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Thanks ladies-I don't think it helped that my soon to be catholic priest cousin put something on facebook about Natural family planning being they only way to prevent and get pregnant.
 
Julie, I'm wondering the same thing. I hope little miss Ellie isn't making an early appearance!

Katrina, I'm sorry. Thats poor timing :(
 
Katrina, I sure hope you don't believe that...You can't tell me that everyone who has ever used clomid or had IVF was not meant to have children. If those babies weren't meant to be, wouldn't god stop them from being?
I just really hate things like that. My friend was telling me the other day that this crazy, super religious lady we worked with was saying that I have demon babies bc I'm in a sam-sex relationship. lol
 
No I do not, and I rarely voice my opinion on facebook but I did this time. I just said natural family planning doesn't work for everyone. Whether they are trying to get pregnant or trying to prevent. Sometimes hormonal or non hormonal help is needed and it is a decision the women have to make for themselves.
 
jury3 said:
Katrina, I sure hope you don't believe that...You can't tell me that everyone who has ever used clomid or had IVF was not meant to have children. If those babies weren't meant to be, wouldn't god stop them from being?
I just really hate things like that. My friend was telling me the other day that this crazy, super religious lady we worked with was saying that I have demon babies bc I'm in a sam-sex relationship. lol
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I'm sorry to laugh, but I actually just lol'd. Who ever thinks that any child is a "demon baby", regardless of where they came from, should keep their opinions to themselves, in my opinion! how rude.
 
Good for you! That is one way of thinking I will just never understand. Do they also believe that we shouldn't use any medicines or medical interventions for anything? Oh well, I'm glad you don't believe it. IF (notice I said IF) you need a little help, there is nothing wrong with that. We gotta do, what we gotta do!
 
Mirolee, that sounds wonderful! I hope you get some movement soon! My plans for the evening include a couple loads of laundry, dishes, paying bills, and making dinner before passing out in my chair . We are having hamburgers, baked potatoes, and asparagus for dinner (hubby's request -- the asparagus is for me, he doesn't like it.) I haven't been feeling hamburgers since being pregnant, but I'll make them for him. Just tryin to get as much done as I can since I'm going to be working crazy amounts of hours the rest of the week and all weekend, too.. and probably for the next couple of weeks really. Ugh.

Julie, that's awful and that crazy lady should be ashamed of herself!! Glad your appointment went well.

Katrina, I'm SO sorry you feel that way. If it's any worth to you, I can completely relate. I felt TOTALLY guilty and broken because I was the one with the problem whose stuff didn't work like it should. I felt awful because I couldn't give my husband the baby we both wanted so badly. We didn't know it. He married broken goods. He was stuck with me. When they told me I had PCOS and may never have kids, as bad as I hated it, I offered him an out right then and there.. and he told me I was nuts, that he wasn't going anywhere, that we were in this together and we would have kids, even if we had to adopt. And I miraculously got pregnant a couple months later! Then when we lost our son at full term, it was even worse for me because I was the one whose body didn't make things right and let him die. I didn't protect him and take care of him like a mama should no matter how hard I tried. I still carry that guilt to this day, and I always will. I remember laying there while they were getting me ready for my C-section, crossing my legs and squeezing them as tight as I could, thinking and praying that somehow, that would make a difference for him. But as we all know it didn't. And it couldn't and wouldn't. These are definitely some of the worst feelings in the world, but trust me, you shouldn't feel guilty. There isn't anything to feel guilty for. Yes, I know that saying that makes me a hypocrite. I can't help it. In my mind, I know that it's not my fault that my stuff doesn't work right, and it's not my fault that things didn't form quite right and my son died. That doesn't mean that I don't still have the guilt. All I can do is reassure you that those feelings are normal, that you're not alone, and you can still have babies. You just need a little help. There is no shame in that whatsoever. I needed help, too. Your cousin is so rude. That's horrible of him to say that. I'm so sorry that he said that and hurt your feelings.

Nikki, I'm with Katrina.. and Amanda. Or maybe you could meet him for lunch somewhere so you have a way to leave since it's on neutral turf then?

So I just had a good cry pouring my heart out in my reply to Katrina. I never shared all of that with anyone. It's still so hard sometimes. Today has been 8 months already. It's so hard to believe. I wish I could hold him one more time. I was too afraid to hold him or touch him much in the hospital. I don't remember touching him when he was warm, only cold. My husband assures me I did, but I was so drugged up on morphine and anesthesia meds that the whole thing is fuzzy. It's just so damn hard sometimes. Sorry if I've grossed anyone out with that. And I'm terrified that it will happen again. Beyond terrified. This can fastfoward 30 weeks and that would be alright with me.
 
Your babies aren't demons babies either they are god's gift! I think his theory if god wants it to happen it will happen on its own. His family is very different from mine. He is a vegetarian, which drives my grandma nuts, and seem to live very sheltered life.
 
Amanda-lol This woman is seriously crazy. She's as crazy as those Westboro Baptist people. My poor friend has to hitch a ride to work with her sometimes and she said she goes on and on about all this crazy stuff the whole time. She was one of my teacher's assistants last year and I actually had to tell her to get out of my classroom one time bc she was having a conversation about gay marriage. She made some really negative comments, I don't even remember what they are now. Not only did it piss me off bc of my life, but also bc we have kids who are gay and kids with gay parents. I could have punched her lol There should be a special place for people like that to go so they can all be crazy together and leave the rest of us alone!
 
Sandy-I am so sorry. Hugs sent your way. Thank you for your honest reply. I seriously offered my husband an out last night as well. I said if things don't work out or if we need more help then anticipated he can leave. He said he never would and he didn't marry me because I can have children, he married me because he couldn't imagine life with out me.
 
You are absolutely welcome. Doesn't that make you feel better when they tell you that? I am seriously here any time you need to talk. And thank you also.
 
Oh Sandy :( You can't blame yourself, there is nothing you could have done. I can't imagine how hard that must be though. I know I'm paranoid enough that something will happen and it will be my fault for not paying enough attention or something. I'm sure your paranoia is a few notches about mine :) I'm sure you and this baby will be fine though. Hang in there :hugs:

Katrina-That's so sweet! What a good hubby :)
 
I still have an hour left of work and I am SO tired. I got up at 5am to go work out, then went straight to work. I got here an hour and a half early (yay for OT!) but man, i'm beat. I'm going to spin straight after work again, too. I don't want to, but Its too late to cancel without being charged, and im too cheap to waste the $$. sigh. i can sleep when im dead :haha:

My ticker is off, I think I'm closer to 2dpo, not 1dpo, and I am ss like crazy. seriously someone tell me not to. theres NO point this early on. Its so strange knowing that there is a real chance of a bfp this cycle, even if i have mixed feelings around it.
 
I can't imagine how you must feel Amanda! FX for whatever outcome you'd like to have.
 
Julie- what did they give you? My doctor gave me fioricet for the headaches and I've taken it a few times.

Katrina- don't ever feel guilty Hun, you are making the effort and you'll have that bfp sooner than you think, I just know it!!

Sonia was supposed to send me a bump pic to post last week and she never did, ill have to bug her!

Also, Rachel is making me nervous!
 
I'm also anxious for some kind of update from Rachel!

Kara, how is Sonia?
 
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