TTC and Beyond!

[TTCaWee1]

Isn't this adorable?? I think it's for jewelry but I'm going to use it for hair bows instead of the one I made 😁

 

[Cowgirl07]

So cute.

 

[frsttimemama]

And here are my pretty pink lines from this morning. I'm out of tests so no more peeing on sticks.

On another note, Hubby is ready to spill the beans on facebook. I'm considering it. I know it's early, but we shared early last time and everything was fine until the end..

 

[frsttimemama]

Rachel, that's adorable! Love love love!

 

[asmcsm]

Omg Rachel that would be perfect for lux's room. I'm going owl crazy.

I talked to my mom, I think she'll come around and be supportive of my sister. Mostly she just hates to see my sister putting herself in the situation of being a single mother because she has been for the last 20years and just wants better for us. She doesn't want us to struggle the way she did. My mom doesn't really take termination lightly, she's had 2, the first was before me when she was 16 because she had been sick and wasn't keeping her birth control pills down and got pregnant so even though she tried to prevent it, it happened anyway. The second was a situation after my sister in which her and my dad were separated and he forced himself on her. I'm the only one that she's told because she's embarrassed to tell people about them, but I think she's only suggested it to my sister because she wants more for my sister than the struggle of a single mom.

 

[jury3]

Rachel-So cute!

Sandy-If you feel comfortable sharing, then I say go for it!

So, I've been going through my coupons and such from registries and such. I know we've talked about the free slings at sevenslings and a few other things before. Today I ordered baby leggings and a carseat cover and only paid shipping. Everytime you buy something they give you another code for free things on their sister websites. The items are free, you just pay $12 for shipping. I'm assuming more than one person can use the code. I actually ordered 2 free carseat covers using different codes. Then I went in to order another set of baby leggings and put in all the same info, I don't think it would have stopped me...So here are the codes:

Use "LEGGINGS" at:
carseatcanopy.com
sevenslings.com
uddercovers.com
nursingpillow.com
breastpads.com
bellybuttonband.com

and you can use "CARSEAT" at:
babyleggings.com

 

[frsttimemama]

I'm glad you think she's going to come around. Your sister will definitely need the support.

 

[jury3]

Ashlee-I totally get that, of course she wants what's best for your sister!...I hope she realizes what a wonderful thing came out of you two girls though and that it will be the same for your sister, even though it won't be easy. I'm sure she'll come around. If either of them need any guidance in the situation, they should just watch Knocked Up. lol Her mom suggested she get an abortion, but in the end she loved that baby. I realize it's a movie, but still...lol

 

[HWPG]

Is it ok or weird that I don't want those things......? I mean, I think they're lovely, I love all the patterns, but I feel so.... Out of the club..... If I say those things aren't for me.... Can we still be friends if I just want a hippie baby in a burlap diaper who sleeps in a drawer?

 

[frsttimemama]

Lol Mirolee!! You can have whatever you want for your baby! We can still be friends. It takes alllll kinds!!

 

[jury3]

Lol Mirolee, you can have or not have whatever you want! I'm not getting all those things, but I did get the carseat covers. We will have 2 sets now bc a friend made us some too. I also got the baby leggings...I couldn't resist bc they are so freaking cute!

I have to say I did go a bit crazy today and this past weekend...We used target gift cards to order more crib sheets, bought some outfits at goodwill, used a gift card to buy outfits at babies r us, ordered the free baby leggings, ordered the carseat covers, ordered a stethoscope (to listen to babies), ordered the free trial items from the Honest company and we found a Macy's gift card that I keep forgetting we have...it had a little over $100 on it! So, I totally hit up the clearance and got some super cheap outfits and ordered a few other things. I can't wait for all these packages to come! lol I love that I didn't spend much of my own money on these things though! I might need to calm down for a few days....or weeks...

 

[asmcsm]

Ok, I'm trying to be supportive of my sister and I do think she'll be okay as a single mom, but I'm now starting to get a little annoyed thinking about the fact that my cousins baby is due 5 weeks after mine then my sisters a couple months after that...I just wanted lux to get the chance of being the only tiny baby around for a while. It's also just frustrating that they both got pregnant on accident and I had to try for 9 months. Am I totally out of line here? I just wanted her to get te chance to be the center of attention longer than one month when another baby comes around

 

[wavescrash]

I threw together these 4 things to print out for my baby shower games and figured I'd share them here. I wanted to do something different than the typical shower games (i.e. Bingo, guess how big mom's belly is with a piece of yarn, can't say the word "baby", etc.)

 

[frsttimemama]

Julie, that's the best kind of shopping, where you don't have to spend much of your own money! Sounds super fun! I've looked at those carseat covers.. I wasn't really sure if it was a legitimate deal so I didn't do it. I might this time around though.

Waves, those look neat! I HATED the "Guess how big mom's belly is game".. ugh! Yes, I know I'm ginormous, thanks for reminding me it takes 2098234098 squares of toilet paper to go around it.. Lol

Ash, I know what you mean. It's SO frustrating how some people can just get pregnant with no problem accidently while the rest of us have to work so hard at it. I don't feel like you're totally out of line feeling that way. I'm sorry things didn't work out like you had hoped.

I definitely could use a caffeine IV. I'm already not sleeping all that great. I don't know why though. I'm thinking I'm going to have to give up to stay up with my hubby. I get up an hour and a half before him. I need more sleep. Or nap time during the day, but since that's not going to happen, I'm just going to have to try to get to bed earlier I think. I'm exhausted. I know it's just this first tri fatigue. I'm okay with it because it's the only pregnancy symptom I have.. just struggling!

