profile pic? Is that yours? She is beautiful!

 

[LLbean]

Hehehe no that's the baby I want although mine was beautiful too

We must be in sync as I started AF for the new year too...oh well, new year new hope. Love that your friend conceived naturally at that age, here's hoping!

 

[hopefulwick]

Here we are on the edge of my fertile window. Looking forward to the next few weeks. Weird little fact...my gums started bleeding when I brushed my teeth this morning. Weird. I can tell I'm about to ovulate though so that's a plus!��
LLBean, how are things?

 

[LLbean]

i started taking Vitex Elixir for women (found it at Whole Foods the band is Gaia Herbs) and I think it's doing something...will know more as the cycle ends this month...but seems I "may" be having a normal length cycle again...here's hoping!

https://www.amazon.com/Vitex-Elixir-Gaia-Herbs-Liquid/dp/B002GOBPES

 

[hopefulwick]

I've not hear about that one. Will have to read up on it. At first glance, it seems like its good for curbing symptoms of menopause. I'm still taking maca capsules daily. It does help even out the hormones. I can tell a difference in CM too.
Praying for a blessing!

 

[hopefulwick]

Question: When calculating DPO, do you count from the day your OPK reads + or do you start counting after it stops reading +? I usually can get 2-3 days worth of + before a - and I am just not sure how to count the days from O to figure out the real length of my luteal phase. I read that the luteal phase should be longer than 10 days in order for the implantation to "stick". Is there something that can lengthen that phase if mine is only about 11 days usually? Chaste Berry? Is that what you are taking LLBean? Hope you're well!

 

[LLbean]

supposedly once you get a positive OPK you need to stop and usually charts mark you as ovulating the next day...it's an estimate I guess as based on what they say after the positive opk it can take between 12 and 36 hours to actually ovulate, so once you get the positive just go at it for about 3 days straight if you can and that way you cover your bases, but the idea is that sperm can last up to 5 days even at times inside of you in the rigt conditions so its best to have the swimmers in there already just waiting for the egg to show up

Have you ever used Fertility Friend? here is my charts there https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3451a9

 

[hopefulwick]

Thanks for the great info! I went out of town last weekend so we BD on Tuesday & Thursday before I left. I got a positive OPK on Friday and again Saturday. We Bd Sunday when I got home. We'll see...I read up on luteal phases and I've been averaging 10-11 days so I started taking B6 today. I read that it helps with lengthening that part of the cycle. Also we have both started on CoQ10 as I read it is good for spermies and also egg quality. I figure if we get a BFN this time, maybe with these 2 supplements we will have better luck next month.

I'll have to check out Fertility friend. Is there a fee to use it. I currently use an app called Ovia. Seems to work ok. I like having it on my phone for convenience. Is there an Ap for Fertility Friend? Oh what am I saying. Of course there must be...there's an app for everything. Ha! stay well!

 

[LLbean]

Yes there is an app hehehe....there are paid versions as well as a free version...with the paid version (which is really not much) you get to see more stuff on your chart and gives you more options of course. Go check it out and see. Follow my link to mine and there you should be able to try it... On the upper left corner it says sign up free I believe

 

[hopefulwick]

Well, here is my update. The addition of B-6 seems to be working. I gained 1.5 days on my LP. However, because I was "late", I got all flustered about possible BFP only to get tackled by the witch lastnight ��. I'll keep taking the B-6 next cycle and see how the LP charts out. Hubby and I are both taking CoQ10 in the AM every day now (400mg). So fx for next cycle.

 

[LLbean]

Good luck

 

[hopefulwick]

LLBean, How are things going? Just wondering if the Vitex Elixir is working out for you? Seeing any changes? I hope you are well.

 

[LLbean]

Yes on CD1 today which means my last cycle was 27 days! I was at 24 for a long while... Let's see if it was a fluke or the real deal with this new cycle. How are you doing?

 

[dillydally]

hi. its good to see im not alone in this journey, I am also trying again after a 20 year age gap and you story seems very similar.

 

[LLbean]

welcome to the jungle ;-)

 

[hopefulwick]

Sorry it's been so long since I posted. LLbean- so glad to hear that you got a longer LF. That's very encouraging.
DillyDally -welcome! Have you just started trying again? Yes, it's a tough spot to be in. Always a great place to vent and share concerns or ask questions. We are all in the same boat!
Good luck!