TTCaWee1
New Mommy to Ellie
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So I have by far had the worst day of my life. You all know about my cat. And thank you for all the kind words. I am an emotional mess. Especially bc I just got home and it is so quiet and I didn't get greeted at the door by a hungry cat rubbing my leg and meowing....
Anyways - I had a horrible experience at the OB. Waves I totally get why you prefer to see your doc...So I went in to have my ultrasound at 3 at one office, then I was supposed to go to the other office to see my OB bc they couldn't coordinate the times. Well my OB's daughter went into labor so he had to leave the office to go be with her. Thats fine, I totally get it. So I agreed to just stay at the first office and see a different OB. Had my ultrasound - went really well...got to see little Ellie who is approx 4lb 4oz and is measuring around 33 weeks. Got to see her little face and her big lips. Also she has hair! Then to the shitty part. Seeing a different Dr. They diagnosed me with polyhydramnios - measuring 28 cm of fluid (normal is under 22). She first asks me if I have GD and then if I am sure that I don't have it....then tells me that the poly is an indicator for downs syndrome and asked if I had any testing done. I tell her that my regular OB told me that everything was "perfect." She says well thats only 85% accurate and "Ill have to look at the numbers." Then I tell her, I have had a horrible day, please don't tell me something is wrong. So she proceeds to tell me that most of the time it is idiopathic and "your baby looks great." Then she goes on and on about how big she is and how small I am and that my fundal height is at 34 weeks not 30 bc of the poly and blah fucking blah blah. Meanwhile I am crying my eyes out bc she's trying to convince me that my baby has downs. Then she says well I have many patients with this and their babies have turned out fine. Said that sometimes you can go back 15 minutes later and have different fluid levels. I honestly wanted to punch her. Then she checks my cervix and shes like Oh well this is good - your cervix is nice and closed and thick, and wow that baby sure is moving in there......all while her arm is shoved up my vag - which she told me in the beginning that I could push a 9lb baby out of and that my OB wouldn't schedule a C-section without doing another scan at 37 weeks to make sure it's really necessary......So she tells me to get dressed and come into her office and she would go over the quad screen numbers with me that I was told were "perfect." She said that based on my age, my risk for downs was 1:658, give or take a few. Based on my screening, my risk was 1:610 so "higher risk." This bitch wanted to convince me that there is something horribly wrong. So I said, well Dr. Osborne told us that we would see something on our anatomy scan if there was something wrong with her.....and she says, oh yeah well you don't have any of those soft markers at all...SO WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO CONVINCE ME SOMETHING IS WRONG?????? That is the part that bothers me the most. She doesn't know me at all. She should have looked at my record to see that I have had a big baby all along. My fundal height is always on the larger side. Don't you think that if my regular OB was concerned about something that he would have brought it up sooner? And what business is it of hers to scare the shit out of another Dr's patient without first consulting that Dr? So I have to go back for another scan in 2 weeks to measure the amniotic fluid. And she made sure to point out that they would NOT be measuring the baby again bc they did that today but that at least I'd get to see her again....I said to her so I just have to sit around for 2 weeks and wait without hearing from my Dr.? "Oh, well I'll email him and let him know whats going on so that he's aware...." FML. I am so over today. I am going to give him a few days to get back to work then call and talk to him directly.
I hope I haven't offended anyone by not posting much. I have just been working a lot and dealing with my sick cat. I read every post but don't always respond to everyone. I do try though but it's hard to do at work since I am always so busy.
Anyways - I had a horrible experience at the OB. Waves I totally get why you prefer to see your doc...So I went in to have my ultrasound at 3 at one office, then I was supposed to go to the other office to see my OB bc they couldn't coordinate the times. Well my OB's daughter went into labor so he had to leave the office to go be with her. Thats fine, I totally get it. So I agreed to just stay at the first office and see a different OB. Had my ultrasound - went really well...got to see little Ellie who is approx 4lb 4oz and is measuring around 33 weeks. Got to see her little face and her big lips. Also she has hair! Then to the shitty part. Seeing a different Dr. They diagnosed me with polyhydramnios - measuring 28 cm of fluid (normal is under 22). She first asks me if I have GD and then if I am sure that I don't have it....then tells me that the poly is an indicator for downs syndrome and asked if I had any testing done. I tell her that my regular OB told me that everything was "perfect." She says well thats only 85% accurate and "Ill have to look at the numbers." Then I tell her, I have had a horrible day, please don't tell me something is wrong. So she proceeds to tell me that most of the time it is idiopathic and "your baby looks great." Then she goes on and on about how big she is and how small I am and that my fundal height is at 34 weeks not 30 bc of the poly and blah fucking blah blah. Meanwhile I am crying my eyes out bc she's trying to convince me that my baby has downs. Then she says well I have many patients with this and their babies have turned out fine. Said that sometimes you can go back 15 minutes later and have different fluid levels. I honestly wanted to punch her. Then she checks my cervix and shes like Oh well this is good - your cervix is nice and closed and thick, and wow that baby sure is moving in there......all while her arm is shoved up my vag - which she told me in the beginning that I could push a 9lb baby out of and that my OB wouldn't schedule a C-section without doing another scan at 37 weeks to make sure it's really necessary......So she tells me to get dressed and come into her office and she would go over the quad screen numbers with me that I was told were "perfect." She said that based on my age, my risk for downs was 1:658, give or take a few. Based on my screening, my risk was 1:610 so "higher risk." This bitch wanted to convince me that there is something horribly wrong. So I said, well Dr. Osborne told us that we would see something on our anatomy scan if there was something wrong with her.....and she says, oh yeah well you don't have any of those soft markers at all...SO WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO CONVINCE ME SOMETHING IS WRONG?????? That is the part that bothers me the most. She doesn't know me at all. She should have looked at my record to see that I have had a big baby all along. My fundal height is always on the larger side. Don't you think that if my regular OB was concerned about something that he would have brought it up sooner? And what business is it of hers to scare the shit out of another Dr's patient without first consulting that Dr? So I have to go back for another scan in 2 weeks to measure the amniotic fluid. And she made sure to point out that they would NOT be measuring the baby again bc they did that today but that at least I'd get to see her again....I said to her so I just have to sit around for 2 weeks and wait without hearing from my Dr.? "Oh, well I'll email him and let him know whats going on so that he's aware...." FML. I am so over today. I am going to give him a few days to get back to work then call and talk to him directly.
I hope I haven't offended anyone by not posting much. I have just been working a lot and dealing with my sick cat. I read every post but don't always respond to everyone. I do try though but it's hard to do at work since I am always so busy.