 

[HWPG]

ashlee, i COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from. last year when we were actively tryinig and my sister got pregnant, i was in tears - not just because she got pregnant, but becuase i wanted that special time for my baby to be "the baby of the family" - and i felt jipped. but then i talked with my mom about it (lots of insecurities over here re: "where will my baby fit in our family if we already love my niece and nephew so much, there's no room") and she said, "the heart grows. there will never not be room or space for any child, and your child will be as special and loved as the ones we already have" (which promptly brought me to tears). so, i promise, no matter what other babies are around, Lux will have a special place in everyone's heart. and she'll get double the snuggle from you and OH on the days you feel like maybe she didnt get all the attention you wanted her to get.
on a related note, i'm sorry for your sister's situation but may i ask (and please put me in place if this is over the line): why was she having unprotected sex? i feel like if i were in your shoes i'd be more frustrated over the fact that there are ways to avoid these situations - and i'm not advocating for termination, i'm just sayin, maybe there was a different choice she could have made? (this is NOT an attack on your sister!) i just wonder about these things - we live in a country that has bc readily available, yet these surprises happen. perhaps i am far too jaded..... forgive me if i've mis-stepped.....

 

[morganwhite7]

Ash- I also 110% feel ya on that one.. I find out I'm preggo and 2 of DH's family members (who are bartenders, one still smokes heavily, and neither planning to include babydaddy..) pop up pregnant 2 months later. They're both due August 20th.. but wtf now Marley will be 4 mos old and there will be 2 brand new babies and I feel like they'll steal her shine (even though that is SO silly, but I can't help it!). They were both one night stands, and I bet you one of them will have a boy and that will break my heart even worse.. so yeah I totally feel you on this lol. I can't even believe they both were that stupid.. still living with random family members (they're 22 and 32) and doing this to a child. Like really, wear a condom!? Idk who does that anyways with some random guy, but w/e it is what it is. At least I can feel good about MY family situation, and for my baby having 2 loving parents. My in-laws infuriate me lolol.

Almost 3rd trimester and I'm starting to get so anxious.. 92 days til c-section/induction. Oh my it's getting too real!

 

[wavescrash]

Waves, those look neat! I HATED the "Guess how big mom's belly is game".. ugh! Yes, I know I'm ginormous, thanks for reminding me it takes 2098234098 squares of toilet paper to go around it.. Lol

Aw thanks. They're not as decorative as I'd like but I figured simple works too lol. Plus it was going on 3am and I just wanted to finish and get to sleep. I don't mind people thinking I'm huge (they tend to use too little in fear of offending you anyway lol), I just hate standing there while everyone comes up and basically hugs me while everyone else sits around chattering loudly, obviously bored lol.

 

[asmcsm]

ashlee, i COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from. last year when we were actively tryinig and my sister got pregnant, i was in tears - not just because she got pregnant, but becuase i wanted that special time for my baby to be "the baby of the family" - and i felt jipped. but then i talked with my mom about it (lots of insecurities over here re: "where will my baby fit in our family if we already love my niece and nephew so much, there's no room") and she said, "the heart grows. there will never not be room or space for any child, and your child will be as special and loved as the ones we already have" (which promptly brought me to tears). so, i promise, no matter what other babies are around, Lux will have a special place in everyone's heart. and she'll get double the snuggle from you and OH on the days you feel like maybe she didnt get all the attention you wanted her to get.
on a related note, i'm sorry for your sister's situation but may i ask (and please put me in place if this is over the line): why was she having unprotected sex? i feel like if i were in your shoes i'd be more frustrated over the fact that there are ways to avoid these situations - and i'm not advocating for termination, i'm just sayin, maybe there was a different choice she could have made? (this is NOT an attack on your sister!) i just wonder about these things - we live in a country that has bc readily available, yet these surprises happen. perhaps i am far too jaded..... forgive me if i've mis-stepped.....

Mirolee, you're asking the same question my whole family is asking her. My mom and gma both told her repeatedly to get on birth control after she and her fiancé split up because we all know that my sister is a lot like my dad and doesn't keep it in her pants. And my sister has a history of being irresponsible about making sure her and her partners are protected, though the only other time she got pregnant the guy was her fiancé so situation was a little different. My gma and I are starting to wonder if my sister just got baby fever since myself and my cousin are both pregnant. We both knew that if she got pregnant again she would never terminate, which is why my gma begged her to get on bc.

But on another note, my aunt was over last night and mentioned that my cousin had the pill and apparently gave her bf the option on whether or not she should take it...seriously? It's your body and you already know that he's a shitty father to the 6 month old you have together so why give HIM the choice? Well now she's pregnant too, with her second, due July 28th, her son's first bday is July 31st. Oh and did I mention the bf just kicked her out of his house for good? Yea that happened...and he's trying to get her to agree to only $200 child support and then $400 for both when the second is born....uhhh we live in CA, my husband spends $600 a month in child support for ONE kid, take his ass to court!

 

[HWPG]

oh my gosh, ashlee, youre surrounded my drama your extended family sounds like a soap opera and youre caught in the middle!
i still stand by what my mom said - Lux's place in the family is secure
omg, gals, NT/12 weeks scan in less than 3 hours! soooooo so so excited to see what little creature is making my pants so tight and giving me heart burn! and then announcing on THURSDAY. (did i mention excited?!?!??!) squeeee! fair warning: i will spamming with u/s pictures later

 

[Cowgirl07]

Yay us pictures.
Ashlee I get where your coming from. Not from family thank goodness just from friends. But lux has you and your Dh who already want and love her so much. It might be hard for you to see the other cousins born but she will never know anything different.